Just wondering if anyone of you experience this at work.
You are not close with your collegues. In fact you purposely keep a distance from them because you know they are always gossiping about you. You have real evidence that they are really gossiping and talking bad about you and not just being suspicious.
For example, when you are in the toilet shitting and than your collegues walk into the toilet to pee and they don't know that you are in the cubicle shitting and than they talk bad about you. In fact you are in the cubicle and you hear all the bad things that they talk about you.
They are watching your every move in the office. If your boss/manager is not in the office, than your collegues will watch you and than report to the boss/manager on what you are doing. They will always gossip about the mistakes that you make but never talk about the correct and excellent things that you do.
You absolutely have no freedom in the office as they are always spying on you. You feel very nervous and stress and are afraid that you will make mistakes as you know they will tell your boss/manager.
When there are things you are not sure you don't really dare to ask your collegues because you are scare they will tell your manager/boss that you don't know how to do your job and you are stupid.
Anyone face such a situation in the office? Is this a very common situation in the office? Do you think it is better to quit if your workplace is such a terrible situation?
usually such people seldam change jobs and fear changing jobs. they cannot adapt in a new environment and only know stuff about things around them, they work with or communicate about. don't be like them
don't be afraid of them. but also don't be too hostile and always avoiding them. whatever things they do to you, treat them back lovingly. like buy gifts such as food, biscuits, coffee in the pantry. also make sure they don't advantage of you. be a team player, show them you can learn even you make mistakes and it seems that the problem lies in you.
they love you so much that they care to gossip and watch you so that is their problem. you have no issues with them so that is still ok.
Originally posted by Chin_ChinKun:don't be afraid of them. but also don't be too hostile and always avoiding them. whatever things they do to you, treat them back lovingly. like buy gifts such as food, biscuits, coffee in the pantry. also make sure they don't advantage of you. be a team player, show them you can learn even you make mistakes and it seems that the problem lies in you.
they love you so much that they care to gossip and watch you so that is their problem. you have no issues with them so that is still ok.
usually they are like beast, they feel safety and prefer to live in a pack. in a group they will feel no one can buly them but they can bully people, with words. bosses also usually like it this way so attention can be diverted to one individual and no one will traget problems at bosses.
buy them food and treats ? i mean will that boost their ego or make them feel better. i never know since my childhood that you have to do this to make thing so low.
i used to have one boss, always ask people go eat because they got company marney spend, then got one guy very loud when hear eat only quickly always very loud come lah go eat then go eat jap food like he is expert jap like that.
that's why i look see them all no up, no matter what the race or class.
Originally posted by Chin_ChinKun:don't be afraid of them. but also don't be too hostile and always avoiding them. whatever things they do to you, treat them back lovingly. like buy gifts such as food, biscuits, coffee in the pantry. also make sure they don't advantage of you. be a team player, show them you can learn even you make mistakes and it seems that the problem lies in you.
they love you so much that they care to gossip and watch you so that is their problem. you have no issues with them so that is still ok.
Is that what you do in the office? Buy gifts for your collegues etc?
Just mind your own business and do your work. You work to live, not live to work, unless you follow PAP.
Originally posted by ztreyier:Just mind your own business and do your work. You work to live, not live to work, unless you follow PAP.
Why must mind your own business and do your work.
Can resign and find a new job too what
Originally posted by keeptouch:Can resign and find a new job too what
Everywhere is the same unless you are the boss.
Wow.. u must be the type.. ppl see liaw first instance liaw will beh song de ar. lol
Anyways.. its impossible to win all ur colleagues de favour.
Originally posted by BadzMaro:Wow.. u must be the type.. ppl see liaw first instance liaw will beh song de ar. lol
Anyways.. its impossible to win all ur colleagues de favour.
No lar.
Its like when a new staff comes into the office, everybody else is already a clinque and than all eyes will be on you and mouths will be gossiping about you
Originally posted by ztreyier:Everywhere is the same unless you are the boss.
So that means you are facing this situation too?
Originally posted by keeptouch:
Is that what you do in the office? Buy gifts for your collegues etc?