Need advise......Broken hearted man
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Hi all friends,
Recently my gf just broke off with me. Im very sad these few days. I drink and drink alot to make me drunk. One day i called her up for patch. She told me that we cant be together again. Some more there's third party come in us. I really dunno wat to do? Please advised
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drink and drink also no use one... pull urself together and move on... what's meant to be will be...Originally posted by jeffreytan_76:Hi all friends,
Recently my gf just broke off with me. Im very sad these few days. I drink and drink alot to make me drunk. One day i called her up for patch. She told me that we cant be together again. Some more there's third party come in us. I really dunno wat to do? Please advised -
crying over spilled milk is useless.. pick urself up after all those drinking and move on wif life.. its not the end of the world yet. and of coz u are still young for a guy by looking at ur nick... (if i aint wrong lah). i noe listening to all these is like a repetition frm wat all ur frens had told ya but juz rem they are juz words of advice and consolation the rest is up to u on whether u wanna live better than her new bf and her or notOriginally posted by jeffreytan_76:Hi all friends,
Recently my gf just broke off with me. Im very sad these few days. I drink and drink alot to make me drunk. One day i called her up for patch. She told me that we cant be together again. Some more there's third party come in us. I really dunno wat to do? Please advised 
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liquor will reduce your ability to solve your problems..why your girlfriend refuse to make up? remember not to mention the third party when settling issues with her, it will always work against you.Originally posted by jeffreytan_76:Hi all friends,
Recently my gf just broke off with me. Im very sad these few days. I drink and drink alot to make me drunk. One day i called her up for patch. She told me that we cant be together again. Some more there's third party come in us. I really dunno wat to do? Please advised -
Originally posted by jeffreytan_76:Hi all friends,
Recently my gf just broke off with me. Im very sad these few days. I drink and drink alot to make me drunk. One day i called her up for patch. She told me that we cant be together again. Some more there's third party come in us. I really dunno wat to do? Please advised 
you should post such questions on Aunt Agony's forum..there got experts to advise you. -
Been through that but of coz, without the drinking part( $$$ ) Wat was your purpose of drinking ?( learned from chinese dramas?) if u wanna get your mind off this sad period, juz do something that you enjoy doing... that way, your mind would be occupied. Of coz you have to keep doing it, sooner or later, the hurt and sadness would be easier to tame. (btw my longest sad period was 3 mths plus)
Always say this to urself, no point being sad. It would not help change the situation. When ur sad or drinking, is she sad too ? dun think so rite ? she might be out there enjoying herself. So take this chance and change urself, transform urself into a better person, this way you will have a higher chance of finding a better gf in future.
Cheer up -
he doesn't need advice man.. he needs time..Originally posted by boy in blues: you should post such questions on Aunt Agony's forum..there got experts to advise you.
*sigh* always sux when these type of things happen.
be strong!!!!!!!!!!!!!! be proud, dun let life take ur life away, if u know wat i mean. -
I think it's no use crying and drinking...seriously...I've been tru that stage a few times...What i did the last time was I went out with more people..., which was my cousin and got to know more guys... I forced myself to get to know them more...in the end i got 2 numbers. However, in the nite, I was crying to sleep again becuz i still can't forget HIM... but...surprisingly, with 2 new guys i slowly get things tru..."time heals the wound" seriously... now, one of the guy whom i took his number is my current bf!!! and he treats me much better than the idiot who left me... seriously,think bout it and make ur life better...lead a better life, go brush up urself and let her know that it was a mistake letting u go! ~Originally posted by jeffreytan_76:Hi all friends,
Recently my gf just broke off with me. Im very sad these few days. I drink and drink alot to make me drunk. One day i called her up for patch. She told me that we cant be together again. Some more there's third party come in us. I really dunno wat to do? Please advised -
Hmm...why are you in the same situation i'm in?
that's weird,
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forget her, get on with ur life... tips.... earn more money than the other guy.... she'll regret it one day.Originally posted by M©+square:Hmm...why are you in the same situation i'm in?
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True....She'll regret...so, dun let her see u as an useless bum who gives up easily... It's ur life, dun ruin ur own life because of her.U'll find a better one than her who'll make u happy.Originally posted by dreamer81$:forget her, get on with ur life... tips.... earn more money than the other guy.... she'll regret it one day. -
Originally posted by EnticingJo:
....i don't want anyone to regret....i just want to be happy...
[b]True....She'll regret...so, dun let her see u as an useless bum who gives up easily... It's ur life, dun ruin ur own life because of her.U'll find a better one than her who'll make u happy.[/b] -
yO ... jEFF..b4 you die.. call this hotline 999 least i got my "operator" there to help save your life .. Juz surrender your soul to me can liaoz
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you have to move on.
once girls make up their minds to leave you for good, they seldom change their mind.
sorry if i sound harsh, but time will heal everything ok?
be strong.
drinking won't help. don't torture yourself like that. please. -
Originally posted by M©+square:....i don't want anyone to regret....i just want to be happy... okie...if u dun want anyone to regret, the more u shld let her go...perhaps she finds that u're not the One for her and also like u,she wants to be happy? that's y she moved on? If u made her stay when she doesn't wants to, U will regret in future. Becuz, by then U will realise that her body is with u, but heart and soul are not...
