I need to know an answer.....
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I have this friend who's a girl. i have crush on this girl for 2 years plus and it is only until recently that i go after her. i have once been rejected by her, but then i have decided to give it another shot. after that shot, i have been very close with her. everyone thinks that she and i were already together... but the fact is that we have never started... she broke up with the bf one month ago, and she keep saying that she need more time after that tiring relationship with her ex. thus, i've decided to wait for her answer.now it has been nearly two months since then... i still have not gotten an answer... Before the previous ex, she has already 3 other guys before and the relationship all ended with sadly. now she keeps saying that if she were to have another bf now, she would want it to last forever (which i think there might not really happen.... as there are no guarantee...) if this senario were to happen on you people out there, what would you do?
p/s: Currently we are really really really close. -
eyyy..how close is close? pls defineOriginally posted by BoA*:I have this friend who's a girl. i have crush on this girl for 2 years plus and it is only until recently that i go after her. i have once been rejected by her, but then i have decided to give it another shot. after that shot, i have been very close with her. everyone thinks that she and i were already together... but the fact is that we have never started... she broke up with the bf one month ago, and she keep saying that she need more time after that tiring relationship with her ex. thus, i've decided to wait for her answer.now it has been nearly two months since then... i still have not gotten an answer... Before the previous ex, she has already 3 other guys before and the relationship all ended with sadly. now she keeps saying that if she were to have another bf now, she would want it to last forever (which i think there might not really happen.... as there are no guarantee...) if this senario were to happen on you people out there, what would you do?
p/s: Currently we are really really really close. -
lets see... close as in... we are found always together in uni. erm,... we've kissed. how's that? but only in private...
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just kissed?Originally posted by BoA*:lets see... close as in... we are found always together in uni. erm,... we've kissed. how's that? but only in private...
i used to know of something similar to urs..but the characters did not kissed...byt were close to heart -
Maybe is time to let it go ... give both of you some time to make decision
... close together on body don't not mean in heart ... Maybe she wanted to get over her ex stead using u ..not one know -
well actually kiss tells a lot about wat she feel about u.
any difference in the way she behave in front of u and others?
better know this fast else u may well in the end just be a spare tire. -
She really really trust me. i can feel the way, the difference from the way she treated me and from the way she treated others. before i go after her, i was among one of the three best friends. But there is just this one thing.... she loves making me jealous... she claims that it is for her to know how much i loved her...but anyway, the bottomline is she treatd me different form the rest. that's one thing for sure. but the problem lies here.... since we are already this close,... i dun understand why she still has to consider about this matter...
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emm...these is how u feel or she actually told u? this makes world of differencesOriginally posted by BoA*:She really really trust me. i can feel the way, the difference from the way she treated me and from the way she treated others. before i go after her, i was among one of the three best friends. But there is just this one thing.... she loves making me jealous... she claims that it is for her to know how much i loved her...but anyway, the bottomline is she treatd me different form the rest. that's one thing for sure. but the problem lies here.... since we are already this close,... i dun understand why she still has to consider about this matter... -
Maybe she just broke up ... need sometime to recover so to start another relationship with u ... Give her some time and remain friendship with her ... ONE WORD ... WAIT WAIT AND WAIT... -
you better check out wat is her motive and wat she wants.Originally posted by BoA*:She really really trust me. i can feel the way, the difference from the way she treated me and from the way she treated others. before i go after her, i was among one of the three best friends. But there is just this one thing.... she loves making me jealous... she claims that it is for her to know how much i loved her...but anyway, the bottomline is she treatd me different form the rest. that's one thing for sure. but the problem lies here.... since we are already this close,... i dun understand why she still has to consider about this matter...
some ppl just wanna have fun.
having u undertable makes u in a unfavourable ground.
perhaps like wat i see, she may leave u for a better one once she find.
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Agreed. WAIT... & dats NOT 1 word... Its FOUR words... -___-Originally posted by anti.flirt: Maybe she just broke up ... need sometime to recover so to start another relationship with u ... Give her some time and remain friendship with her ... ONE WORD ... WAIT WAIT AND WAIT...
Give her & YOURSELF time... While she recover from da previous shock, U tink abt yrs. In a sense, U REALLY wanna be wif her? U love her? r U gonna make it as long as possible (to marriage or watever) or juz love her unconditionally?
U have to weigh da pros & cons here... she wan "long lasting", do U? maybe she wanna get married at her next r/s, do U? Tink abt it... -
i am having the same problem like u .... she will just...shoot me 3 words... GAVE ME TIME.. also dontknow how long i have to wait or..maybe she is not going to gave me a answer....well for mine is close as in together but didnt kiss..Originally posted by BoA*:I have this friend who's a girl. i have crush on this girl for 2 years plus and it is only until recently that i go after her. i have once been rejected by her, but then i have decided to give it another shot. after that shot, i have been very close with her. everyone thinks that she and i were already together... but the fact is that we have never started... she broke up with the bf one month ago, and she keep saying that she need more time after that tiring relationship with her ex. thus, i've decided to wait for her answer.now it has been nearly two months since then... i still have not gotten an answer... Before the previous ex, she has already 3 other guys before and the relationship all ended with sadly. now she keeps saying that if she were to have another bf now, she would want it to last forever (which i think there might not really happen.... as there are no guarantee...) if this senario were to happen on you people out there, what would you do?
p/s: Currently we are really really really close. -
When a gal mention give me some time...she is rejecting u indirectly (in general)...
I'm thinking from a gal's point of view... -
why the heck is it that women can't just outright say "No!"?
i find this very disturbing as women keep you guessing... as if they're trying to trap you or something... some kind of game in order to throw a guilt trip on the guy...
then guys are torn apart inside trying to figure out what is going on... trying their best to please her, then get accused of being "insensitive" when women are the ones who play the mindgames...
why?Originally posted by elmoloveyou:When a gal mention give me some time...she is rejecting u indirectly (in general)...
I'm thinking from a gal's point of view... -
From what i see, this girl doesnt want any relationship for e time being. After being hurt for so many times, she dont dare to step into another relationship. But she wanted attention, love and care and u were there... unless u are prepared to stay that way for how long i dunno, otherwise i suggest u forget about her. Since she is already so close to u, i dont see why she refuse to be with u unless she dont want a relationship.
Been thru this before, my ex was with another guy. They quarrel every now n then, she look for me...we were very close together...much closer than what u have said but once everything is back to normal, she suddenly turn cold and left...happen a few times till i really very sian... sometimes i wish she is not making use of me becoz i still have feelings for her... i still like her but would rather not be treated as a toy . -
after all this thing happen and the both broke of them broke up. And you being close to her, u ask her to be your gf. What you can do now is to give her moral support. Just give her time. You been rejected time again and again. dun gif up hope, no pain no gain.
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One word. Commitment. You can be really really close to someone but as long as it's not official, there's no commitment. No commitment, no extra stress, less heartbreak etc. She might want to be sure of herself. Esp since she just broke up with her bf. She might want to make sure this is not a rebound. But if this is the case, then I don't thinking kissing (or anything intimate for that matter) is a good idea.Originally posted by BoA*:She really really trust me. i can feel the way, the difference from the way she treated me and from the way she treated others. before i go after her, i was among one of the three best friends. But there is just this one thing.... she loves making me jealous... she claims that it is for her to know how much i loved her...but anyway, the bottomline is she treatd me different form the rest. that's one thing for sure. but the problem lies here.... since we are already this close,... i dun understand why she still has to consider about this matter... -
i dunno.. i am so confused. For the past two years, i might consider it a crush, but then it's only this year that i realise that i am really into her... I am really really really into her. One thing that really bothers me is my lowself-esteem... You see... for me, she seems perfect to me... she is the sweetest girl among those i've known.... She is the prettiest, cutest.... what more can i ask for... But since she is so perfect.... she has..... mamy many many many guys going after her....(in my school, that is...) That is why i have no connfidence in myself, since i am not handsome, smart, good looking and stuffs like that.... it just seems that i dun match with her everytime i think about this matter... what should i do...? ??? ARGH!!!!
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hang in there....but you need to know how SHE feels about you in reality. try asking her how long is her long and see for urself if its sincere. you do need a clear mind of where both of you stand. just don;t make hasty decisions....Originally posted by BoA*:i dunno.. i am so confused. For the past two years, i might consider it a crush, but then it's only this year that i realise that i am really into her... I am really really really into her. One thing that really bothers me is my lowself-esteem... You see... for me, she seems perfect to me... she is the sweetest girl among those i've known.... She is the prettiest, cutest.... what more can i ask for... But since she is so perfect.... she has..... mamy many many many guys going after her....(in my school, that is...) That is why i have no connfidence in myself, since i am not handsome, smart, good looking and stuffs like that.... it just seems that i dun match with her everytime i think about this matter... what should i do...? ??? ARGH!!!! -
whether private or not is not the problem....i mean, a kiss a private (definitely for me) and intimate and i'll oni kiss with someone i've feelings for and not just anybody. but you need to know if this kiss is just lust or love...whole lotsa difference. make this clear my man....Originally posted by BoA*:lets see... close as in... we are found always together in uni. erm,... we've kissed. how's that? but only in private... -
Well, same hereÂ… I kissed only with someone I really loved. I never have this feeling beforeÂ… not even with my ex... She is the first to let me feel this wayÂ… well, I did ask her when is her gonna give me an answer, she says by the end of JulyÂ… so I guessÂ…. thatÂ’s the doomÂ’s day huhÂ…. I really wonder what will happen if she really rejected me on that day againÂ…
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take it like a man should. like i always say, there're too many trees in the forest....ehh girls i mean. choose another and be happy. y should you be sad when you can be happy?think abt itOriginally posted by BoA*:Well, same hereÂ… I kissed only with someone I really loved. I never have this feeling beforeÂ… not even with my ex... She is the first to let me feel this wayÂ… well, I did ask her when is her gonna give me an answer, she says by the end of JulyÂ… so I guessÂ…. thatÂ’s the doomÂ’s day huhÂ…. I really wonder what will happen if she really rejected me on that day againÂ… -
thanx... but i can't just forget someone i love just like that... i dunno why, but that is just not me... maybe i am those kind of very emotional people. Virgos are like that, right? if she were to reject me,... i doubt that i could even forget her.... what more to mention go after another girl... sigh~~
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I AM A Virgo TOO but i still let my love one go ... time will heal your heart and forget her...Originally posted by BoA*:thanx... but i can't just forget someone i love just like that... i dunno why, but that is just not me... maybe i am those kind of very emotional people. Virgos are like that, right? if she were to reject me,... i doubt that i could even forget her.... what more to mention go after another girl... sigh~~