ways to show someone u love how much u care and love her/him
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1) Always tell her/him how much u love and how much she/he means to you
2) Send sweet smses/voice msgs frequently
3) Always ask of her well-being
4) Surprise her with gifts and presents now and then
5) Compliment her/him on anything/everything (eg: looks, attitude, sports, clothes)
6) Everyday treat her as she is a princess
7) Always remember special dates/occasions (eg: annivasary, first kiss, birthday)
- Plan this occasion in advance and not last minute. Think of what she likes alone, and be romantic and original.
Follow her when she goes shopping (even for women's clothes) and don't stay outside the shop and wait. Be earnest and patient, and tell her your opinion on what looks good/doesn't suit her.
9) leave love notes/poems in her handbag/bag without her knowing
10) Don't give excuses when u make a mistake (eg: late for a date), but apologize and tell her how inconsiderate you are and that you'll never do it again.
11) Whenever you have an argument, try to be understanding and considerate, and NEVER bring up PAST mistakes that might help you prove your point/
12) Always be there for her when she has a problem or going through a tough time (eg: someone close died, studies isn't going to well), but give her enough space when she wants to be alone.
12) When she/he is sharing you her/his problems, sit quietly and patiently and hear them out. If you went through similar problems, share with her/him on how u felt and what u did to deal with it.
13) When she/he has alot of work/assignments to do, lend her/him a hand. (eg: help her/him in research, run an errand)
14) Everything you do, do it because you love her WITHOUT expecting something in return
15) NEVER pressure for sex. Respect her and her decision (This is especially for the guys
)
These are some of my ways, but if you wanna add in and share other ways pls do so. I hope this helps some of you shy ppl out there
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so can u manage to fullfill all tis?Originally posted by OrdinaryGuy:1) Always tell her/him how much u love and how much she/he means to you
2) Send sweet smses/voice msgs frequently
3) Always ask of her well-being
4) Surprise her with gifts and presents now and then
5) Compliment her/him on anything/everything (eg: looks, attitude, sports, clothes)
6) Everyday treat her as she is a princess
7) Always remember special dates/occasions (eg: annivasary, first kiss, birthday)
- Plan this occasion in advance and not last minute. Think of what she likes alone, and be romantic and original. Follow her when she goes shopping (even for women's clothes) and don't stay outside the shop and wait. Be earnest and patient, and tell her your opinion on what looks good/doesn't suit her.
9) leave love notes/poems in her handbag/bag without her knowing
10) Don't give excuses when u make a mistake (eg: late for a date), but apologize and tell her how inconsiderate you are and that you'll never do it again.
11) Whenever you have an argument, try to be understanding and considerate, and NEVER bring up PAST mistakes that might help you prove your point/
12) Always be there for her when she has a problem or going through a tough time (eg: someone close died, studies isn't going to well), but give her enough space when she wants to be alone.
12) When she/he is sharing you her/his problems, sit quietly and patiently and hear them out. If you went through similar problems, share with her/him on how u felt and what u did to deal with it.
13) When she/he has alot of work/assignments to do, lend her/him a hand. (eg: help her/him in research, run an errand)
14) Everything you do, do it because you love her WITHOUT expecting something in return
15) NEVER pressure for sex. Respect her and her decision (This is especially for the guys )
These are some of my ways, but if you wanna add in and share other ways pls do so. I hope this helps some of you shy ppl out there 
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hmmm.... not everyone can fulfill all these points...
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wah... so kang kor ah
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Ya.. guys of such kind either extinct liao or taken up.
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Wow, a tall order for me, I'd must say.Originally posted by OrdinaryGuy:1) Always tell her/him how much u love and how much she/he means to you
2) Send sweet smses/voice msgs frequently
3) Always ask of her well-being
4) Surprise her with gifts and presents now and then
5) Compliment her/him on anything/everything (eg: looks, attitude, sports, clothes)
6) Everyday treat her as she is a princess
7) Always remember special dates/occasions (eg: annivasary, first kiss, birthday)
- Plan this occasion in advance and not last minute. Think of what she likes alone, and be romantic and original. Follow her when she goes shopping (even for women's clothes) and don't stay outside the shop and wait. Be earnest and patient, and tell her your opinion on what looks good/doesn't suit her.
9) leave love notes/poems in her handbag/bag without her knowing
10) Don't give excuses when u make a mistake (eg: late for a date), but apologize and tell her how inconsiderate you are and that you'll never do it again.
