Relationships nowadays are so unstable?
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This article is for those who are either in a relationship or still planning to have one. An African proverb states,
“Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye.”
Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, donÂ’t let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs.
Keep your eyes open, and donÂ’t fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious. If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, youÂ’ve got to learn how to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths.
You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to share a life together.
Neither one of you are perfect, but... are you perfect for each other?
Do you bring out the best in each other?
Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control?
What do you bring to the relationship?
Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?
You canÂ’t take someone to the altar to alter them.
You canÂ’t make someone love you or make someone stay.
If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and “a life” you won’t find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain.
Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship.
Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.
What keeps a relationship strong?
Communication
Intimacy
A sense of humor
Sharing household tasks
Some getaway time without business or children
Daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note)
Sharing common goals and interests
Giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure
Giving each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment
If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty and pain replace the passion.
As long as we have memories, yesterday remains.
As long as we have hope, tomorrow awaits.
As long as we have friendship, today is beautiful.
As long as we have mutual life enrichment, love will last forever.
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ehhh uncle ... why so chong hei one?
but then .. sounds pretty "knowledgeable" horr u ..
oh geee ... I've forgotten what you asked?
since relationships are so unstable ... then better not start one ... -
Relation just like bungee jump.. ppl say dangerous.. but why still got ppl do it?
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unstable becoz every1 try to look for 1 perfect partner.
but perfect partner does not exist.
except in jin chen wu (song) - piao zhun ching ren. -
den how to make the relationship stable leh?
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The answer is in the topic 1st posting.
It was a rhetorical question.
~CloneMe~
[This message has been edited by ^3rdWatch (edited 28 April 2002).] -
sorry i not paying attention :p
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why does Clone always use cheem angmoh which I can never understand without referring to the dictionary HUH?
aiyah not stable cos too many temptations out there lah ... -
Joylett ah... next time I will write in machine language or C++... maybe it will make sense to you.
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~CloneMe~
It can't rain all the time. -
then clone... for me leh??
can u just mahjong tiles languge to enlight me....
example ... tong zi can only match tong zi..
if u try to be funny go make 13 wonders. but the chance is very slim. -
Unstable meh? Not really ar..me and my guy have been together for 8 years. I believe that in a relationship, it is built on not only love but also on trust. A relationship is a relation built on a ship, too little it will not float, too much it will sink.
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errrrr ... sounds logical ...
hmmm ... love doesn't behave logically does it?
by the way, how do we define "stable relationship" ? -
1) Stable : n. building in which horses are kept
2) Stable :
a) adj. firm, fixed; not likely to move or change.
b) n. ability to resist change of any kind.
which one do u prefer?
hehehehhe.... -
dina....
then for my previous case leh??
too much trust?? -
Mahjong...
Your previous case not too much trust, rather the both of you don't actually suit one another. One is too stubborn, the other too childish...how to work out leh?
Sorry to say so..hope you dun get angry hor!! but like i said building a relationship is not eay lor....see my quote on the top...
[This message has been edited by Hershey (edited 30 April 2002).] -
ok
kekekek
wont angry la
coz till the day we break
i also dunno wat happen till jess tell me. -
Well mahjong,
Think you will find the perfect one pretty soon lar....just keep praying and open @@ big big...maybe that special one is just next to you but u never notice leh.... -
MJ, you better wear your specs to look clearer.
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~CloneMe~
It can't rain all the time. -
dun wear spec better
everything blur blur like dream
look beautiful -
MJ,
Dun everything blur blur then later mistaken a guy for a gal hor....kekekekeke -
He short-sighted but nose cannot be blurred one...
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Nose blurred? Skali MJ also cannot smell the scent of a woman... only female dogs how?
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~CloneMe~
It can't rain all the time. -
can feel mah... with your hand.....
kekeke
u all know i know can liao la.
better dun say too much
later my notorious level in zzzzland increase again. -
Errhh....just Fyi,
"ah gua" also wear perfume...They are more ladylike than women leh... -
o i c
thxs sotong for trying out ah gua.
hey ladies and gentleman....
please raise and applause for sotong..
he have sacrafice himself to get us this piece of important info.....