Do people appreciate your kindness towards them?
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Sianz tot I am doing a goodwill by helping my students to check which universities they can apply to with their diploma...then I told them some universities might be able to help them transfer credit based on what they are studying now, but how many credits i cant really say cos it is based on case by case basis...
turned out that they think the diploma is useless cos they cant even get a credit transfer to waive one year off the total 3 years of degree program. then they tried to blame it on me and told my manager that I told them the diploma is useless. I have never even said that
and i had thought they have treated me better these last few weeks. In the end got me into a pile of sh!t instead with my manager
Kindness does not beget kindness
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moral of the story?
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Walao.. now den u know ah.. be glad when out of 5 times of doing good deeds.. 1 will repay in kind.
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erm....welcome to the world....??
hope things between u your students and your manager is ok now.... -
read my last sentence of my rantOriginally posted by anhydrouscoppersulphate:moral of the story? -
no lor. should continue to be kind towards people who will appreciate it. cannot bcoz of that dont help anyone at allOriginally posted by rainee:read my last sentence of my rant -
It's their problem. Not your business.
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my manager called me in for a meeting with him just now..Originally posted by udontknowme:erm....welcome to the world....??
hope things between u your students and your manager is ok now....
told me not to tell this kinda thing to my students...
i told him i never told them the diploma is useless, i said it will definitely be more helpful if they have the diploma to accompany their secondary school certs since they didnt do well there...then i asked my manager, like this say is wrong meh? -
how do you know they will appreciate it?Originally posted by anhydrouscoppersulphate:no lor. should continue to be kind towards people who will appreciate it. cannot bcoz of that dont help anyone at all
i tot they appreciate it, cos one of them specially bought me a bag full of cookies yesterday...
then didnt know she was also one of the students who complained against me just now... -
Implications do matter, just like looks.Originally posted by rainee:my manager called me in for a meeting with him just now..
told me not to tell this kinda thing to my students...
i told him i never told them the diploma is useless, i said it will definitely be more helpful if they have the diploma to accompany their secondary school certs since they didnt do well there...then i asked my manager, like this say is wrong meh? -
One of the most frequently used full-proof saying in life: Mind your own business.
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but you did help them. your conscience is clearOriginally posted by rainee:how do you know they will appreciate it?
i tot they appreciate it, cos one of them specially bought me a bag full of cookies yesterday...
then didnt know she was also one of the students who complained against me just now... -
my colleague actually told me to say this to my students yesterday. said dun get involved with all this kinda thing, later you will get yourself into deep sh!t. Cos he has experience with this kinda stuff already in his previous working place...Originally posted by CoolMyth:It's their problem. Not your business.
then i guess i want to be helpful to my students and when they came to me to ask for advice, i tried my best to give them...didnt know they will misunderstand... -
dunno la, like this dunno how to help them liao, cos they are asking me questions i cant answer. i asked them to go and contact those universities themselves to get the answer, they asked me to pity them and said they do not know how to write an e-mail inquiring about this kinda thing...Originally posted by Herzog_Zwei:Implications do matter, just like looks.
some universities will definitely be able to offer them more credits, some wun, i oledi told them it is case by case basis ma, so hard to understand meh? -
Sometimes, human actions do not match what the mind is trying to do. Dun worry, with more experience, this kind of thing shall not happen too often again.Originally posted by rainee:my colleague actually told me to say this to my students yesterday. said dun get involved with all this kinda thing, later you will get yourself into deep sh!t. Cos he has experience with this kinda stuff already in his previous working place...
then i guess i want to be helpful to my students and when they came to me to ask for advice, i tried my best to give them...didnt know they will misunderstand... -
but hard leh, cos they are my students and they kept pestering me to answer their questions...Originally posted by Gackt247:One of the most frequently used full-proof saying in life: Mind your own business. -
yea la, but from now on tink i will be more reluctant to help them liaozOriginally posted by anhydrouscoppersulphate:but you did help them. your conscience is clear -
Think I've said this before... but never mind....
As a medic, I've helped many people before during NS. Injuries out in the field, in camp, you name it.... I've come to the aid of people with all sorts of ailments ranging from minor cuts to life-threatening heatstroke.
And were all of them grateful? Sadly, no. Some of them would bully me week in, week out just because I was the only JC student around without the rank of 3SG. In their eyes, all JC students = elites = must-bully-that-guy....
But do I hate them? Frankly speaking, no. Their lack of conscience doesn't worry me at all. If they want to bully some fella who has put in so much effort into helping them, then that's their problem.
