There are times when we are timid and shy about expressing the love we feel. For the fear of embarrassing the other person, or ourselves, we hesitate to say the actual words "I love you". So we try to communicate the idea in other words.
We say "take care" or " don't drive too fast" or "be good". But really, these are just other ways of saying "I love you", " you are important to me", "I care what happens to you", "I don't want you to get hurt".
We are sometimes very strange people. The only things we want to say, and the one things that we should say, is the one thing we don't say. And yet, because the feeling is so real, and the need to say it is so strong, we are driven to use other words and signs to say what we really mean. And many times the meaning never gets communicated at all and the other person is left feeling unloved and unwanted.
Therefore, we have to LISTEN FOR LOVE in the words that people are saying to us. Sometimes the explicit words are necessary, but more often, the manner of saying things is even more important. A joyous insult carries more affection and love within the sentiment which are expressed insincerely.
An impulsive hug says I LOVE YOU even though the words said might be very different.
Any expression of a person's concern for another says I love you. Sometimes the expression is clumsy, sometimes even cruel. Sometimes we must look and listen very intently for the love that contains. But it is often there, beneath the surface.
A mother may nag her son constantly about his grades or cleaning his room. The son may hear only the nagging, but if he listens carefully, he will hear the love underneath the nagging. His mother wants him to be well, to be successful. Her concern and love for her son unfortunately emerge in her nagging. But it is love all the same.
A daughter comes home way past her curfew, and her father confronts her with angry words. The daughter may hear only the anger, but if she listens carefully, she will hear the love under the anger. "I was worried about you", the father is saying. "Because I care about you and I love you. You are important to me"
We say I love you in many ways - with birthday gifts, and little notes, with smiles and sometimes with tears. Sometimes we show our love just by keeping quiet and not saying a word, at other times by speaking out, even brusquely. We show our love sometimes by impulsiveness. Many times we have to show our love by forgiving someone who has not listened to the love we have tried to express.
The problem in listening for love is that we don't always understand the language of love which the other person is using. A girl may use tears or emotions to say what she wants to say, and her boyfriend may not understand her because he expects her to be talking in his language.
Thus, we have to force ourselves to really listen for love.
The problem with our world is that people rarely listen to each other. They hear the words, but they don't listen to the actions that accompany the words or the expression on the face. Or people listen only for rejection or misunderstanding. They do not see the love that is there just beneath the surface, even if the words are angry. We have to listen for love in those around us.
If we listen intently we will discover that we are a lot more love than we realize. Listen for love and we will find that the world is a very loving place after all.
LOVE is a happy thing.
It makes us laugh,
it makes us sing,
it makes us sad,
it makes us cry,
it makes us seek the reason why,
it makes us take,
it makes us give.
Above all else, it makes us LIVE.
sometimes the nagging is not of love... sometimes, it's because you are not doing what they want you to do..
it puts an emotional guilt trip on the child... and if more and more is piled on, ultimately, the child cracks...
sometimes, it's not about love, although the parent somehow convinces him/herself of it... sometimes it's about control... control over the child...
ever hear how a parent boasts to others that the child "listens to her all the time"? rarely do i hear a parent praise a child for "having a mind of his/her own" when that, would be high praise indeed!
so, in the future, when you have a child, don't nag... don't control.. teach the child well enough that the child has the independence and strength to be able to make the correct decisions...
the PRAISE THAT!
that, would be true love..
It is not the presence or absence of people that makes the difference because a person need not be lonely even if he is alone. Sometimes it is good to be alone. But that does not make us lonely. It is not a matter of being present WITH someone. It is a matter of being present TO someone.
So remember... If you love someone. Tell them.
Remember always to say what you mean. Never be afraid to express yourself. Take this opportunity to tell someone what they mean to you. Seize the day and have no regrets.
Most importantly, stay close to your friends and family, for they have helped make you the person you are today and are what it's all about anyway.
ok... One day Shan cai and Dao Ming Si was strolling along an park.. Then there is this begger kneeling down and crying.. in front of him lays an covered body . He was holding an signboard saying "my girlfriend just died and i have no money to bury her"in chinese... " please kiss me and hug me and give me some money to bury her.". Shan cai upon seeing the signboard , cried silently and just when she was about to hug the person , Dao Ming Si Slap her So hard and said " Ni Shi Bai Chi Ar Ni ! Ben Ni Ren ! " and walk away .. Shan cai of course was very angry and shocked for dao ming si slapping her . So she confront him and say "*&W*^E&^@$@%^"
Moral of the story is.. Dao ming si assumed that this begger could be trying to cheat people to kiss him and hug him + giving him money .. The corpse could be his friend faking death and his thinking was , how could a begger have an girlfriend .. and which girl would be so stupid enough to love a begger ? The begger even worse , cant even afford to bury her so its like 99.9999% this guy is an con man just trying to cheat naive girls like Shan Cai and of course the slap was meant to make her awake so that she instead of crying out of piety on this begger , she will turn to become very angry at Dao Ming Si then she will confront him and ehem.. he will tell her the reasons why he slap her ( which i dont know what lar ) ^_^
The End.
hmm.. although i never try before but maybe when i go out later i will try to do that . see what happens ... Hmm.. if she slap me means i not yandao enough .. Ehem.. i dont have a video camera to tape it down .. maybe when we meet at the Beach then i could try for your to see ^_^
I cant Wait foR 19 July !!!
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