Advice needed again...
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yea. he said he will never change his. I told him I will never change mine either. So I wish him good luck and maybe one day he will find a girl who can tolerate this kinda person. I think I am already being very very patient with him, but he doesn't seem to appreciate it.Originally posted by Estee:jiang shan yi gai.... ben xing nan yi..... it's really hard to change someone's thinking sometimes... especially a stubborn one.
So let it be ba.
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i dun believe in changing lah... but at least... compromising??
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he refused to compromise with me...Originally posted by Estee:i dun believe in changing lah... but at least... compromising??
i already give him the compromise option...he go with me and i help him choose...
but he refuses...
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yeah i know.... so just let him be.....Originally posted by icyprincess:he refused to compromise with me...
i already give him the compromise option...he go with me and i help him choose...
but he refuses...
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yup..i think this is the best option for the both of us already...we are not really for each other i guess...Originally posted by Estee:yeah i know.... so just let him be.....
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i.c.y you spent the whole morning discussing this? You could have just gone out during the lunch and bought the present for his mom. Just think of it as a favor to your friend and nothing more...Originally posted by icyprincess:yup..i think this is the best option for the both of us already...we are not really for each other i guess...
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you did the right thing by not doing him the favour. He should learn to be more sincere towards his family.
i can't imagine how his mum will feel if she finds out the truth... -
thing is i dun mind getting it for him. but i just feel he needs to be more sincere about this. I feel like he is making use of me...if you know what I mean. I am not his slave or anything, why should I trouble myself when he wouldn't even trouble himself to go?Originally posted by :i.c.y you spent the whole morning discussing this? You could have just gone out during the lunch and bought the present for his mom. Just think of it as a favor to your friend and nothing more...
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he said his mom doesn't mind. actually he told his mom already that he will ask someone to get it for her but his mom did tell him to tag along.Originally posted by skinnybeanie:you did the right thing by not doing him the favour. He should learn to be more sincere towards his family.
i can't imagine how his mum will feel if she finds out the truth...
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i think his mom also a bit odd..Originally posted by icyprincess:he said his mom doesn't mind. actually he told his mom already that he will ask someone to get it for her but his mom did tell him to tag along.
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totally..... getting a gift just for the sake of getting a gift?? WHAT FOR????Originally posted by skinnybeanie:i think his mom also a bit odd..
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i think his whole family is a bit odd. like he said he asked his cousin if it is alright if he gets another person to get the present for his mom, and his cousin actually told him yes.Originally posted by skinnybeanie:i think his mom also a bit odd..
my mom wud kill me if I do this.
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he said as long as she can use it can liao..."what matters is the present, not the past..similarly what matters is that the present gets to the hand of my mom, it doesn't matter how I get it or who gets it..."Originally posted by Estee:totally..... getting a gift just for the sake of getting a gift?? WHAT FOR????
Yea, I am quoting what he said to me just now.
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duhz..... like that also can.Originally posted by icyprincess:he said as long as she can use it can liao..."what matters is the present, not the past..similarly what matters is that the present gets to the hand of my mom, it doesn't matter how I get it or who gets it..."
Yea, I am quoting what he said to me just now.
i.c.y -
i dunno la...i just feel like he just dun wan to make any efforts...like wif his own mom already like this, i really dunno wat will happen if i were to really become his gf...i just feel he is not sincere and like he is very very cold and unfeeling...i just hope someone can knock some sense into his head one day. i tried to but I give up oledi. I can't do it anymore.Originally posted by Estee:duhz..... like that also can.
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He sounds like a bf to you! haha... though you claim to be just a friend only yet you go thru so much trouble.Originally posted by icyprincess:he said as long as she can use it can liao..."what matters is the present, not the past..similarly what matters is that the present gets to the hand of my mom, it doesn't matter how I get it or who gets it..."
Yea, I am quoting what he said to me just now.
i.c.y
I must say most guys dislike shopping, but since girls like shopping he thought that you could help him shop at same time have fun whilel doing so... in the end, it is you who bought the gift but he was the one who paid for it!
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He does seem very bo chap type of guy... whereas most girls prefer the 'tell me you love' or the affection tendering love guy who showers tons of attention on you.Originally posted by icyprincess:i dunno la...i just feel like he just dun wan to make any efforts...like wif his own mom already like this, i really dunno wat will happen if i were to really become his gf...i just feel he is not sincere and like he is very very cold and unfeeling...i just hope someone can knock some sense into his head one day. i tried to but I give up oledi. I can't do it anymore.
i.c.y
But maybe he's busy with work or school?
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yes. i just want him to be there. is that wrong to ask? i mean it is for his mom. i can't even ask him to go together with me? I am already being nice by saying I will go together with him to choose. Otherwise I won't even go into the handbag section.Originally posted by :He sounds like a bf to you! haha... though you claim to be just a friend only yet you go thru so much trouble.
I must say most guys dislike shopping, but since girls like shopping he thought that you could help him shop at same time have fun whilel doing so... in the end, it is you who bought the gift but he was the one who paid for it!
Anyways, guys are bad at choosing gifts... girls are naturally better...
he is not my bf. he does not treat me like his gf. i m feeling like I am a maid now.
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exactly!Originally posted by Estee:totally..... getting a gift just for the sake of getting a gift?? WHAT FOR????
if i'm his mom, i'll ask him to just put the $ in an angpow and give it to me. Then i go and buy whatever i fancy.
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rubbish. we are on holidays now. i told him it wud only take the most 2 hours. 2 hours also can't spare for me. whereas he spent many hours playing games in a day.Originally posted by :He does seem very bo chap type of guy... whereas most girls prefer the 'tell me you love' or the affection tendering love guy who showers tons of attention on you.
But maybe he's busy with work or school?
sian.
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likelihood of him giving his gf the same treatment is very high.Originally posted by icyprincess:i think his whole family is a bit odd. like he said he asked his cousin if it is alright if he gets another person to get the present for his mom, and his cousin actually told him yes.
my mom wud kill me if I do this.
i.c.y
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yea..can't stand it. i told him he better change cos few girls wud like this character of his. he dun wan to listen to me. i also tired of arguing with him.Originally posted by skinnybeanie:likelihood of him giving his gf the same treatment is very high.
kaoz.. wat an insincere person..
i will just go...
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hey.... me too..... but i think if he's my kid... and he's still studying... i'll rather he keep the $$ loh....Originally posted by skinnybeanie:exactly!
if i'm his mom, i'll ask him to just put the $ in an angpow and give it to me. Then i go and buy whatever i fancy. -
yeah, if my kid still studying, i'll be happy with just a small gift, or even something non-materialistic like cooking a meal for me or doing the chores for me.Originally posted by Estee:hey.... me too..... but i think if he's my kid... and he's still studying... i'll rather he keep the $$ loh....
But that guy is really too much
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let sleeping dogs lie, no point arguing with such person.Originally posted by icyprincess:yea..can't stand it. i told him he better change cos few girls wud like this character of his. he dun wan to listen to me. i also tired of arguing with him.
i will just go...
i.c.y
Well, won't be surprised that there are girls who can condone such attitude. You'll be amazed how powerful love can be.. enough to blind some people