Originally posted by rooki:
DAMN.
Everywhere I go I see perverts and crazed maniacs.
Those benign, nerdy-looking ones turn out to be the worst ones of all. Fetishes of all sorts.
Those 'studs' and 'sluts' also. Bragging about their sexual conquests like nobody's business.
Seriously, why is everyone so obsessed with sex? Now, before you call me a deprived virgin, I have never understood why sex is so pervasive in society. Isn't it only for reproduction? Isn't the pleasure associated with it a bonus, like the pleasure one feels after eating? Why aren't there food fetishes?
Why aren't there more celibates? The effectiveness of IVF should make having sex for reproduction redundant. Why doesn't sex get banned altogether, given that it has the potential to cause such all-consuming and unhealthy desires in people?[/i]
Hi Rooki,
If you are a teen, this may contradict with what you have been brought up to understand....if you are open minded, then read on....
Do you know that the oldest profession in the history of civilization is prostitution? (Forgot source but correct me if i'm wrong).
Just like we need 3 meals a day (more for some0, when the time comes, the human body crave for sex. That's nature's way of making sure we survive extinction.
Anything obsessive is bad - be it binge on food, drugs, stealing, internet etc....sex is no different. The only difference is the approach and execution of such activities. An internet whore will be despised by her peers and so is a sex-deprived-depraved loser. Do things with moderation, integrity and respect others and oneself is crucial here.
For the record, most sex perverts have decent jobs. Those loose talks here are merely rants and losers losing steam. [Indulging in own's obsession is indeed a way to relief tension.] They are perverts because they dunno how and when to get it, and get it correctly without being a jerk in the society.
Sex should be beautiful, dirty, exciting, messy, whatever as long as 2 people [or more!] gain from it equally. What is equal? That will be a difficult qns to answer. Will leave it for another day.
If sex is merely for reproduction, then, I'm sorry to tell you you will be a bore to your spouse and if you spouse has craving and not getting it, he/she will look for it elsewhere. Just like a good doting husband or a wife that can cook really well, sex is important.
Some use sex to retain/maintain a relationship. Short term good and long term...well depends. Again, that's another topic.
You cannot ban everything. Learn to understand why people do certain things and see if it matches your values. Do you understand your values?