He said...

• icyprincess

  17 Oct 04, 16:00

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  just go through your time there and concentrate on your work and studies...
  
  maybe in time, you'll be ready and there'll be someone who will treat you like a princess

  at first he had made me feel like one.
  
  and that's wat make it all the more disappointing. bcos i had trusted him. bcos i had held out my heart to him at last and he had knocked it to the ground...
  
  how do i ever regain my trust again??
  
  i.c.y
• the Bear

  17 Oct 04, 16:24

  with time...
  
  so in the meantime, give it a few months or something.. take the time to heal, make friends without looking anything other than friendship...
  
  enjoy yourself in the company of people who are not out for anything other than friendship...
  
  immerse yourself in work and studies... enjoy the place where you are now, learn about it...
  
  in other words, take your mind off this whole incident and do other things...
  
  and with time, you'll heal...
  
  i've been there too...
  
  

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  at first he had made me feel like one.
  
  and that's wat make it all the more disappointing. bcos i had trusted him. bcos i had held out my heart to him at last and he had knocked it to the ground...
  
  how do i ever regain my trust again??
  
  i.c.y

• SnowFlag

  17 Oct 04, 16:49

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  Well I have a tracker and the IP address of his PC showed up in that tracker...
  so he must have visited my page. And from what I see, he has visited it at least 7 times today at different times. Maybe he wanted to see how hurt I am after that comment made by him.
  
  If he is so busy, why does he still have time to keep checking on my blog???
  
  i.c.y

  just to let u know that all computers connected through a particular proxy, will show the same IP address.
  
  anyway, u can alway move on.
• icyprincess

  17 Oct 04, 16:53

  Originally posted by SnowFlag:

  just to let u know that all computers connected through a particular proxy, will show the same IP address.
  
  anyway, u can alway move on.

  yea i know abt dat. but dat number is from his room and he is alone in that room. so only him will have that address.
  
  i.c.y
• Blueskyz

  17 Oct 04, 19:00

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  I am working on something else now...but sometimes these thoughts will start in my head and I would end up hating myself for trusting someone so easily...
  
  I am a stupid fool.
  
  i.c.y

  Dear,
  
  You are not a fool.
  
  Hugz
• icyprincess

  18 Oct 04, 03:45

  now i even have restrained myself from messaging him...how sad can this get?
  
  cried myself to sleep last nite...
  
  i.c.y
• the Bear

  18 Oct 04, 03:55

  there there..
  
  hopefully, you'll feel better sooner rather than later
  
  

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  now i even have restrained myself from messaging him...how sad can this get?
  
  cried myself to sleep last nite...
  
  i.c.y

• icyprincess

  18 Oct 04, 03:59

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  there there..
  
  hopefully, you'll feel better sooner rather than later
  
  

  thank you. i just can't believed i got tricked again. am i really dat gullible??
  
  i.c.y
• the Bear

  18 Oct 04, 04:02

  i don't think you were "tricked"... i guess.. maybe just expected something... and he wasn't mature enough.. and nothing was right about it...
  
  guillable? maybe not.. just (in the words of a song) looking for love in all the wrong places...
  
  maybe give it a rest for a while.. make friends first... get to know people.. way before giving them a go if you are attracted...
  
  friends first... before anything..
  
  and i wish you well...
  
  

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  thank you. i just can't believed i got tricked again. am i really dat gullible??
  
  i.c.y

• icyprincess

  18 Oct 04, 04:09

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  i don't think you were "tricked"... i guess.. maybe just expected something... and he wasn't mature enough.. and nothing was right about it...
  
  guillable? maybe not.. just (in the words of a song) looking for love in all the wrong places...
  
  maybe give it a rest for a while.. make friends first... get to know people.. way before giving them a go if you are attracted...
  
  friends first... before anything..
  
  and i wish you well...
  
  

  i had thought all the signs were there...like we have been on dates on and off for nearly a few months before this...and he told me he doesnt go out like that with another girl...so i had thought he is really sincere...
  
  who knows...
  
  i.c.y
• the Bear

  18 Oct 04, 04:21

  well, maybe he isn't ready and isn't mature enough to handle it...
  
  look on the bright side yah? better now than if forced and everything breaks up further down the road when attachments and emotions grow deep...
  
  like a friend of mine always says.. short pain better than long pain...
  
  if anything, you can always come to this site of through MSN and have a chat with friends...
  
  coz even tho you've not met some, we do care.. and i know some have helped me through tough times...
  
  and we all survive... battlescarred and still alive and kicking
  
  and i know you will too
  
  

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  i had thought all the signs were there...like we have been on dates on and off for nearly a few months before this...and he told me he doesnt go out like that with another girl...so i had thought he is really sincere...
  
  who knows...
  
  i.c.y

• icyprincess

  18 Oct 04, 04:43

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  well, maybe he isn't ready and isn't mature enough to handle it...
  
  look on the bright side yah? better now than if forced and everything breaks up further down the road when attachments and emotions grow deep...
  
  like a friend of mine always says.. short pain better than long pain...
  
  if anything, you can always come to this site of through MSN and have a chat with friends...
  
  coz even tho you've not met some, we do care.. and i know some have helped me through tough times...
  
  and we all survive... battlescarred and still alive and kicking
  
  and i know you will too
  
  

  i dunno...seems like i just dun have fate wif love..sum of my frens have it so easy...
  
