My dear friend,
I will try to post some articles regarding your questions if I can find the time. Actually I have already done that in the past but I have not kept them updated.
For a start I strongly recommend you to read the following three books, especially
The PoetÂ’s Companion because it is really helpful for beginners like us. (DonÂ’t be lazy okay)
And if you are into serious reading
Best Words, Best Order is a good buy. You can find the first edition in the library but you need to order the second edition from US.
1)
Western Wind, An Introduction to Poetry, Fourth Edition, by John Frederick Nims & David Mason
2)
The PoetÂ’s Companion, A Guide to the Pleasures of Writing Poetry by Kim Addonizio & Dorianne Laux
3)
Best Words, Best Order, Essays on Poetry, Second Edition, by Stephen Dobyns
But first let me briefly answer your questions,
Must we follow such styles to make our poems acceptable and meaningful..? No. But if you are writing a sonnet, then of course you have to follow the structure of a sonnet. (By the way there are few kind of sonnets) Occasionally established poets do experiment with writing sonnets in different styles and successfully pulled it off.
In my opinion, your poem needs to mean something to you. (If not, you shouldnÂ’t even write it in the first place) Then, your task, as a poet is to fine-tune it so that it will mean something to your readers. Ideally, both your readers and you should have the same interpretation, but again, that is not always true because we have to take your readersÂ’ background into consideration for example their personal experiences, cultures, educational level, etc.
That is also one of the reasons why some poets such as William Wordsworth, Sharon Olds, and Gilbert Koh prefer not to use words that are too difficult. (You don't need a degree to understand their poems) Instead, they focus on other poetry-writing tools such as image, sounds, tone, etc.
Would we be like writing without even knowing what we're writing if we don't...? I am not sure what you meant by this question. Are you referring to flow-writing? Unless you are in a trance you should know what you are writing right? Having say that most poets started off with an image, a phrase, etc without knowing how the poem will end. That is the exciting part. Are you referring to that?
I also remember DP telling me before that my poems are too abstract... I somehow agree with him on that, but I certainly like my poems to be more abstract than otherwise.. Is it a bad thing? No. It is not 100% a bad thing. The trick is to have a good balance between abstract terms and concrete images. The main problem with abstracts is they do not involve your senses. You canÂ’t touch, smell, hear, etc. them. Too many of them and youÂ’ll have a boring piece. Same with concrete images, too many of them in a poem (especially the long one) and your brain will be overload.
(And you are right, your poems are too abstract. But if you are happy with them who care what other think right? It is your poems.)
But I do really wish to know if there're so much more to poetry-writing..? More than you can imagine my friend. Check out those books.
And if they're really necessary to make poems meaningful...? Refer to my earlier answer.
LetÂ’s put it this way. Before you start writing, you need to ask yourself these two questions
1) What do you want to achieve with your poems?
2) Who are your readers?
With them in mind, you decide your path.
Thanks in advance for any constructive comments... You are most welcome.