Wats a guy to do?
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Ok, bear wif me pls
i got this fren of mine, he is a nice guy blessed wif good looks and has been compared to several celebs but he is a pretty poor fella, gets bout $50 a wk frm his parents as pocket money
He is funny and easy goin around his mates but gets all stiff around girls, especially the ones he likes, he got no experience in chatting gals up and is afraid to try
In fact he'd probably jump around the ledge of a 20th storey balcony than go up and ask for a girl's number and name
Some say his expectations too high but he claims it isn't and i've seen him rate girls, its a bit high but not unobtainable.
His last and first relationship was 2 yrs ago when he was 19, i think it was short but i don't think it was very sweet, he probably got hurt big time and tats probably why he so apprehensive now for new relationship even ones laid out in front of him
He always come up wif some reason like he don't think they are compatible for long term and we go clubbing he don't chat girls up, and when they get introed he just have trouble expressing himself and even if he likes a gal and another guy chats wif her, he just backs off without trying.
I think he is too under-confident (if there's such a word) and he definetly ain't no gay. He just got trouble expressing himself and feeling at ease around girls he like... if this goes on any longer he might just become a bachelor for life
How to help him overcome his problem? Just such a big shame that a nice good lookin guy like him has trouble getting relationships -
sure is ur fren?
or isit u? -
rate girls?
what do you think women are? cattle? -
i agree!Originally posted by FireIce:sure is ur fren?
or isit u? -
hehe.. if he is that good looking, he doesnt have to go to the girls, they will go to him.
perhaps he needs some exposure. wanna post his picture here to gain some recognition?
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Tell him to go IRC and practise his buaya skills.
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jimmeh r u talking abt me? haha.. i am this kind of person leh.. i have almost every points u listed about ur fren except that i not very handsome loh... lolz..
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well being him would have it's perks
but i'd quite comfortable wif myself now thank you
so just give me the benefit of the doubt for the time being
as for the pic i'll need to ask him first... wouldn't want posting them wifout his permission u noe
Bear; well don't think they are cattle, but i think ppl are allowed to judge others aesthetically and have abit of fun whilst their at it, granted it's between my mates and we don't go around "hurtin"
and criticising others on their looks either, i'm sure alot of females do the same exact thing and if u have a problem wif rating then i think u might have a problem wif alot of ppl on this forum and board...
c'mon don't tell u never clicked on one of those thumbnails and seen the comments left by other users, each and every one of those pictures posted are rated by at least one user and plus comments to boot too.
So if u wanna have a problem wif dat, then ur gonna have some serious issues mate. Why don't u tell tat to everyone? or u can start ur own thread stating how and why it's unethical, state the points behind ur argument instead of just shooting someone down in their thread asking for some advice and opinions on an issue -
I don't think girls are really into a guys look tat much...well some probably are... no sgguys yet rite? besides i see above avg girls wif below avg guys ever so often wherever i go.Originally posted by Striker83:jimmeh r u talking abt me? haha.. i am this kind of person leh.. i have almost every points u listed about ur fren except that i not very handsome loh... lolz..
it's probably a bonus for most of them... but u probably need to know wat tickles their buttons and how to make them laugh etc etc
probably some technique that can be praticed and refined, now if only i can get him to start... -
Well maybe he hadn't meet the one girl that could make him comfortable to talk or hang around with. Give him some time. This type of wounds heal slower I guess, so encourage him as usual but let him take his own pace.
He will never know when he will fall in love again, so no point pushing him.
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hmm...ur first thread u mention realli seems like the person is u...
cos the way u describle so detail...
well...some guys r juz like tt...they r too shy...bt at the end of the day its still them tt will made the differences...
tink he muz overcome the inferiority in him...if he cant then i tink he hardly can succeed...
i oso agree if he realli look looking...finding gals should nt b a prob wat...y bother then...
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hmm...
give him some time loh or wait till he actually fall in love den maybe by then he will try to chat up the girl loh -
i recommend F|
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I think he really gets hurt in his previous relationship, tell him to have confidence in himself, there will be a time when he can find a good girl he love.
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Just another lost soul. Only help for such people is to dare his balls to go geylang and have some "soft" sex 1st and see will he reveal his 2nd personalities towards that soft girl..May never know.. the devil might appear when he is facing a girl who appears as eve
Eve = Yin (Yin/Yang) symbol
Yin represents women and they have alot of negative energy meaning.. they tend to rule the nights like nobody business.. :p
Eve must be a smart girl inorder to lure his demon out of him.. Like using professional tatics to tempt him into sex