i hate my family
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Where got family perfect one?
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i am going to ruin my life. so that they regret that they ever give birth to me. this is my best revenge to them. the more they want to control what i become, the farther away i will be. i can be excellent. but i don't want to be because that would gratify them.
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TS, your rationale seems warped.
You do your best to excel because you love yourself and want to be the best you can be - to be a credit to yourself, not to gratify anybody or your family.
Your choosing not to excel because this would "gratify your family" is just an excuse not to actually do it (excel).
Your family may be fucked up. Things around you may be screwed up. But none of these should ever be an excuse not to be the best that you can be.........
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yeah why you wanna fuck yourself if your family drags you down.
i get sick of covering up after my folks too but hell no am i gonna be like them.
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fuck all of u who hate ur family.knnb ccb!!if not for ur father mother,u wont fucking around in this world u fucking ungrateful assholes
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Hi AhTiong,
You must be suffering a lot. Hum, someone asked who got prefect family, and that is true. Their (parents) duties is to bring us to this earth. Following that, is to bring us up properly, which many may not know how, and I am one in the number.
I left school at 15, what O-level. But I plunge into school again, got enough points to do a 4 yrs diploma without honour in Ngee Ann, follow by a degree. My parents help? hum . . . never.
Have you ever come home and witness that your room was cleared? Yea, my books, notes from poly was thrown away. :) Interesting yea?
Whatever their responsible was, it was restricted to the first 20 yrs or less, beyond that, we need to answer to the society and ourselves.
I saw problem at home, and decieded at young age not to let the problem cascade down wards, else i will be like them. I cannot save the society, let alone the world. But I determine to do what i can. Like offering free tuition to orphanage etc. Of cause, to have children and bring them up to be useful to the society.
Let them (your parents) go, and look beyond your horizon. You are, in the end, to answer to your own action. Many in the society with bad parents made it, and i believe you too have to capability to do so.
I wish you the best.
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4 years diploma without honour in ngee ann means traveller70 repeated 1 year in poly?
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Hi Chester,
Yes, :). Failed a subject, and repeated for the entire year. That was the old system.
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Originally posted by ahtiong:
hate my family to the core. full of problems. i can never get any good fm here. everytime i come near my family, i feel depressed and get into trouble. stupid parents who are dumb and unable to make wise decisions.
fuck up stupid and messed up.
the only times when i feel happy and liberated is when i am away fm home. fucking life revolves around family. can't seem to get away fm it no matter how i hard i try. must be a huge debt i owe them fm my past life.
fuck. i not stupid but because of stupid parents my career gets stalled, my life is stalled. fuck you all. i hate this stupid family
it is hatred that makes you and your parents unhappy. you are responsible for your own happiness. why make yourself unhappy just because of your parents, isn't that very stupid ? you must tell yourself, you want to live a happier life than your family members because you are smarter than them. you must strive for a better life and show them that you are different from them. wish you good luck !
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hatred... no matter how much one hates, they are still family...
just wish they are doing better so that when i chiong for my dream, i don't have to keep looking back, worrying and change course to provide for them. often i am torn between my aspirations and guilt. i don't know how much proportion is this guilt self-imposed or imposed by them through their words and action.
do u know nowadays i no longer share details abt my life with my family, especially parents. last night, my dad asked me how come i "don't dare" to tell him what i do. i didn't say it to him, but it's because in his eyes nothing that i do is good enough. one evening i was out working, and when i came back for dinner before going out again, he made sarcastic remarks. it made me sad n angry cos i was out working to earn money and here he was looking down on my work. later that night, i didn't do so well cos my mood spoilt. so many incidents like this happened, so that i have closed myself to them. over the years, this affected my character and i become less trusting to open up to people. have problem getting close to people too because afraid of being hurt.
anyway, this is the deck of cards that i have been dealt with. so i hv to learn to do the best with what i have. i dunno for how long i can live. so far in my life, i can say i have tried my best to live a life true and honest to myself. whatever calling i feel, i have put myself out for it, battling not only internal but also external factors. whatever the outcome, let it be. most importantly, don't live a life of regrets
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I hate my family too..but i just want their money and the house after they die.
