Is love supposed to be this painful?

• _Aaron_

  30 Dec 04, 12:48

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  yea, I am insecure. Yea, I am emotional and sensitive. Sometimes too much for my own good.
  
  I dun believe in loving half-heartedly. When I do, I go all out. And maybe I shouldn't cos dats why I always end up hurting the most.
  
  I feel like I can't trust myself. my heart. my instinct. and I can't trust him either. so I dunno who to trust now.
  
  i.c.y

  I think there's a trick to this.
  
  Well, generally, if something keeps clogging your mind, and there's nothing you can do about it.
  
  Divert your attention to something else.
  
  Play a game, read a book. No matter how ineffective it is, just do it.
  If he comes up in your thoughts after a while, find another activity to do, or sleep.
  
  This way, at least you have lost a few hours doing something else, and save yourself a few hours of grief.
  
  Jia you Icy Jie~
• Nelstar

  30 Dec 04, 12:49

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  yea I am trying to accept reality as it is.
  but it is hard.
  
  i.c.y

  Don't dwell into it, or you'll be plunged into an abyss of fears and doubts. Truly, look for the good signs, don't look for the bad ones.
• icyprincess

  30 Dec 04, 12:50

  Originally posted by _Aaron_:

  I think there's a trick to this.
  
  Well, generally, if something keeps clogging your mind, and there's nothing you can do about it.
  
  Divert your attention to something else.
  
  Play a game, read a book. No matter how ineffective it is, just do it.
  If he comes up in your thoughts after a while, find another activity to do, or sleep.
  
  This way, at least you have lost a few hours doing something else, and save yourself a few hours of grief.
  
  Jia you Icy Jie~

  I have already "saved" myself around 5 hours? cos I have watched 2 movies in a row...
  
  I have also tried reading...
  
  but suddenly life feels so meaningless..
  
  i.c.y
• EricDraven

  30 Dec 04, 13:24

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  yea, I am insecure. Yea, I am emotional and sensitive. Sometimes too much for my own good.
  
  I dun believe in loving half-heartedly. When I do, I go all out. And maybe I shouldn't cos dats why I always end up hurting the most.
  
  I feel like I can't trust myself. my heart. my instinct. and I can't trust him either. so I dunno who to trust now.
  
  i.c.y

  Let your heart guide you... but listen closely because it whispers
  - Land Before Time
  
  Love is like quicksand--the deeper you fall in, the harder it is to get out.
  - Unknown
  
  Love is a fire. But whether it is going to warm your heart, or burn down your house, you can never tell.
  - Unknown
  
  If it's any consolation, Princess, millions and millions of people have taken the same path before you... No one says it is easy. Love can be heaven, but can be hell as well... But it's better to have loved than not love at all... Whatever it is, love is what makes us human...
  
  I wish you all the best... in your journey of love
• EricDraven

  30 Dec 04, 13:27

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  I have already "saved" myself around 5 hours? cos I have watched 2 movies in a row...
  
  I have also tried reading...
  
  but suddenly life feels so meaningless..
  
  i.c.y

  Everyone has their own periods like this... Just don't give up on yourself...
  
  Nothing I say now can cheer you up, that's for sure... I remembered my depression periods and how life is meaningless as well...
  
  Whatever it is, don't do silly things and the period will pass, and suddenly, you will find that life is beautiful again...
• icyprincess

  30 Dec 04, 13:28

  hmm...I just got some news...
  
  my fren told me his area of house is kinda affected by dat tsunami disaster...
  
  so cannot contact for time being...
  
  now I am getting really worried...
  
  i.c.y
• EricDraven

  30 Dec 04, 13:29

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  hmm...I just got some news...
  
  my fren told me his area of house is kinda affected by dat tsunami disaster...
  
  so cannot contact for time being...
  
  now I am getting really worried...
  
  i.c.y

  Sheesh, I hope he is alright!
• icyprincess

  30 Dec 04, 13:33

  Originally posted by EricDraven:

  Sheesh, I hope he is alright!

  I am praying...join me in my prayers pls...thanks.
  
  i.c.y
• Nelstar

  30 Dec 04, 13:39

  Let's hope for the better.
  
  Maybe this was one of the reasons he couldn't wish you in time? (I know I sound like I'm siding him, but I dont think we should jump to conclusions before knowing the whole picture.)
• icyprincess

  30 Dec 04, 13:42

  Originally posted by Nelstar:

  Let's hope for the better.
  
  Maybe this was one of the reasons he couldn't wish you in time? (I know I sound like I'm siding him, but I dont think we should jump to conclusions before knowing the whole picture.)

  yea...mebbe I am wrong to doubt him.
  I didn't know his place got hit oso...but I just asked one of my frens who happens to be there oso and she said can feel the tremors...so mebbe now he and his family are moving to another place...
  
  hope they are all safe...
  
  i.c.y
• Nelstar

  30 Dec 04, 14:04

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  yea...mebbe I am wrong to doubt him.
  I didn't know his place got hit oso...but I just asked one of my frens who happens to be there oso and she said can feel the tremors...so mebbe now he and his family are moving to another place...
  
  hope they are all safe...
  
  i.c.y

  Tried contacting him?
• icyprincess

  30 Dec 04, 14:06

  Originally posted by Nelstar:

  Tried contacting him?

