:: Singles Club CRapbox 6::
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i miss my aussie home..
can see the stars, moon and comets in the sky...
can see the mountains in the far distance..
can see the horizon where the sky touches the land...
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A song dedicated to the miserable: Misery
And some help on getting over it: Every guy has at least one buddy who takes everything too seriously, who b*tches and moans over minute details, or who insists on dissecting his actions or behavior incessantly. ItÂ’s often a quality mistaken for seriousness, intelligence or high stress. Then one day it dawns on you: Your buddy is a drama queen.
At first, it feels awkward labeling him with a decidedly feminine term, but thereÂ’s no mistaking it, especially when you recall how often youÂ’ve sat listening to his epic narratives: the hardship he endured when his car was towed, his colossal miscues with women, or the yarn he spins each time catastrophe strikes at work.
Hurting someoneÂ’s feelings, getting a speeding ticket, saying something inappropriateÂ… These things may trigger some form of regret, but wallowing in our lesser screwups is no way to live. As a public service, we present the following four steps to getting over it, calculated to dismiss lifeÂ’s petty tragedies, and to eliminate that worthless regret.
#1 Disengage yourself
Seriously, stop kicking yourself. What did you do? Did you screw up a job interview because you couldnÂ’t answer what your strengths and weaknesses are? Or did you park your car in the wrong place and have it towed? The first step to getting over it is to stop dwelling on whatever happened and to stop replaying the situation in your head. Extract it from your mind by giving yourself some distance from the issue. A little perspective goes a long way.
This is the first step toward getting over it and freeing yourself of that pointless streak of narcissism -- the one that insists that everything you do, every effort you put forth in the world, bears some importance.
Good news: It doesnÂ’t. Get over it.
#2 Look the problem in the eye
So there you were, in the elevator alone with the woman youÂ’ve been crushing on for months. For 10 floors, you worked up the nerve to say hi, and when you finally opened your mouth, you dislodged some lunch from your teeth. You both watched it land on her blouse. And you couldn't get away fast enough.
Disengaging from this event means looking your screwup in the eye like a man: It was embarrassing, but why does it still embarrass you a day later? All too often, we unknowingly approach these unfortunate blips through a marginalized version of the five stages of grief:
1- Denial: “Tell me that didn’t just happen.”
2- Anger: “Ah! Why did I pass up those toothpicks at the hostess station?”
3- Bargaining: “What I wouldn’t give for a do-over…”
4- Depression: “I suck.”
5- Acceptance: "I can laugh about that now.”
Good news: You can skip straight to No. 5 when getting over it, since the alternative involves moping self-pity.
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that's wat i am doing now.... even if i got them done before the year end, i am just gona get more dish out to me. Dun see the point of working hard when i am still getting the same pay. Sometime, i wonder if keeping a knee high stack in the in tray portrayed me as a hard worker then one that's 1/2 empty.Originally posted by soleachip:I'm inclined to bring forward all work due before Dec 31 2007 - helps me feel like a working person at the start of a prosperous new year.
Think i would love to witness my 1st ever sunrise by the beach this coming new year. If only i have a love one to share the moment with.
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Should be ok one lah.... even if melt.... will still take quite a while mah.. see enough liao just run loh.... if not can use protection mah...Originally posted by aHGer^83:hannor hannor...
31 dec 1999 watch sunrise until 1 jan 2000.... awake til 4th jan 2000....
den i slept thru in the later day of 4 jan 2000 til 6 jan 2000...
unforgetable Y2k...
den i tell myself nv.. NEVER to watch sunrise again...
BUT........ this yr suddenly wanna watch sunrise lei... dunno y...
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#3 Assess the consequences
Oh, the consequences! Freeing your car from the tow yard set you back 100 bucks -- the same 100 bucks that was earmarked for something else. And now youÂ’re screwed because without that you canÂ’t go out Saturday night, which just so happens to be the night you've been planning to work up the nerve to talk to the brunette. ItÂ’s just your luck.
