Advice from all out ther...
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Mi get 2 noe my ex 2 yrs back.. during e times we spent 2gether,we were a hapi couples. All my frds said she's e most suitable 4 mi & they envy us too as we didnt quarrel at all, & always so hapi whenever ther's gathering... She also told her parents & my family im e 1 she's goin 2 get married...Mi was so touch by her.. Til dis yr, she change a nw job & mi encourage her too cos she always feel unhapi wif her previous 1.. But in2 e 2nd wks of her nw job,she started 2 distance away frm mi. Mi also sense it too, so mi brought e issue 2 her. She said she was busy, tired & dis wil hapen temp only..But after wks, mi stil feel the same as she started 2 feel awkward when mi touch her, dun let mi sent her hme etc.. til mi ask her again, she said she njoyed her nw companies cos they always went clubbing, eat etc after work (so called tired after work, but stil can go out njoy)..On the eve of our 2nd anniversary, she ask 4 brk up...reason is: no time 4 mi!
Can giv mi sum advice y she change so fast juz wks in2 her nw job???
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Primary reason is the feeling for you has faded. The chemistry is gone.Originally posted by kunking:Mi get 2 noe my ex 2 yrs back.. during e times we spent 2gether,we were a hapi couples. All my frds said she's e most suitable 4 mi & they envy us too as we didnt quarrel at all, & always so hapi whenever ther's gathering... She also told her parents & my family im e 1 she's goin 2 get married...Mi was so touch by her.. Til dis yr, she change a nw job & mi encourage her too cos she always feel unhapi wif her previous 1.. But in2 e 2nd wks of her nw job,she started 2 distance away frm mi. Mi also sense it too, so mi brought e issue 2 her. She said she was busy, tired & dis wil hapen temp only..But after wks, mi stil feel the same as she started 2 feel awkward when mi touch her, dun let mi sent her hme etc.. til mi ask her again, she said she njoyed her nw companies cos they always went clubbing, eat etc after work (so called tired after work, but stil can go out njoy)..On the eve of our 2nd anniversary, she ask 4 brk up...reason is: no time 4 mi!
Can giv mi sum advice y she change so fast juz wks in2 her nw job??? -
does the faults lies on mi???
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I guess it's nobody's fault actually. Things change with time. Feelings too. Hope you can bear with the sadness.Originally posted by kunking:does the faults lies on mi??? -
not to add fuel to fire... but think there may be someone "interesting" in her new company...
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maybe she find someone interesting at the company leh? sometimes when gals know some interesting guys outside they tends to go out more often loh... thus maybe the feeling for you have fade liao loh... actually there is many possiblities loh... y u never u really ask her?? no time for you?? i don think that is a good reason to break off with you loh...
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I fully agree with pineapple_pie. Ask her in the face. If she isn't willing to be frank, you'd know she's lying.Originally posted by pineapple_pie:maybe she find someone interesting at the company leh? sometimes when gals know some interesting guys outside they tends to go out more often loh... thus maybe the feeling for you have fade liao loh... actually there is many possiblities loh... y u never u really ask her?? no time for you?? i don think that is a good reason to break off with you loh... -
agreed wif all of u...mi tried 2 ask her out, but...
she kip sayin she's wasting my time, njoy the nw companies...
all dis mi heard til sianz... 1 ting she's firm on it was she insist ther's no 3rd party involve...
juz feel dat as long as she's feel hapi wif her nw way of living, den mi juz let go although mi stil hv her in my mind...
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How can someone feeling change so fast one???Originally posted by kunking:agreed wif all of u...mi tried 2 ask her out, but...
she kip sayin she's wasting my time, njoy the nw companies...
all dis mi heard til sianz... 1 ting she's firm on it was she insist ther's no 3rd party involve...
juz feel dat as long as she's feel hapi wif her nw way of living, den mi juz let go although mi stil hv her in my mind... 
if she really loves you no matter how interesting the company's ppl are .... she will still have you in her mind one loh... most likely either she is one who like friends rather then bf loh...
well... i don noe her so i cant judge her loh...
well don be sad lah ... she should be sad cos she had decide to let you go mah but she didnt realise that you are good loh...
Sometimes i was wondering y gals keep complaining tat they couldnt find any nice guys out there ... well i think they just don noe how to treasure and see who are nice loh...
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lemme give u my speculation, if u dont mind...Originally posted by kunking:agreed wif all of u...mi tried 2 ask her out, but...
she kip sayin she's wasting my time, njoy the nw companies...
all dis mi heard til sianz... 1 ting she's firm on it was she insist ther's no 3rd party involve...
juz feel dat as long as she's feel hapi wif her nw way of living, den mi juz let go although mi stil hv her in my mind...
simple, as what others commented, there's someone interesting in her new company. why she say no 3rd party involve? becoz it's her own side of wishful thinking, i.e. secretly admiring that someone only, not confirm one.
or else, she wud have invite u to join their after-work activities, and intro u to them as her bf. ever think of this? why didnt she do so? becoz that someone interesting is always present in her after-work activities, and she do not want him to know that she has a bf (which is u), hoping that she stands a chance wif this someone.
and... why didnt she tell the truth? becoz she feels guilty. she knows that she's the one in the wrong, not u. she feel some kinda "conscience pricked". why she keep her distance away from u? becoz she wanna "convince" herself that she doesnt love u anymore, she wanna feel less guilty.
let her be. no need to feel happy for her... most likely her crush to that someone she secretly admires will go to nought.
she's not worth ur love anymore. move on... u deserve a better girl. -
hmm... mi tink of dat b4.. but mi didnt speculate abt it so much cos mi didnt doubt her b4... mi dun 1 2 b so heartless cos cant bear 2 do it... hope stil can b frd...