Can someone explain why?

• icyprincess

  24 Sep 04, 03:58

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  fan?
  
  i'm not worthy...
  
  wordsmiths, can be found in dead poets society (singapore) forum
  
  but words are just words... without deeds to back them up.. they are just... whispers in the wind...
  
  the best do.. after planning...
  
  personally, i hope to be able to do instead of think about it and analyse it to death like i was in the past
  
  

  thanks Bear, for your word. I realize that it is so hard to get people to listen to me here (as in where I am now) My friends do not know about this and they do not understand. I can't talk to the new guy because somehow I just feel like he is kinda "emotionless" and he hates to be bugged by this kinda stuff. So I am all alone here ... if not for sgforums, I will feel even more tortured...
  
  i.c.y
• icyprincess

  24 Sep 04, 04:00

  Originally posted by Yunhaier:

  Love and hate are on the same coin, different sides.
  
  You acted like you moved on, but in reality, you never did move.
  
  You definitely need more time; there must not be haste in recovering.
  
  Cheers

  I have been like this since more than 1 year ago. Does it always take forever to forget someone you really love?
  
  i.c.y
• Kismet

  24 Sep 04, 04:01

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  I have been like this since more than 1 year ago. Does it always take forever to forget someone you really love?
  
  i.c.y

  Sometimes it takes ... er .... 10 years ...
• SnowFlag

  24 Sep 04, 04:02

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  I have been like this since more than 1 year ago. Does it always take forever to forget someone you really love?
  
  i.c.y

  No, if u r willing to let go
• the Bear

  24 Sep 04, 04:03

  princess, i really hope one day, you'll be well, totally....
  
  and that day comes soon...
  
  if you feel you have a need to say anything, people in here will lend a listening "ear"
  
  and some of us will help out if we can
• SnowFlag

  24 Sep 04, 04:04

  Originally posted by Kismet:

  Sometimes it takes ... er .... 10 years ...

  give me a 5
  
  it took me abt that long too.
• icyprincess

  24 Sep 04, 04:06

  Originally posted by SnowFlag:

  No, if u r willing to let go

  I am so willing to let go...I think maybe my heart is not ready yet in some ways that i cannot fully explain....
  
  I know I took around 1 year to forget my first crush completely, but that was becos I had fallen for someone new at that time. I think I have to constantly be crushing on someone..isn't that weird?
  
  i.c.y
• SnowFlag

  24 Sep 04, 04:09

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  I think I have to constantly be crushing on someone..isn't that weird?
  

  well, love itself can be weird too
• Kismet

  24 Sep 04, 04:09

  Originally posted by SnowFlag:

  give me a 5
  
  it took me abt that long too.

  Aiya, the sad thing is you never have to wait long before you start another term of trying to forget ... again
• the Bear

  24 Sep 04, 04:10

  maybe you need time to learn to be by yourself?
  
  or let time heal you, learn to be a stronger person...
  
  and not carry over the emotional baggage over to your next (and hopefully final and successful) relationship...
  
  

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  I am so willing to let go...I think maybe my heart is not ready yet in some ways that i cannot fully explain....
  
  I know I took around 1 year to forget my first crush completely, but that was becos I had fallen for someone new at that time. I think I have to constantly be crushing on someone..isn't that weird?
  
  i.c.y

• icyprincess

  24 Sep 04, 04:11

  Love is just too painful...I dunno why I am still so into it when I have been hurt so badly....
  
  i.c.y
• icyprincess

  24 Sep 04, 04:14

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  maybe you need time to learn to be by yourself?
  
  or let time heal you, learn to be a stronger person...
  
  and not carry over the emotional baggage over to your next (and hopefully final and successful) relationship...
  
  

  I think I have always been with myself...there hasn't been anyone who is willing to share my sorrows and feelings...
  
  Often it is me who will do all the listening if the other party is sad or depressed..they just assume I am happy and cheerful so they do not even bother to ask if I am alright deep inside.
  
  I have always been taken for granted.
  
  i.c.y
• the Bear

  24 Sep 04, 04:14

  because we instinctively know the rewards of love are infinite...
  
  maybe we need to sort out our own hearts first.. sometimes, that's the reason for a lot of failures.. we don't really know what we want..
  
  

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  Love is just too painful...I dunno why I am still so into it when I have been hurt so badly....
  
  i.c.y

• icyprincess

  24 Sep 04, 04:16

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  because we instinctively know the rewards of love are infinite...
  
  maybe we need to sort out our own hearts first.. sometimes, that's the reason for a lot of failures.. we don't really know what we want..
  
  

  I seem to always want something or someone that I cannot have.
  
  I am sad because the friendship can't even be saved anymore. Now if I message him it would sound so formal and often it would be to ask him to contact my other fren who is living near him (cos dat fren of mine is damn hard to contact)....and since I didn't reply his msg the other day, I think now he makes it a point to not reply mine too....
  
  
  
  i.c.y
• Kismet

  24 Sep 04, 04:17

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  Love is just too painful...I dunno why I am still so into it when I have been hurt so badly....
  
  i.c.y

  Ai, I am reminded of the chorus from an old song by Climie Fisher:
  
  Love changes, changes everything
  Love makes you fly, it can break your wings ...
  Love changes, changes everything
  Love makes the rules from fools to kings ...
  
  
  It's a double edged sword, cuts both ways ...
  You just can't have the sweetness of love only without experiencing the bitterness too.
  