Well, this is just the crap that happens in life to try your patience. YouÂ’re obsessing, connecting dots and knocking dominoes for no good reason. A consequence is defined by outcome and results. You can very easily be guilty of laying the groundwork for those consequences before the fact. When getting over it, donÂ’t victimize yourself with iffy repercussions. ThereÂ’s a legal principle called nulla poena sine lege; it means you canÂ’t be punished for breaking a law that doesnÂ’t yet exist; by the same token, donÂ’t punish yourself over consequences that have yet to occur.
#4 Postpone further discussion
Finally, while getting over it, set a point in the near future -- a day, a week, whatever you need -- when you will allow yourself to talk about this topic again. Set a reminder on your computer so that it pops up in a few days.
Done right and executed by someone of sound mind, this exercise will get very old very quickly, but thatÂ’s the point. This reminder is useful in getting over it because it is designed to drive home the fact that the world is a busy place full of imperfections and that your mistake is just that -- a mistake. And itÂ’s only the latest mistake in the thousands you will make before you die.
So, get over it, and move on to the next one!
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sunrise in gold coast...
Very nice... but dont have the skill to take photo of nice sunrise...
The sunrise only remains in my memory
Suddenly, I thought of chip's expertise liao...
But maybe, chip wont be able to take the sunrise tat I want... coz, she probably wont appreciate it as much as I do...
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summer gg to over ?Originally posted by GHoST_18:summer -
pls bring a bath tub n put me back into some whr dark after sunrise...Originally posted by EarlNeo:Should be ok one lah.... even if melt.... will still take quite a while mah.. see enough liao just run loh.... if not can use protection mah... -
Watching sunrise is juz another reason i gave myself so that i dun have to go back that early.
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nope.... not even 1/2 way there...... but will in 2 month time.Originally posted by aHGer^83:summer gg to over ? -
Too much work.... rather just let it evaporate. Dusts to dusts... ah ger to nothing....Originally posted by aHGer^83:pls bring a bath tub n put me back into some whr dark after sunrise...
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Originally posted by EarlNeo:Too much work.... rather just let it evaporate. Dusts to dusts... ah ger to nothing....
hey.. it's a great idea too... -
but still... animals that are gg in hibernation.. shld be collecting food right?Originally posted by EarlNeo:nope.... not even 1/2 way there...... but will in 2 month time.
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Oh... i think i had abit just too much fatty food liao.... had a couple of ger complaining that i could use gym time to cut some the weight loss...Originally posted by aHGer^83:but still... animals that are gg in hibernation.. shld be collecting food right?
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i just realise that he's always not there when i need him....
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zou gang? wat is that? think i am counting down liao.... to the time i am getting off work... still got 1.5hrs.....Originally posted by GHoST_18:everyone bo zou gang...
keeps chatting...
Will take a nap 1st b4 getting my hair coloured again......
So... will only sms ppl abt the outing after i woke up.... -
guess i'll be spending the night with classmates at vivo then..
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I believe the better moments of my life were spent disengaged from cameras. It's corny melancholia romanticizing the sunrise though on the topic of sun, I found a mediocre sight taken by the river - my bike driver understood "It's so beautiful" in English so he stopped and I was too polite to NOT at least snap one.Originally posted by ispyyy:
sunrise in gold coast...
Very nice... but dont have the skill to take photo of nice sunrise...
The sunrise only remains in my memory
Suddenly, I thought of chip's expertise liao...
But maybe, chip wont be able to take the sunrise tat I want... coz, she probably wont appreciate it as much as I do... -
here it is
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Somehow... i still feel the impaling doom over my head instead of the calm saviour on the horizon.Originally posted by soleachip: here it is -
haha... glad i came close to ruining the mood.Originally posted by EarlNeo:Somehow... i still feel the impaling doom over my head instead of the calm saviour on the horizon. -
Nah it is shot like this that make life interesting..... itis nice btw.... atleast it aint cheesy...Originally posted by soleachip:haha... glad i came close to ruining the mood. -
if there is one thing that u can set out to do and put right in the coming year.. what would that be? And please dun say WORLD peace!!!!
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be nice to everyone i meet
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that is a good start. But me wonder why we have to be nice ppl we meet? even stranger? Cant we just be indifferent?Originally posted by Father Lim:be nice to everyone i meet