Respect the Silence
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Well, ever been in a situation when silence between 2 parties is so glaring that it threatens to swallow u into the ground?
I have encountered such situations numerous times.... on the phone, when i am with close friends...
But ultimately, sometimes i feel, that rather then to attempt to break the ice, we should respect the silence.
Just becoz someone isn't talking doesn't mean he/she is being unfrenly or lacking in social skills.
I feel, everyone is entitled to a little bit of their own private garden. Whether they are alone, with frens or with a crowd of frens & strangers. As such, when someone is silent, we should respect that little privacy they are having alone with themselves at that moment.
Ah well, dun really know what i am talking about at the moment.
Would like to know what u people feel about this
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"I am one of her many but she is my one and only" -
EcK:
I respect the silence, but I like it better when you talk.
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true, true. point agreed. =)
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Well,
Most ppl think that communication is very important so when you dun talk, it must be that you are moody/upset/angry/tired.
Yes, respect the silence.
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I think....
Gal's view: If both parties are quiet, the gal will think that the guy must be unhappy or disagree with wat the gal say. So, at this point of time, the gal will usually start to kan jiong..
But for guy's point of view???
Me not really sure. -
not really.....
if i'm with someone i don't really know, for example, going out with a guy like net friend or something liddat, i'll be extra quiet... coz i've got nothing to say.....would be thinking of saying something, but that thing will not come out...as in it'll still end up in my mind....hee~ -
Yes...
REspect the silence.
Though I agree with that, I was asked this question once:
If you want to have a moment alone, why did you choose to come out?
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to lex: dunno where i read this, think it's from an e-mail.
a best friend is one whom u can just sit and not talk with, and yet walk away (home) feeling as if ur load is lifted....dunno how true this is....
anyway, it's rather true i must say....if you wan silence, mights well stay at home, or even go to the library.... -
Well,
I answer back with:
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Personally speaking, I think it is a biological fault.
With our 5 senses, we wanna use it all the time. Thus when deprived of it, some tend to get nervy about it.
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Don't quite agree with the "dun want to talk, then dun come out" thingy.
Sometimes, a good fren's company is very therapuetic (correct spelling ?). Just his company is enuff, doesn't really have to tok much.
Sometimes when i am down, troubled, i will just ask my good fren out for some food or go to our childhood hangouts. And i can be quite silent. But I feel a lot better after that. And him, does not even know that I am troubled.
Well, I will say that I am perfectly comfortable with a person when I can enjoy silence with him/her without feeling the least awkward. -
littleman: point agreed. but notice sometimes, if u are in a bad mood, and u go out with a buncha frenz, thy'll spend their time cheering u up, instead of having fun like they agreed to. ok, so that's what a friends supposed to do, but if the friend is unable to cheer u up, they'll in turn go home down-spirited, a direct contrast to the happiness/cheerfulness they felt when they set off from home to the destination of "fun"
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Well, that's why i added the word "good" in front of the word "friend". If I am down, i will make sure that my friends are not affected by me. Thus I will choose the correct person to go out with. Someone who will just let me be who i am, no need to cheer me up or wat --> my *good* friend.Originally posted by t|rEd:littleman: point agreed. but notice sometimes, if u are in a bad mood, and u go out with a buncha frenz, thy'll spend their time cheering u up, instead of having fun like they agreed to. ok, so that's what a friends supposed to do, but if the friend is unable to cheer u up, they'll in turn go home down-spirited, a direct contrast to the happiness/cheerfulness they felt when they set off from home to the destination of "fun"
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But...
If you dun communicate enough, can you be considered good friends?
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Communication between friends may not need to be through words. Actions, body languages and the simple act of sharing something is just as good if not better....
A good fren would understand the need for u to be alone in your thoughts and that u just need someone beside u at that moment.
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"I am one of her many but she is my one and only" -
Yeah,
If you have a friend who insist that you talk all the time?
When you fall silent, he/she will break the ice everytime no matter what?
Will you get irritated?
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sometimes i guess....i mean, people should know when to talk, and when not to talk right? for me, it's like, if i wanna talk bout what's troubling me, i will. just dun pester me, or try to cheer me up for god knows what reason....i won't really b irritated, but there are such moments when i'd like to be alone....to think....i think, friends should know when to "break the ice" and when not to......
just my opinion. -
I think that the silence will happen when two parties are learning about each other!
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See Ya!
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hmm.....do u mind explaining wat do u mean by learning bout each other?Originally posted by leenusg:I think that the silence will happen when two parties are learning about each other! -
Hello? u mean u dun feel awkward????? imagine 1 person juz aitting there doing nothing but staring at each other.....
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SimLe....u R LoVeD
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Hm...
Friends can be like lovers; stare into each other eyes without saying anything.
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Aiyah, people go party, BBQ, keep quiet for what? Might as well stay at home. Parties are for making noise and talking cock what, scared what?
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KTE:
You like to stay at home ah?
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ay yah just keep talking loh....hehehehehe
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i am a hardcore Metallic! No pain no Glory!!!!! -
I'll eat you all...Originally posted by Carrots:ay yah just keep talking loh....hehehehehe
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