do you stop yourself from loving sumone so dat u wun b hurt?
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then good for uOriginally posted by amuletgurl:i DUN want to FALL inlove......it takes up so much of my time n feelings,damn it,im loving my single life
sumtimes i wish i can enjoy my single life too...
but another world beckons...
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i find myself...getting touched at the simplest thing saidOriginally posted by skeujin:if u dnt take the plunge.. ull nvr knw how deep is his love.. sounds corny bt really relevant...
everyone gets hurt.. doesnt mean u wnt find true love... even true love hurts sometimes...
and at dat moment, i will feel an inner alarm sounding in me, asking me to beware 
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i just dun wan to get hurt again. i think it is more like my protective instinct working overtime now. cos last time, i have been hurt really deeply le...so can't really forget that...Originally posted by xking:I used to think that....u know...try to control the feeling before it goes to deep... as in put on the brakes..
but in the end...i felt ...give it a shot...wats there to fear...nothing too worst will happen...
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knw how u feel... but u gota come to a realisation tt fear n hurt are all part of love.. if u dnt care about a person.. nothg this person does will ever affect yr emotions.Originally posted by icyprincess:i find myself...getting touched at the simplest thing said
and at dat moment, i will feel an inner alarm sounding in me, asking me to beware
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Actually, think about it this way : Let's say you're destined to marry your 5th boyfriend, ok?
So first boyfriend, you fall in love and give it your all, 100%, no holds barred. Then, you break up. You are devastated, naturally.
On to Boyfriend #2. You think back to the pain you felt the first time so this time, you 'discount' 10% and give it only 90% in the relationship. Things fall apart. On to the next.
This is Boyfriend #3. Fresh from two bad experiences, you decide, this time, you keep 20% to yourself. Time flies, differences surface, promises are broken.
Now, it's #4. You get so frustrated from all the heartbreak and you want to protect yourself this time so you're holding back 30%. You never want to get your heart broken so badly again. Whaddaya know, it again doesn't last and ...
Finally, THE one, Boyfriend #5. He's THE one you're destined to be with. BUT, he feels that you're holding back and indeed you are! You've been so heartbroken before and you're so scared of all the pain and broken dreams and promises that this time, you're holding back a grand 45%! Poor guy... he has done nothing wrong but already, you're giving him the suspicious eye and don't even want to entrust him with your heart. So you cheat yourself and him of what could've been an awesome, loving and trusting relationship just because of your previous hurts. This poor chap is paying the price for all the previous boyfriends who broke your heart.
Think about it... fair or not?
The temptation is to hold back when you meet someone you're falling in love with but you're not sure if he feels the same. Unrequited love is truly heartbreaking and so frustrating. I feel tempted to hold back myself, when I meet someone I adore. However, I always remind myself of this analogy and tell myself that it's not fair to cheat him and me of a potentially great relationship, then I let go of my fears as best as I can and just enjoy his company and then maybe, just maybe, he'll bask in the 100% I give into the relationship and we'll end up going through life's journeys hand-in-hand and heart-to-heart.
OK, a little dramatic... but I hope you're getting the gist of my post. Holding back does no one any good. What's the worse that could happen? Rejection. So, ok, pick yourself up and move on. Pai seh only lasts a day or two... regret lasts forever.
Good luck in love, Ladies! I need it myself! hehehe!
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becareful girl............try this: accidently brush ur hand against his ,erm...few times??? lets c wat's his reaction
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this signature seems to belong to somebody..Originally posted by 798:yes!
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try it oledi the other day...he blushed and then smiled at meOriginally posted by amuletgurl:becareful girl............try this: accidently brush ur hand against his ,erm...few times??? lets c wat's his reaction
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thanks for the insightful post, rhonda. i will try to give my all, but I think I need time...Originally posted by Rhonda:Actually, think about it this way : Let's say you're destined to marry your 5th boyfriend, ok?
So first boyfriend, you fall in love and give it your all, 100%, no holds barred. Then, you break up. You are devastated, naturally.
On to Boyfriend #2. You think back to the pain you felt the first time so this time, you 'discount' 10% and give it only 90% in the relationship. Things fall apart. On to the next.
This is Boyfriend #3. Fresh from two bad experiences, you decide, this time, you keep 20% to yourself. Time flies, differences surface, promises are broken.
Now, it's #4. You get so frustrated from all the heartbreak and you want to protect yourself this time so you're holding back 30%. You never want to get your heart broken so badly again. Whaddaya know, it again doesn't last and ...
Finally, THE one, Boyfriend #5. He's THE one you're destined to be with. BUT, he feels that you're holding back and indeed you are! You've been so heartbroken before and you're so scared of all the pain and broken dreams and promises that this time, you're holding back a grand 45%! Poor guy... he has done nothing wrong but already, you're giving him the suspicious eye and don't even want to entrust him with your heart. So you cheat yourself and him of what could've been an awesome, loving and trusting relationship just because of your previous hurts. This poor chap is paying the price for all the previous boyfriends who broke your heart.
Think about it... fair or not?