  i.c.y
• the Bear

  18 Oct 04, 04:53

  some have it easy.. and they may never learn how precious it is...
  
  it is difficult for you (and also for myself too) so we learn how precious it is when we do find it.... and we learn to cherish it and nurture it
  
  i have friends who have only had one partner all their lives.. i also have friends who have never had one... and some who have had many...
  
  each have their own stories...
  
  you have yours too..
  
  just know that now, is a time to stop thinking about all this, take the time and energy to your studies, and when you do find it and it is time, i know you will make the effort to make it successful..
  
  i'm not that religious but i'm catholic.. i believe we do what we can, and in God's time, it will be revealed to us.. maybe this isn't your time yet....
  
  mayhap, one day, the love of your life.. the one who will look after you, love you and place you on the pedestal will appear.. just not now...
  
  life's easier if you think of it this way
  
  

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  i dunno...seems like i just dun have fate wif love..sum of my frens have it so easy...
  
  i.c.y

• icyprincess

  18 Oct 04, 05:21

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  some have it easy.. and they may never learn how precious it is...
  
  it is difficult for you (and also for myself too) so we learn how precious it is when we do find it.... and we learn to cherish it and nurture it
  
  i have friends who have only had one partner all their lives.. i also have friends who have never had one... and some who have had many...
  
  each have their own stories...
  
  you have yours too..
  
  just know that now, is a time to stop thinking about all this, take the time and energy to your studies, and when you do find it and it is time, i know you will make the effort to make it successful..
  
  i'm not that religious but i'm catholic.. i believe we do what we can, and in God's time, it will be revealed to us.. maybe this isn't your time yet....
  
  mayhap, one day, the love of your life.. the one who will look after you, love you and place you on the pedestal will appear.. just not now...
  
  life's easier if you think of it this way
  
  

  thank you Bear.
  
  I will learn to take things easy now
  
  I should be thankful to him also la...cos at least now I have the memories...
  
  i.c.y
• the Bear

  18 Oct 04, 05:26

  attagirl!
  
  always look on the bright side!
  
  life's too short to dwell on sadness... and he's given you a moment of joy and that's more than some out there ever get
  
  you've learnt... and from the lessons learnt, you've grown a little or maybe even a lot!
  
  be well yah?
  
  i gotta go sleep now... i'm not feeling too well and it's past 5am...
  
  hope to see you one of these days!
  
  

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  thank you Bear.
  
  I will learn to take things easy now
  
  I should be thankful to him also la...cos at least now I have the memories...
  
  i.c.y

• icyprincess

  18 Oct 04, 05:30

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  attagirl!
  
  always look on the bright side!
  
  life's too short to dwell on sadness... and he's given you a moment of joy and that's more than some out there ever get
  
  you've learnt... and from the lessons learnt, you've grown a little or maybe even a lot!
  
  be well yah?
  
  i gotta go sleep now... i'm not feeling too well and it's past 5am...
  
  hope to see you one of these days!
  
  

  hope to see u too will go to outing when i come back la [dat's 2 years from now..hmm]
  
  sth came to mind...
  
  everyone is there for a purpose...
  mebbe he was there to help me forget my past hurt...
  and now that I have let go of the past...
  he is no longer there to hold my hand, maybe he thinks now I am well enough to stand on my own...
  i turn around, wanting so much to touch his hands once more...
  but he has already waved goodbye...
  
  i.c.y
• the Bear

  18 Oct 04, 05:36

  it could be
  
  he could be someone the Big Guy Up There put here to help you move on?
  
  as for outings and stuff, you're not coming back for vacations?
  
  oh well.. see how in 2 years' time... i'll be older and more decrepit at 37 then
  
  and hopefully, there may be a Mrs Bear to introduce to you when you're back
  
  

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  hope to see u too will go to outing when i come back la [dat's 2 years from now..hmm]
  
  sth came to mind...
  
  everyone is there for a purpose...
  mebbe he was there to help me forget my past hurt...
  and now that I have let go of the past...
  he is no longer there to hold my hand, maybe he thinks now I am well enough to stand on my own...
  i turn around, wanting so much to touch his hands once more...
  but he has already waved goodbye...
  
  i.c.y

• icyprincess

  18 Oct 04, 06:11

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  it could be
  
  he could be someone the Big Guy Up There put here to help you move on?
  
  as for outings and stuff, you're not coming back for vacations?
  
  oh well.. see how in 2 years' time... i'll be older and more decrepit at 37 then
  
  and hopefully, there may be a Mrs Bear to introduce to you when you're back
  
  

  yea i wun be coming back even for vacation...cos i come back oso got nth to do..rather use the money to go travelling sumwhere else...
  
  like planning to go to Europe next Summer hehe
  
  yea..all the best to you Bear!
  
  i.c.y
• the Bear

  18 Oct 04, 19:19

  if my reservist does not mess up things too much, i'll be in Europe for a couple of months next year on a massive once-in-a-lifetime vacation which will take me to the parts of Europe i always wanted to see
  
  armed with my camera and my PC, i'm going to make a little chronicle of my travels in Europe
  
  

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  yea i wun be coming back even for vacation...cos i come back oso got nth to do..rather use the money to go travelling sumwhere else...
  
  like planning to go to Europe next Summer hehe
  
  yea..all the best to you Bear!
  
  i.c.y