overlimit ----> cheap?

abterror

18 Jun 03, 23:00

Basically one has the ability to analysis and provide solution to solve a problem. But usually when he'she is in it, it tend to be overwhlem by emotions and clouded and lost their direction and rations.

Below is a few case in which i was wondering.

Case 1:
How would u react if u court and gal and u fail, and worst of all u goto meet her everyweek?

Personally i choose to avoid her, gifing myself time to cool down but on the other hand. Am i escaping?

Case 2:
Over the limit of friends?

Althought everything is over, answers are reveal and time to face the reality, would u hack care them? treat as nothing had happen? or still care for them?

Mi try to tell myself tat it is nothing more to do with mi and it is wiser to keep a distance. (need a break) but sometimes when i see tat she is not feeling well, will tend to care a bit to the extend of buying them some herbal tea or food when they are not feeling well or hungry.

I know tat i am gifing on my own willingness, but on the other hand.
from the way they react, feel so extra and cheap.
the more i do, the more stupid i felt.

So wat did i do wrong? i just cant find a perfect solution. If i ignore her, mi "narrow minded". If i just treat them better, they think i am back for more, perhaps.

It is so hard to work it out a friendship when u tried to over step it and fail.

Suggestion from both genders. Free to say wat u feel.Hopefully can get more feedbacks. Tx

the Bear

18 Jun 03, 23:04

do you truly love her?

is she now just a friend?

how does she behave when you're around?

abterror

18 Jun 03, 23:09

Originally posted by the Bear:
do you truly love her?

is she now just a friend?

how does she behave when you're around?

just one sided relation.
of cos she dont feel anything.
but of cos, stress are present cos ppl are toking.
sometimes really wish to just let go of this once and for all...
even forget the friendship

the Bear

18 Jun 03, 23:12

i'd be her friend... but that's me... only do that if you are strong enough...

people will talk no matter what you do...

unless you want to quit your job, but jobs are hard to find..

i hope you find peace...

Originally posted by abterror:
just one sided relation.
of cos she dont feel anything.
but of cos, stress are present cos ppl are toking.
sometimes really wish to just let go of this once and for all...
even forget the friendship

abterror

18 Jun 03, 23:23

just feel agitated when see her....
perhaps it is just a matter of the ability to face disappointment and failures.

the Bear

18 Jun 03, 23:26

i guess.. that's why i wrote that you have to be strong...

Originally posted by abterror:
just feel agitated when see her....
perhaps it is just a matter of the ability to face disappointment and failures.

abterror

18 Jun 03, 23:31

through rations? u mean?
determination?

bus

19 Jun 03, 00:17

My advices are

1. it is best to let things remain as it is. U don't have to spend your time on her as she already given U the answer. channel yourself into another areas or best is to wait for the right gal for U

I did wanted to go after someone in my previous company. Initially we are on very good terms but later after the things fail, I had a hard time avoiding her as we are bound to meet although the 2 of us are from different depts. My advice is NEVER start a Romance in your office regardless whether it is a success or failure. U need to pay a price for it(like my case)

Don;t think too much, just let things remain as it is now. Keep yourself busy and U will gradually forget about her. Good Luck

abterror

19 Jun 03, 01:28

Originally posted by bus:
My advices are

1. it is best to let things remain as it is. U don't have to spend your time on her as she already given U the answer. channel yourself into another areas or best is to wait for the right gal for U

I did wanted to go after someone in my previous company. Initially we are on very good terms but later after the things fail, I had a hard time avoiding her as we are bound to meet although the 2 of us are from different depts. My advice is NEVER start a Romance in your office regardless whether it is a success or failure. U need to pay a price for it(like my case)

Don;t think too much, just let things remain as it is now. Keep yourself busy and U will gradually forget about her. Good Luck

sometimes it is so funny.....
at a moment of time, two are so close and can say anything.
then things fall aparts, dodging start till it become a habbit and part of life.
where the hell go wrong....... cant get back to where u were.

kano2hot

19 Jun 03, 06:42

guys must be confident. Success comes with a price. No pain no gain. Learn from mistakes and you will be a better man.

choco B

19 Jun 03, 09:25

For your sake and hers, you should not treat her better than just an ordinary friend. Otherwise you continue feeling that you're "cheap" (and that's valid), and why give her that satisfaction of having a hanger-on?

Also, I don't think you should ignore her totally. It's "narrow minded" to ignore her, but galant to take rejection in your stride and move on.

Originally posted by abterror:
If i ignore her, mi "narrow minded". If i just treat them better, they think i am back for more, perhaps.

abterror

19 Jun 03, 10:48

Originally posted by choco B:
For your sake and hers, you should not treat her better than just an ordinary friend. Otherwise you continue feeling that you're "cheap" (and that's valid), and why give her that satisfaction of having a hanger-on?

Also, I don't think you should ignore her totally. It's "narrow minded" to ignore her, but galant to take rejection in your stride and move on.

so where is the balancing pt?
hi bye friend? smile and tok a lot?

loneryu00

19 Jun 03, 11:49

Be yourself... Treat her as a normal friend. So what if ppl toking? their mouths, U cannot shut it. Ignore them. The more U take note of it, da more confused U will be & unable to tink rationally...