When I finally got my 3SG rank, they all got cold feet and started leaving me alone, knowing that I could now exact revenge on them. Did I do so? No. Because if I did, I would be no better than any of them.
In the end, my conscience is clear, and what I believe is that when the time comes for me to face God, I can honestly say that I did the right thing in this respect.
I still refuse to hate those buggers.
I just pity them for their lack of conscience, that's all. -
dunno la, maybe i use some words that cause them to misunderstand me...Originally posted by CoolMyth:Sometimes, human actions do not match what the mind is trying to do. Dun worry, with more experience, this kind of thing shall not happen too often again.
yea hopefully wun happen again, next time i will just direct them to my manager or assistant manager when they have this kinda queries -
In the end, just remember this: Do not allow irresponsible people make you feel responsible for their actions.Originally posted by rainee:dunno la, maybe i use some words that cause them to misunderstand me...
yea hopefully wun happen again, next time i will just direct them to my manager or assistant manager when they have this kinda queries
You are responsible for your own actions only. In the end, if you've done your part and did your best to help others, then you would have done the right thing. If they insist on biting the hand that feeds them, then that's their problem. They would just have to learn the hard way that to bit the hand that feeds you is an easy way to get your teeth broken off.
Do not let their lack of conscience trouble you... just keep your conscience clear. -
yea true.Originally posted by fudgester:In the end, just remember this: Do not allow irresponsible people make you feel responsible for their actions.
You are responsible for your own actions only. In the end, if you've done your part and did your best to help others, then you would have done the right thing. If they insist on biting the hand that feeds them, then that's their problem. They would just have to learn the hard way that to bit the hand that feeds you is an easy way to get your teeth broken off.
Do not let their lack of conscience trouble you... just keep your conscience clear.
i will just choose to ignore them. anyway they wun be in my class for long le. i just hope they will pass their exams, if not they will most definitely blame me as well -
With reference to the words in red, I sense that you still somewhat feel responsible for them should they blame you for their failure.Originally posted by rainee:yea true.
i will just choose to ignore them. anyway they wun be in my class for long le. i just hope they will pass their exams, if not they will most definitely blame me as well
The bottom line is simple: don't. Just teach them as well as you can and to the best of your efforts. In the end, whether or not they pass their exams depends heavily on their efforts. As long as you've put in the effort, then you've done your part.
If they choose not to do their part and blame you for it, then to heck with 'em.
They are grown men and women now... if they're THAT irresponsible, then I can't help but feel sorry for them. -
can't help feeling responsible haiz...Originally posted by fudgester:With reference to the words in red, I sense that you still somewhat feel responsible for them should they blame you for their failure.
The bottom line is simple: don't. Just teach them as well as you can and to the best of your efforts. In the end, whether or not they pass their exams depends heavily on their efforts. As long as you've put in the effort, then you've done your part.
If they choose not to do their part and blame you for it, then to heck with 'em.
They are grown men and women now... if they're THAT irresponsible, then I can't help but feel sorry for them. -
Depending on badly they screw things up for me, I might use my rank to do something about it.(like almost causing me to lose life and limb pranks.)Originally posted by fudgester:Think I've said this before... but never mind....
As a medic, I've helped many people before during NS. Injuries out in the field, in camp, you name it.... I've come to the aid of people with all sorts of ailments ranging from minor cuts to life-threatening heatstroke.
And were all of them grateful? Sadly, no. Some of them would bully me week in, week out just because I was the only JC student around without the rank of 3SG. In their eyes, all JC students = elites = must-bully-that-guy....
But do I hate them? Frankly speaking, no. Their lack of conscience doesn't worry me at all. If they want to bully some fella who has put in so much effort into helping them, then that's their problem.
When I finally got my 3SG rank, they all got cold feet and started leaving me alone, knowing that I could now exact revenge on them. Did I do so? No. Because if I did, I would be no better than any of them.
In the end, my conscience is clear, and what I believe is that when the time comes for me to face God, I can honestly say that I did the right thing in this respect.
I still refuse to hate those buggers.
I just pity them for their lack of conscience, that's all. -
does it matter?
on the wall of the Mother Teresa's home for children:
People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered.
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives.
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies.
Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and sincere people may deceive you.
Be honest and sincere anyway.
What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight.
Create anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous.
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, will often be forgotten.
Do good anyway.
Give the best you have, and it will never be enough.
Give your best anyway.
In the final analysis, it is between you and God.
It was never between you and them anyway.
or if you are not particularly religious, these are the "Paradoxical Commandments"...
People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.
If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.
If you are successful, you win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.
The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.
Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.
The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.
People favour underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.
What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.
People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.
Give the world the best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway.