Are Singaporeans very status concious

• hata

  17 Jun 03, 00:19

  
  well thats how the world works..
• boy in blues

  17 Jun 03, 00:33

  Originally posted by bus:

  
  
  I remember reading one forum about whether is it wise to sign on at this moment of time as the gal told the forumer that her BF will be signing on as a technician in the SAF. One particular lady told that all a lot of factors must take into consideration blah blah blah....
  .........I feel really sian that the locals are having this type of mentality.
  Care to comments on your encounter in this issue?
  

  i think we are more $-conscious. tonnes of cold hard cash stashed in swiss bank is the real bottom-line. don't ask me why. that's s'pore for you.
• angel911

  17 Jun 03, 15:06

  Originally posted by bus:

  
  
  I agree with angel911 message(good comments) but as someone mention that we are born in this society that people will judge another person before so call "start to love" the person -- I find that it is very fake and superficial
  
  Given this scenarios
  
  This gal cannot accept a guy because he does not have all the conditions that the gal is looking for but one fine day this guy make his mark (have all the things) and this gal out of a sudden come back to him, will this guy still consider her? ONLY a fool will take this gal as this gal has already exposed her true self to the guy in the early days and she is NOT WORTH the effort.
  
  People will judge U in the 1st meeting, what job U are doing, qualifications, appearance, friendly etc before making a conclusion whether want to devlope further. This is a standard process in our society

  I agree to this comment to a certain extent, that people are judged conditionally in this society. There's no wrong being judgemental. It's the way we handle the situation that matters.
  
  If a gal cannot accept a guy because he does not have all the conditions that the gal is looking for but one fine day this guy make his mark (have all the things) and this gal out of a sudden come back to him, will this guy still consider her?
  
  Well, this is a very hard question to answer. It depends on the guy. If he loves her dearly and had forgiven her for all that she's done to him in the past, then it's okay. Otherwise, it can't be forced, because love cannot be forced. I would be very happy to see that the guy accepts her for all she is and all she has done, because the past is already the past and what's done is done. So let bygones be bygones, and let's not bring them up again.
  
  Also, love takes two. Now, it's the girl's side. The guy now has made his mark, the girl comes back. It's very hard to say lor. Could it be fate? Could it be that he has grown into a better man? Or perhaps could it be the status thing that attracted her to make her way to him? It could be many explanations and we can't simply tell or jump into conclusions, for it's up to the girl & guy.
  
  Of course, when we find find a partner, one must also consider the fact that he/she must have a stable job, with a moderate pay to support the future family. This is essential for every couple. It's reality. But to go for status...?? I would rather suggest that you go look for the ones who also have the above mentioned quality - job stability / moderately paid job.
  
  Last but not least, the above quality is only part of the criteria one should have. Please do not make it the top priority, for character in a person is much much more important, and THAT can last you a lifetime of marriage.
• Nata|ie

  17 Jun 03, 16:58

  Well I guess this happens everywhere. Like a quote I read somewhere, "Don't walk where the path leads, instead leave a trail for others to follow." If everyone is so status conscious, we are no different from being followers, then how can the society advance. With different people working at different levels mean that the country or the society is advancing. If everyone is at the same level, for examply middle management, then who will do all the cleaning, the so-called dirty work?
  
  It is always perceptions that are playing with our thinking. Look with your heart, think with your heart and when you do things without hurting anyone or betrays yourself, then I would say we will never hear any "hurtful" words again.
  
  Only the ignorant will grumble, complain, compare and perceive wrong signals...
  
  
• bus

  17 Jun 03, 19:52

  Originally posted by Nata|ie:

  Well I guess this happens everywhere. Like a quote I read somewhere, "Don't walk where the path leads, instead leave a trail for others to follow." If everyone is so status conscious, we are no different from being followers, then how can the society advance. With different people working at different levels mean that the country or the society is advancing. If everyone is at the same level, for examply middle management, then who will do all the cleaning, the so-called dirty work?
  
  It is always perceptions that are playing with our thinking. Look with your heart, think with your heart and when you do things without hurting anyone or betrays yourself, then I would say we will never hear any "hurtful" words again.
  
  Only the ignorant will grumble, complain, compare and perceive wrong signals...
  
  

  It is not easy to find someone who choose not to be followers as some guys out there mentioned that we or rather the 2 of them must have moderate pay in order to support a family in future. So it will be an uphill task.