11) Whenever you have an argument, try to be understanding and considerate, and NEVER bring up PAST mistakes that might help you prove your point/
12) Always be there for her when she has a problem or going through a tough time (eg: someone close died, studies isn't going to well), but give her enough space when she wants to be alone.
12) When she/he is sharing you her/his problems, sit quietly and patiently and hear them out. If you went through similar problems, share with her/him on how u felt and what u did to deal with it.
13) When she/he has alot of work/assignments to do, lend her/him a hand. (eg: help her/him in research, run an errand)
14) Everything you do, do it because you love her WITHOUT expecting something in return
15) NEVER pressure for sex. Respect her and her decision (This is especially for the guys )
These are some of my ways, but if you wanna add in and share other ways pls do so. I hope this helps some of you shy ppl out there
I haven't managed 4,7,8,9, 11, 14, and 15......
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lol @ silvergal & yixun
if you really love someone, all these are very easy to fullfill leh =/
tranquility - still got out there wan la, but nowadays ladies always look for a bf who is popular or good looking
outward appearences is not everything
lejabron, u pressure ure gf for sex??? wahhh
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Gers nowadays look for stylo-milo guy. Internal beauty is not an issue anymore.
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i sure know u had not courted a girl b4?Originally posted by OrdinaryGuy:1) Always tell her/him how much u love and how much she/he means to you
2) Send sweet smses/voice msgs frequently
3) Always ask of her well-being
4) Surprise her with gifts and presents now and then
5) Compliment her/him on anything/everything (eg: looks, attitude, sports, clothes)
6) Everyday treat her as she is a princess
7) Always remember special dates/occasions (eg: annivasary, first kiss, birthday)
- Plan this occasion in advance and not last minute. Think of what she likes alone, and be romantic and original. Follow her when she goes shopping (even for women's clothes) and don't stay outside the shop and wait. Be earnest and patient, and tell her your opinion on what looks good/doesn't suit her.
9) leave love notes/poems in her handbag/bag without her knowing
10) Don't give excuses when u make a mistake (eg: late for a date), but apologize and tell her how inconsiderate you are and that you'll never do it again.
11) Whenever you have an argument, try to be understanding and considerate, and NEVER bring up PAST mistakes that might help you prove your point/
12) Always be there for her when she has a problem or going through a tough time (eg: someone close died, studies isn't going to well), but give her enough space when she wants to be alone.
12) When she/he is sharing you her/his problems, sit quietly and patiently and hear them out. If you went through similar problems, share with her/him on how u felt and what u did to deal with it.
13) When she/he has alot of work/assignments to do, lend her/him a hand. (eg: help her/him in research, run an errand)
14) Everything you do, do it because you love her WITHOUT expecting something in return
15) NEVER pressure for sex. Respect her and her decision (This is especially for the guys )
These are some of my ways, but if you wanna add in and share other ways pls do so. I hope this helps some of you shy ppl out there
if so u had failed miserably?
Generally speaking, men pursue women.
Men court, women "play hard to get".
Men may be physically stronger, but just about everything they do with their "strengths" is ultimately centered around attracting a mate.
In other words, when a successful man who has worked hard all his life to become financially successful gets out of his private jet, jumps in his Ferrari, pulls up outside of a luxury hotel, and smiles at the hot 19 year old girl at the valet stand, she smiles back and
subconsciously thinks to herself "Amazing that he would go to all that trouble just to get my attention".
Yep, even with all of those "trappings" of
success, he's STILL the weaker one.
And they BOTH know it.
Ouch. Reality therapy.
In "Ideal Fantasy Land", we're all born equal.
But here in reality where most of us spend our days, MEN PURSUE WOMEN... and women are in control.
Men are, in fact, the WEAKER sex because of it.
THE PSYCHOLOGY OF THE WEAKER SEX
It's probably because u used to be the POSTER CHILD for the weak, Wussy, ass-kissing guy who wanted women's approval... and u've lived through so many painful situations with women that u should be given an honorary GOLD MEDAL in the sport.
My guess is that ur own weaknesses,insecurities, and failures with women freaked u out and wounded ur inner child so badly
that u had to become a dating guru just to overcompensate them.
Here's how I see this particular topic:
1) Everything that men strive to achieve is somehow connected to attracting a gal. Underneath it all, attracting women is at the core.
2) Men pursue women. They behave as if a single,attractive woman is a rare and valuable thing that deserves special attention. They carefully take every step as they pursue a woman because
they fear that she'll reject them.
3) Men are clearly obsessed with ultimately getting women "into bed". They give away much of their power in the hopes that it will help them "get laid".
4) Men believe that GETTING APPROVAL will ultimately give them a higher chance of HAVING SEX.