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Originally posted by ahtiong:
hatred... no matter how much one hates, they are still family...
just wish they are doing better so that when i chiong for my dream, i don't have to keep looking back, worrying and change course to provide for them. often i am torn between my aspirations and guilt. i don't know how much proportion is this guilt self-imposed or imposed by them through their words and action.
do u know nowadays i no longer share details abt my life with my family, especially parents. last night, my dad asked me how come i "don't dare" to tell him what i do. i didn't say it to him, but it's because in his eyes nothing that i do is good enough. one evening i was out working, and when i came back for dinner before going out again, he made sarcastic remarks. it made me sad n angry cos i was out working to earn money and here he was looking down on my work. later that night, i didn't do so well cos my mood spoilt. so many incidents like this happened, so that i have closed myself to them. over the years, this affected my character and i become less trusting to open up to people. have problem getting close to people too because afraid of being hurt.
anyway, this is the deck of cards that i have been dealt with. so i hv to learn to do the best with what i have. i dunno for how long i can live. so far in my life, i can say i have tried my best to live a life true and honest to myself. whatever calling i feel, i have put myself out for it, battling not only internal but also external factors. whatever the outcome, let it be. most importantly, don't live a life of regrets
don't care what your father says. they are old and sometimes talk nonsense. my dad used to talk nonsense too. he always compares me with my cousins who are lawyers and doctors but i don't feel inferior at all. i told myself, i am better than my dad because i feel happier than him. i don't compare myself with others.
my father lives miserably because he likes to compare.人比人气æ»äºº. whenever he compares me with my cousins, i will just switch off, let him go and nag. i live freely and happily, contended with what i have. unlike my cousins, some are married into super wealthy family and i understand that they are under a lot of pressure from those super wealthy in laws. ha ha ha.
happy or not is up to you, don't let anybody affect you, not even your closest ones like your parents. in their generation, they do not know what is happiness and freedom, they only know money and status.
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Originally posted by ahtiong:
hatred... no matter how much one hates, they are still family...
just wish they are doing better so that when i chiong for my dream, i don't have to keep looking back, worrying and change course to provide for them. often i am torn between my aspirations and guilt. i don't know how much proportion is this guilt self-imposed or imposed by them through their words and action.
do u know nowadays i no longer share details abt my life with my family, especially parents. last night, my dad asked me how come i "don't dare" to tell him what i do. i didn't say it to him, but it's because in his eyes nothing that i do is good enough. one evening i was out working, and when i came back for dinner before going out again, he made sarcastic remarks. it made me sad n angry cos i was out working to earn money and here he was looking down on my work. later that night, i didn't do so well cos my mood spoilt. so many incidents like this happened, so that i have closed myself to them. over the years, this affected my character and i become less trusting to open up to people. have problem getting close to people too because afraid of being hurt.
anyway, this is the deck of cards that i have been dealt with. so i hv to learn to do the best with what i have. i dunno for how long i can live. so far in my life, i can say i have tried my best to live a life true and honest to myself. whatever calling i feel, i have put myself out for it, battling not only internal but also external factors. whatever the outcome, let it be. most importantly, don't live a life of regrets
You see, the thing about comparing actually has its good and bad. Bad in a sense you are never contented and always greedy for more, there are always people thats ''better'' than you and of course ''worse'' than you are. Good in a sense you strive to improve yourself to a higher level.
If thats your dream, tell your parents honestly. I believe in doing things with passion. What is your dream exactly and your course ? If your parents fail to think in your shoes, thats their own personal opinions. Do what you thing is best for yourself and for your future.
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perhaps the awakening truth usually comes when one becomes a parent
parents were once young and begrudges the stupidity of old folks...now its their turn to be begrudged by their own babies held in their arms over and over again