  I emailed but he din reply. I dunno whether dat means he doesn't wan me to keep bothering him or mebbe he has no internet connection wherever he is right now.
  
  I got emailed once before and he replied but he did tell me he wun be able to reply as frequently...
  
  i.c.y
• icyprincess

  30 Dec 04, 16:52

  I just watched 5 episodes of Evangelion in a row hehe...did help to take my mind off certain things...
  
  I have come to the conclusion to let things be, if it is meant to be, it will be..
  
  i.c.y
• sbst275

  30 Dec 04, 16:54

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  is love this painful for everyone?
  
  nobody tells me that it is this painful to love someone...i have only heard about the good side. i have no idea the bad side can be so torturous.
  
  i.c.y

  Well, it depends a lot on how the relationship goes
• _Aaron_

  30 Dec 04, 16:57

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  I just watched 5 episodes of Evangelion in a row hehe...did help to take my mind off certain things...
  
  I have come to the conclusion to let things be, if it is meant to be, it will be..
  
  i.c.y

  Jie. I realised that long ago. Still, its never too late
  
  Try watcing Naruto! 6 million people can't be wrong ^_^
• fire & ice

  30 Dec 04, 17:00

  if its really painful - its probably not meant to b.
  if its painful on your side only - he probably don't care or don't know how to care - so u need to figure out which is which. no one can help u there.
  if its painful on his side - he'll probably walk out sooner or later.
  
  face the facts of life. chances r that things fall in place with the status quo. only a few fall out of the box.
  
  love is meant to be happy, tough, sad at times but blissful in your heart.
• icyprincess

  30 Dec 04, 17:01

  Originally posted by _Aaron_:

  Jie. I realised that long ago. Still, its never too late
  
  Try watcing Naruto! 6 million people can't be wrong ^_^

  hehe is Naruto dat good? I have had Escaflowne and Rurouni Kenshin in line tho...
  
  i.c.y
• jusgal

  30 Dec 04, 17:01

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  is love this painful for everyone?
  
  nobody tells me that it is this painful to love someone...i have only heard about the good side. i have no idea the bad side can be so torturous.
  
  i.c.y

  yes....whenf u feel tat the love u given in is more than wat u receive. and u wanna more.
• icyprincess

  30 Dec 04, 17:04

  Originally posted by fire & ice:

  if its really painful - its probably not meant to b.
  if its painful on your side only - he probably don't care or don't know how to care - so u need to figure out which is which. no one can help u there.
  if its painful on his side - he'll probably walk out sooner or later.
  
  face the facts of life. chances r that things fall in place with the status quo. only a few fall out of the box.
  
  love is meant to be happy, tough, sad at times but blissful in your heart.

  well, right now it feels painful but there have been time when I thought all the pain was worth it...just to see him smile, I had thought it was worth it. and mebbe I still do.
  
  i.c.y
• icyprincess

  30 Dec 04, 17:05

  Originally posted by jusgal:

  yes....whenf u feel tat the love u given in is more than wat u receive. and u wanna more.

  do u think I have been too demanding?
  
  i.c.y
• _Aaron_

  30 Dec 04, 17:07

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  hehe is Naruto dat good? I have had Escaflowne and Rurouni Kenshin in line tho...
  
  i.c.y

  You may judge that i have poor taste...
  
  But don't misjudge the other 5,999,999 people~
  Watch it!
• icyprincess

  30 Dec 04, 17:08

  Originally posted by _Aaron_:

  You may judge that i have poor taste...
  
  But don't misjudge the other 5,999,999 people~
  Watch it!

  keke okie i trust my brother's taste
  *scurry to go request naruto*
  how many episodes are there anyway?
  
  i.c.y
• ditzy

  30 Dec 04, 17:10

  Not many lah, 115 episodes so far and no end in sight.
• _Aaron_

  30 Dec 04, 17:10

  Originally posted by icyprincess:

  keke okie i trust my brother's taste
  *scurry to go request naruto*
  how many episodes are there anyway?
  
  i.c.y

  Good Good.
  
  Now released until 115. Still got a whole load more to come i think/hope.
  Good luck downloading it. Or maybe you can bug someone there for it
• icyprincess

  30 Dec 04, 17:11

  Originally posted by _Aaron_:

  Good Good.
  
  Now released until 115. Still got a whole load more to come i think/hope.
  Good luck downloading it. Or maybe you can bug someone there for it

  wa lao...115..i dun think can finish watching la...later school starts oledi i still addicted how...
  
  better not start...cos i m the kind who once gets addicted will want to watch 5 eps in a row...like wat i did to evangelion just now
  
  i.c.y