5) A man's powerful drive to ultimately have sex is his "Achilles Heel"... it's his greatest weakness... and most men allow it to
be used against them.
6) A woman INSTANTLY recognizes one of these men who lives in the FANTASY WORLD that I've just described. And women are NEVER attracted to men who want to hand over their power in
exchange for approval. -
cheers... dun give away ur love power...
make ur gal love u more, not by loving the gal more...
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Agree...
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i think i'll just be myself...
i don't like the thought of going all out just to chase a girl, and when you get her... you just take things for granted...
and later your partner will feel kinda cheated, why before that you can do so many extra stuff, and later in the relationship, like neglected...
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I believe guys and gals out there shoulg not pampered or over do it as it will lead to the following problems
1. The other party will "take things for granted" and expect U to maintain it. In the long run, it will cause lot of problems for the relationship
2. Just imagine the receiving party keep receiving the actions while the sending party keep doing it.... the sender will get tired of it and called it a day.
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*sigh* how i wish my bf can fulfill these points...Originally posted by OrdinaryGuy:1) Always tell her/him how much u love and how much she/he means to you
2) Send sweet smses/voice msgs frequently
3) Always ask of her well-being
4) Surprise her with gifts and presents now and then
5) Compliment her/him on anything/everything (eg: looks, attitude, sports, clothes)
6) Everyday treat her as she is a princess
7) Always remember special dates/occasions (eg: annivasary, first kiss, birthday)
- Plan this occasion in advance and not last minute. Think of what she likes alone, and be romantic and original. Follow her when she goes shopping (even for women's clothes) and don't stay outside the shop and wait. Be earnest and patient, and tell her your opinion on what looks good/doesn't suit her.
9) leave love notes/poems in her handbag/bag without her knowing
10) Don't give excuses when u make a mistake (eg: late for a date), but apologize and tell her how inconsiderate you are and that you'll never do it again.
11) Whenever you have an argument, try to be understanding and considerate, and NEVER bring up PAST mistakes that might help you prove your point/
12) Always be there for her when she has a problem or going through a tough time (eg: someone close died, studies isn't going to well), but give her enough space when she wants to be alone.
12) When she/he is sharing you her/his problems, sit quietly and patiently and hear them out. If you went through similar problems, share with her/him on how u felt and what u did to deal with it.
13) When she/he has alot of work/assignments to do, lend her/him a hand. (eg: help her/him in research, run an errand)
14) Everything you do, do it because you love her WITHOUT expecting something in return
15) NEVER pressure for sex. Respect her and her decision (This is especially for the guys )
These are some of my ways, but if you wanna add in and share other ways pls do so. I hope this helps some of you shy ppl out there 
4, 5, 6 -
one may be taken as a total fool ...
and may be taken for granted in the end ...
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i don't like to be taken for granted...
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Ordinaryguy> Ei if u happen to cum across such species.... rem to intro me ah.... haha.Originally posted by OrdinaryGuy:lol @ silvergal & yixun
if you really love someone, all these are very easy to fullfill leh =/
tranquility - still got out there wan la, but nowadays ladies always look for a bf who is popular or good looking
outward appearences is not everything
lejabron, u pressure ure gf for sex??? wahhh -
Bum Ble Bee.....
did u read the title of the topic properly? i said WAYS TO SHOW someone you love HOW MUCH u CARE and LOVE
what i just posted isn't about pursuing and courting, its about showing ure appreciation and love for her. And i had a gf before, so yes, i have courted before. Ppl learn from their past mistakes and experience to mature. Thats one way to make ure future relationship blossom and grow into something more fruitfull than a short term relationship.
you seem to have ure view fixed that all men are practically nothing more than a bunch of brainless hormonial hunters who always expect something out of a girl in return for their "good treatment" on women.
NOT all men are sex-weak minded as you think. Because of what they(weak-sex minded) did, u should not blame and judge others (commited-honorable) without getting to know them more properly.
You know what you are? a SEXIST. I bet u believe in girl power and those thrash. (i'm not insulting or anything, i believe women are capable of doing things that men couldn't do too) but i wish you would broadened ure mind about us men. You shouldnt judge us so fast because of what you've seen in others.
Here is a quote from you
1) Everything that men strive to achieve is somehow connected to attracting a gal. Underneath it all, attracting women is at the core.
2) Men pursue women. They behave as if a single,attractive woman is a rare and valuable thing that deserves special attention. They carefully take every step as they pursue a woman because
they fear that she'll reject them.