The temptation is to hold back when you meet someone you're falling in love with but you're not sure if he feels the same. Unrequited love is truly heartbreaking and so frustrating. I feel tempted to hold back myself, when I meet someone I adore. However, I always remind myself of this analogy and tell myself that it's not fair to cheat him and me of a potentially great relationship, then I let go of my fears as best as I can and just enjoy his company and then maybe, just maybe, he'll bask in the 100% I give into the relationship and we'll end up going through life's journeys hand-in-hand and heart-to-heart.
OK, a little dramatic... but I hope you're getting the gist of my post. Holding back does no one any good. What's the worse that could happen? Rejection. So, ok, pick yourself up and move on. Pai seh only lasts a day or two... regret lasts forever.
Good luck in love, Ladies! I need it myself! hehehe!
Good luck to you!
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Icy, just glad to offer my two cents' worth. Actually, it's only recently that I learnt that it's ok to ask a guy out because before that, I'd rather DIE than to make the first move. hehehe! Me quite traditional... got a lot of things to learn still. hehe!
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hell yeah!....LOLOriginally posted by icyprincess:try it oledi the other day...he blushed and then smiled at me
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but he told me, he wans to be the one to do the asking. so i let him do it nowOriginally posted by Rhonda:Icy, just glad to offer my two cents' worth. Actually, it's only recently that I learnt that it's ok to ask a guy out because before that, I'd rather DIE than to make the first move. hehehe! Me quite traditional... got a lot of things to learn still. hehe! part of my compromise wif him..
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dunno...we all quite busy now, got finals then he is going back to Malaysia for hols, while I will stay here for a month...gonna miss himOriginally posted by amuletgurl:hell yeah!....LOL ,now move on to step 2....hmmmmmm,okies..the rest is up to u 
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Tried that before, cmi...Originally posted by icyprincess:do u think it is rite...if we dun love someone too much? just to stop ourselves from getting hurt too deeply? prolly cos i have had really bad experiences in the past, now i m more cautious abt falling in love, so feel quite tiring cos I have to stop myself from falling for him evday...sighhhh
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the more u stop, the more u miss him more... back to the square one... so no point stopping myself... now i give and give and give.. -
ur comment does make senseOriginally posted by Rhonda:Icy, just glad to offer my two cents' worth. Actually, it's only recently that I learnt that it's ok to ask a guy out because before that, I'd rather DIE than to make the first move. hehehe! Me quite traditional... got a lot of things to learn still. hehe! ...and yeah,its ok to make the 1st move,actually.....flirting is already considered the 1st move -
i tink i used to give and give and give until i reached a point of total exhaustion...Originally posted by SwtHippy:Tried that before, cmi...
the more u stop, the more u miss him more... back to the square one... so no point stopping myself... now i give and give and give..
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Balance! Let's all strick a balance. Maybe, it's like a tennis game... I hit the ball to him, he's got to hit back. Otherwise, it's 'no game'.
Hmm... better hope the guy's not a 'slow poke'. Otherwise, this will take forever! haha! -
i do think he is kinda slow...then he told me he dun like to rush into things...Originally posted by Rhonda:Balance! Let's all strick a balance. Maybe, it's like a tennis game... I hit the ball to him, he's got to hit back. Otherwise, it's 'no game'.
Hmm... better hope the guy's not a 'slow poke'. Otherwise, this will take forever! haha!
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some guys like hippo can never play tennis ....Originally posted by Rhonda:Balance! Let's all strick a balance. Maybe, it's like a tennis game... I hit the ball to him, he's got to hit back. Otherwise, it's 'no game'.
Hmm... better hope the guy's not a 'slow poke'. Otherwise, this will take forever! haha!
ball picker only
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hehe so cute.Originally posted by InnoHippo:some guys like hippo can never play tennis ....
ball picker only
just enjoy your serves and let him pick the balls at his pace
i like the description
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Aaaaahhhh... thanks Hippo for the insight!
So, in the meantime, ladies when we all do the serving, we all wear short short tennis skirts and nice lacey undies, ok? hahaha!
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hehe...good ideaOriginally posted by Rhonda:Aaaaahhhh... thanks Hippo for the insight!
So, in the meantime, ladies when we all do the serving, we all wear short short tennis skirts and nice lacey undies, ok? hahaha!
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when u playing tennis har?Originally posted by Rhonda:Aaaaahhhh... thanks Hippo for the insight!
So, in the meantime, ladies when we all do the serving, we all wear short short tennis skirts and nice lacey undies, ok? hahaha! -
yes i've stopped myself from loving. thats a large part of the reason why i've choosen to be asexual now.Originally posted by icyprincess:do u think it is rite...if we dun love someone too much? just to stop ourselves from getting hurt too deeply? prolly cos i have had really bad experiences in the past, now i m more cautious abt falling in love, so feel quite tiring cos I have to stop myself from falling for him evday...sighhhh
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sighhh...seems like soon i will turn asexual tooOriginally posted by HENG@:yes i've stopped myself from loving. thats a large part of the reason why i've choosen to be asexual now.
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