IMO, the version 10 of real player is a good improvement
most websites require realplayer, so i got no choice but to install it
version 10 is easier to change its settings & more features
- for its spyware problem, you can try rename some of its file so that it will never reload again
- set your firewall to "prompt" any connection made by realplayer. This way, you can allow the connection to play multimedia while you are able to block its self-updating connections
- if possible, disable cookies in "tools" in realplayer
- do a manual updating (once a month?) instead of permitting automatic updating
note: Should you need to install real player 10, you should first uninstall "real alternative" {if you owns one). Otherwise, real player 10 might not work properly. (my desktop is still experiencing this problem

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