3) Men are clearly obsessed with ultimately getting women "into bed". They give away much of their power in the hopes that it will help them "get laid".
4) Men believe that GETTING APPROVAL will ultimately give them a higher chance of HAVING SEX.
i'm quite dissapointed with your opinion on us. NOT all men are like these. I myself believe in inner beauty and marriage before sex. I believe sex is something special and sacred that should only be shared btw a husband and wife. I hope what i said would change ure view on us =/
bus & hitakogi - usually a relationship is a two way thing. If you truly love someone, you will not try to take advantage or do anything which might hurt the one you love emotionally or physically.
yi xun - try to drop some hints heheh
Tranquility - heheh i know a few.. but does looks matter? i'm not saying they're not good looking or anything, just asking
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very interesting post. however, i agree that not all things are possible in the list. if you want to know more, do try reading allan and barbara pease's book, why men lie and women cry. it's a book about the differences between men and women.
the thing with women is that you've to remember to do the small things. guys, here's a tip for you, if u want to score points with your gf, do the small things. like tell her daily that you love her, buy a rose for her fortnightly, constantly look out for her well being, walk side-by-side with her, hold her hand, never be too distant, always listen when she's had a hard day, but remember to tell her also if you're having a hard day and would like some time to yoiurself before you talk to her. everything u do only gives u 1 point, more sumtimes, but usually 1 point.
Ladies, the only difference between a man and a boy is the price of their toys. guys love their toys, the bigger the better, like a car, a super computer (*drools*), and stuff. if u want to score points, remember that guys keep points differently from gals, they count things according to how 'big' it is, like work, it might score 30 points or so for them but only 1 for women. so the difference between giving them a car and a toy car would be like many many points apart. if you want to talk to a guy, get straight to the point, guys have mono tracking minds and can only keep track of 1 thing at a time. make an 'appointment' with them when u want to talk to them about your day.
Guys, just listen, go ummhmm or yes dear or something like that. but make sure that u know at least what's being tlaked about. if the girls go into multi tracking talk, juz sit for the ride and DON'T TRY to fix anything. listen emphatatically.
Well, guess that's it for now. all this coming from a psych student should b taken more seriously...
Lifetimes apart
Eons for this heart
To heal
To seal
Away the pain
Of life insane
Destruction
Elimination -
wei alienara u donkey!
how can u keep score for everything u do for ure love one.
Every little thing you do, you do it out of love and not because u wanna score points with her!!
Tranquility - i know alinera personally for ermm... 10 yrs? izzit? can't remember liao. But he is qualified to be "categorized" under "that species" you were talking about.
He may not have all of those characteristics, but most of the important ones though
But sometimes he talk alot of crap without thinking [/b] -
aiyaya...
seriously wei.... ordinaryguy...u very...the....ordinary....xp
what i mean is that this point keeping thing is done unconsciously, people don't know...
like sometimes you'll hear from people that they keep giving and giving and giving and they're not getting anything in return. u wanna know why this is? it's becoz of the points. this person thinks that they are giving more than the other party...
that's why this point system is so important!!!
u don't do it consciously..
n what crap harh?!!?!??!?!?!
yes i've known u for 10 TOLERABLE years...
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Originally posted by OrdinaryGuy:
haha... at lest pleasant looking lor.
Tranquility[/b] - heheh i know a few.. but does looks matter? i'm not saying they're not good looking or anything, just asking
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Originally posted by OrdinaryGuy:
Mmm... den i had 2 find alot of time 2 do "big" tins for him in order to keep scores ler... hahaha. If nt he ask me go hm slp.
wei alienara u donkey!
how can u keep score for everything u do for ure love one.
Every little thing you do, you do it out of love and not because u wanna score points with her!!
Tranquility - i know alinera personally for ermm... 10 yrs? izzit? can't remember liao. But he is qualified to be "[b]categorized" under "that species" you were talking about.
He may not have all of those characteristics, but most of the important ones though
But sometimes he talk alot of crap without thinking [/b][/b]
Btw, Alinera, ur theory sounds like those in the book "Man are frm Mars, Woman are from Venus".
Sumtimes dun understand... y guys nwaday so kei gao one... like 2 measure r/s... gone r the days whre d guys r big hearted. -
LOL, maybe you should get to know ordinary guy, i won't say that he's pretty looking nor bad looking either. should be quite pleasant looking... *looks around*Originally posted by TrAnQuILiTy:haha... at lest pleasant looking lor.
hey, i'm a guy alright.....
how would i know if he looks handsome or not? girls have very...very.....ummm.....different tastes as far as I've observed