How to be assertive?
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do you have any problem being assertive?
I seem to have a lot of trouble being that. And it has led to trouble with a lot of people i.e my supervisor, my colleague, my ex crush...all these ppl just seem to take advantage of my soft-heartedness...
my ex crush overnighted at my place yesterday and then this morning he went thru my PC when I was still sleeping...when i woke up I found out he was watching my anime series, I dunno what else he has gone thru...
then my supervisor upset me by giving my hours to another worker...my colleague din show any respect to me even tho I have a higher seniority than her *sigh*
seems like I am continuously stuck with all these people...and sometimes it is really hard for me to tell them what they have done makes me really angry and displeased...they will think I won't mind if I don't say anything and repeat what they have done all over again...I am beginning to feel like Sammi Cheng in the movie Needing You
i.c.y -
4 words:
Live and let live.
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you want me to do nothing to these incorrigible ppl who take advantage of me?Originally posted by ditzy:4 words:
Live and let live.
i.c.y -
What do I want to do?
Why must I do it?
What will I get in return upon doing it?
Will I get what I expect?
What if I don't
Will things really change for the better?
What if not?
Is it really worth the trouble?
What about me? -
yea, i like dat last line. sumtimes i think too much abt others...Originally posted by ditzy:What do I want to do?
Why must I do it?
What will I get in return upon doing it?
Will I get what I expect?
What if I don't
Will things really change for the better?
What if not?
Is it really worth the trouble?
What about me?
i.c.y -
i ewent on a course once on this subject.
u just be firm and speak your mind. practise 'broken record' meaning u repeat a few times till the person gets the msg. eg if u are handling a complaint, u empathise with them but u stand firm & tell them sorry it cannot be done.
Handling a junior staff- tell her what is expected of her, if she doesn't do it, ask her to give u a good explanation, if not u will have to report her behaviour to your boss.
Practice it daily and u find it won't be easy for pple to bully u. -
tat is life. sometime....might as we dun like we still have to accept tat it can never be fair
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I got back 2 hours, and my supervisor said he will be give me another 1 or 2 hours if it is available...
I think I must have looked quite fierce when I was arguing with him yesterday morning...
i.c.y