  
• the Bear

  24 Sep 04, 04:18

  you've had unequal relationships then...
  
  mayhap it's what you are that attracts them to you... you nurture people and look after them... and they know.. and come to you.. and when they've healed, they move on leaving you to pick up the pieces?
  
  sort out your own heart, and mayhap, you'll find someone who will nurture you and look after you even when you have no need to by then?
  
  ahh.. my heart goes out to you...
  
  

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  I think I have always been with myself...there hasn't been anyone who is willing to share my sorrows and feelings...
  
  Often it is me who will do all the listening if the other party is sad or depressed..they just assume I am happy and cheerful so they do not even bother to ask if I am alright deep inside.
  
  I have always been taken for granted.
  
  i.c.y

• the Bear

  24 Sep 04, 04:21

  let it be then, princess...
  
  let it be...
  
  let time wear it away...
  
  try not to think of it...
  
  and hope that one day
  
  you'd dare to dream
  
  and to wish for impossible things...
• icyprincess

  24 Sep 04, 04:40

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  you've had unequal relationships then...
  
  mayhap it's what you are that attracts them to you... you nurture people and look after them... and they know.. and come to you.. and when they've healed, they move on leaving you to pick up the pieces?
  
  sort out your own heart, and mayhap, you'll find someone who will nurture you and look after you even when you have no need to by then?
  
  ahh.. my heart goes out to you...
  
  

  the weird thing is sumhow I like doing that...I like caring for someone and soothing them if they are hurt..it is just that sumtimes I do want them to do the same to me too...mebbe I have always cared for the wrong person...
  
  i.c.y
• xian89

  24 Sep 04, 09:38

  Dun cry becoz it's over.....
  SMILE becoz it happen
  
  The main point is to let go. Sound easy but many ppl is unable to do it
  We let my emotion take over our mind. We let our heart rule our action. Jus because tat person is some1 whom U love deeply. But remember 1 side love never flourish long... If U can't have his heart, there is no point having him around. Ask urself... is it really worth the effort to squander away ur youth on a relationship which in the end wun have a happy ending.
  
  In a garden, there r actually many different types of flowers. Currently, U seems to onli have eyes on 1 particular pink rose. U find it very attractive as perhaps U like roses & pink is ur favourite color. But u never notice there is a snake near it . U got bitten & need to be hospitalized.
  True is the beauty of the rose that attracts U, but if u do look around more, perhaps there is another white rose juz under ur feet. which is awaiting for u to pluck it.
  
  Alot of times our life partner is juz around us. It's juz tat we never notice tat person standing beside us. If U need a listening ear, DO come in here. I believe most of us here r willing to help U. Else U R always welcome to join some of our outings.
  
  ps: sorry for the bad grammer.. hopefully pp understand what i trying to say
• kaobeikaobu

  24 Sep 04, 10:27

  Originally posted by icyprincess:
  
  thanks Bear, for your word. I realize that it is so hard to get people to listen to me here (as in where I am now) My friends do not know about this and they do not understand.
  did u talk to them abt it, if nt, how are they going to understand
  
  I am so willing to let go...I think maybe my heart is not ready yet in some ways that i cannot fully explain....
  as i have explained earlier, ur heart is always slower than ur mind. Nt only u, but the entire world... e.g. like SnowFlag n Kismet...everywhere
  
  I can't talk to the new guy because somehow I just feel like he is kinda "emotionless" and he hates to be bugged by this kinda stuff. So I am all alone here ... if not for sgforums, I will feel even more tortured...
  he's not 'emotionless', he doesn't want to lead u on...nt saying wat he's doing is the BEST way, but at least, by doing this, it helping u to move on
  
  I think I have always been with myself...there hasn't been anyone who is willing to share my sorrows and feelings...
  refer to the first comment i made...they will understand n b by ur side if they are TRUE friends...e.g the ppl here...esp Bear...n those around u. Do look around u
  
  I seem to always want something or someone that I cannot have.
  u dun possess love. On the other hand, letting go doesn't mean its nt love
  
  Often it is me who will do all the listening if the other party is sad or depressed..they just assume I am happy and cheerful so they do not even bother to ask if I am alright deep inside.
  u hide it. how ppl suppose to know ? Like, i can't just go up to a ever cheerful n bubbly guy, pat his back n say 'take it easy man'
  
  I have always been taken for granted.
  hmmmm......ur fragile heart on 'strike' liao...
  
  the weird thing is sumhow I like doing that...I like caring for someone and soothing them if they are hurt..it is just that sumtimes I do want them to do the same to me too...mebbe I have always cared for the wrong person...
  nt always to others, but in this case, u are.
  
  I know I took around 1 year to forget my first crush completely, but that was becos I had fallen for someone new at that time. I think I have to constantly be crushing on someone..isn't that weird?
  ur tired heart has never been 'alone', how to love urself first b4 loving another? It's a vicious cycle where most ppl dun realise they are in it
  
  i.c.y

• the Bear

  24 Sep 04, 10:58

  you've got a good heart
  
  however, those with good hearts will be taken advantage of... it always happens... but care anyway! to deny that is to deny your nature.. and you'll be miserable if you do...
  
  maybe one day, you'll find someone worthy of your love and trust
  
  

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  the weird thing is sumhow I like doing that...I like caring for someone and soothing them if they are hurt..it is just that sumtimes I do want them to do the same to me too...mebbe I have always cared for the wrong person...
  
  i.c.y

• icyprincess

  24 Sep 04, 11:36

  There is finally a final ending to this episode in my life.
  
  Read abt it herehttp://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=94991
  
  Thanks for all the advice and time spent on listening to me. Even tho it is done from a distance, I can feel the concern and I appreciate it a lot,
  
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