Trust me...move on with ur life and u will find someone better and loves & treasure u much more... like in my case. I had always tot that my previous bf was the one i loved the most and most impt. Till the day I saw words that he said bout me to his fren,.....I was shocked...but still i loved him and neva wanted to let go....but i learnt how to. Now, the past is past and i'm leading a new life with a better guy,although not more educated than the 1st,or maybe in some terms not better than the 1st,....but still, this one he knows how to love and treasure me.
True love has yet reached u...move on to find it..Searching true love is by trial and error.....Realistic but true...Everybody's been tru that...i bet....And me too....so dun be so sad anymore...if u r, find someone to talk to...but not drink and keep everything to urself.
think over wat i said.....,reason out with urself.....till then, take care -
Think we all mostly haf been through this situation before...
Pick yourself up and move on...
Good luck in your future life... -
Hmm....maybe she's on her way to find someone who really respect her and treasure her.Originally posted by EnticingJo: okie...if u dun want anyone to regret, the more u shld let her go...perhaps she finds that u're not the One for her and also like u,she wants to be happy? that's y she moved on? If u made her stay when she doesn't wants to, U will regret in future. Becuz, by then U will realise that her body is with u, but heart and soul are not...
Trust me...move on with ur life and u will find someone better and loves & treasure u much more... like in my case. I had always tot that my previous bf was the one i loved the most and most impt. Till the day I saw words that he said bout me to his fren,.....I was shocked...but still i loved him and neva wanted to let go....but i learnt how to. Now, the past is past and i'm leading a new life with a better guy,although not more educated than the 1st,or maybe in some terms not better than the 1st,....but still, this one he knows how to love and treasure me.
True love has yet reached u...move on to find it..Searching true love is by trial and error.....Realistic but true...Everybody's been tru that...i bet....And me too....so dun be so sad anymore...if u r, find someone to talk to...but not drink and keep everything to urself.
think over wat i said.....,reason out with urself.....till then, take care
Maybe i didn't meet up to her expectations. Whatever i've done is never enough...never satisfy.
I did ask her what kind of boyfriend i was. and she told me to really learn how to respect how to respect and treasure my new gf.
I guess this two areas were the two which she needs the most, and i have sadly missed it.
Regarding about True Love. I personally feel that those who looks forward to greener pastures will feel that they have not found 'True Love' yet.
When i looked at my parents and old people...and tried to walk thru life in those days. It doesn't seem like they have found their true lov and then got married. It takes Two hands to clap to even make relationship last.
True Love could be Cheng Qin Yong You or Tian Chang Di Jou.
My parents commited to the latter one. Did they meet their true love and got married at a young age of 21?
I don't know about you. I don't know about karma love stuff.
I only know that i lost someone very special and have learnt to treasure her alot. -
Originally posted by M©+square:
Hmm....maybe she's on her way to find someone who really respect her and treasure her.
Maybe i didn't meet up to her expectations. Whatever i've done is never enough...never satisfy.
I did ask her what kind of boyfriend i was. and she told me to really learn how to respect how to respect and treasure my new gf.
I guess this two areas were the two which she needs the most, and i have sadly missed it.
Regarding about True Love. I personally feel that those who looks forward to greener pastures will feel that they have not found 'True Love' yet.
When i looked at my parents and old people...and tried to walk thru life in those days. It doesn't seem like they have found their true lov and then got married. It takes Two hands to clap to even make relationship last.
[b]True Love could be Cheng Qin Yong You or Tian Chang Di Jou.
My parents commited to the latter one. Did they meet their true love and got married at a young age of 21?
I don't know about you. I don't know about karma love stuff.
I only know that i lost someone very special and have learnt to treasure her alot.
[/b] Well, certain things are beyond our control and all you can do is open up ur heart and give her your blessings.That way,both sides will feel better.Since she gave u these golden words,then u shld remember them and let ur next gf feel happier...
These two criteria may be the ones u missed this time, but treat this time like a lesson learnt...and never repeat the same mistake again...the next time, U won't missed them anymore.
True,when u look over at the "greener pastures" you won't find true love just yet.However,give urslef more time, lower ur expectations; Ooh la la... perhaps there's someone who's not up to ur standards but loves u more than u noe...
To me, I feel that be it "zhi zai hu ceng jing yong you" or "tian chang di jiu", u shld focus more on reality. wat's the point of hanging on to a love that is so passionate but won't last long? Do u wish to have a spouse who won't be there for u thru out ur life in days of sufferings?My parents once said,you can't survive only on love,....so one muz be rather realistic... I agree that it takes 2 hands to clap...all things do.To make a relationship last,both sides have to be doing their part.
But if given a choice,would u rather choose a gal who loves u more than u love her or vice versa? Perhaps ur parents' case is this? I would definitely choose one who loves me more than the otehr way round cuz i'll be happier this way,although i might onli have a little feelings for him.
For me, I've learnt how to let go...though devastated.If things can't be forced,then y do it?