for women, their grouses are their in-laws interfering in their lives and to their hubbies, they are not romantic enough, unlike before marriage. for men, their grouses will be their wives incessant non stop nagging.
a word of caution to women, if you always nag and scold your hubby, your hubby love to you with diminish with every of your nag and scolding. pls bear that in mind.
It seems your grudges against your job is taking a toil on your family.