Final advices for me
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honestly, i haf tried to occupy myself wif things. however, it turns out tt either i haf no mood to do them due to the worrying thoughts in mind or my worries will still come back again..nv to disappear.Originally posted by kiddyduck:Come on la friend...
Dont use a mental condition as a constant excuse... this will make you even worse... You are just succumbing to it...
Go and keep yourself occupied with other things, like training, jogging for your 2 years of NS... This will help you to "keep away" from the mental condition and may even give you confidence...
Why sit around, do nothing, post silly questions and talking to yourself, when you can train hard and get yourself prepared...?
Life is always up and down... if everything is so smooth then it is not life then... Learn to stand up and do something for yourself...
Winners choose what to say... Losers say what to choose...
Winners say "I gotta do something for myself", losers say "Something need to be done..."
honestly, i haf tried to occupy myself wif things. but what turns out is tt either i haf no mood to do them due to the worries in my mind, or after doing so my worries will come back again. somehow i think even if i occupy myself wif things, my worries will nv disappear.
My advice, be proactive and keep yourself occupied... DONT keep ponering for nothing! -
Originally posted by mhcampboy:
this 1 long term problem alrdy. sometimes some people tell me something impt..eg a time to meet up through phone call..juz as the conversation ended i will think back and keep asking myself..eh izzit meet at tt time? then i will keep thinking and thinking perhaps to gif myself more assurance? then i will think..what if i am late? what if i made a mistake its actually another day? what if i made a wasted trip. i think its kinda GAD symptom
The only thing ppl here wants is you to accept all our advices which we have been giving you since i dunno when...
[b]But the more assurance we give u.. the more u worry....
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Don't take people criticisms too seriously, especially when you're in the army. Cause if you have a problem be it mental or physical, 80% of the time people will say you keng and criticize you even it's genuine. It's just army, just do it and soon everything will pass and when you look back, you'll just laugh it off.
But of course if you feel that what you do isn't within your ability, just sound off to your PC or SGT. Your PC/ SGT worries more about you than you worry about yourself. They do not want you to get into trouble, cause you got trouble means more trouble for them.
You shldn't worry so much now especially when you're enlisting. There's no point wasting your last few moments as a civilian worrying about army stuffs. If i were you, i would get myself drunk everyday and go clubbing, watch movie, watch porn and empty my cartridges as often as possible, cause when you enlist, there isn't much time to do all these. -
hmm i dunno whether i take criticisms too seriously or what but sometimes i do brood over them day and night. if i feel tt what i do isn't within my ability and sound off to pc/sgt, will they also think tt i am faking it?Originally posted by WP_:Don't take people criticisms too seriously, especially when you're in the army. Cause if you have a problem be it mental or physical, 80% of the time people will say you keng and criticize you even it's genuine. It's just army, just do it and soon everything will pass and when you look back, you'll just laugh it off.
But of course if you feel that what you do isn't within your ability, just sound off to your PC or SGT. Your PC/ SGT worries more about you than you worry about yourself. They do not want you to get into trouble, cause you got trouble means more trouble for them.
You shldn't worry so much now especially when you're enlisting. There's no point wasting your last few moments as a civilian worrying about army stuffs. If i were you, i would get myself drunk everyday and go clubbing, watch movie, watch porn and empty my cartridges as often as possible, cause when you enlist, there isn't much time to do all these.
maybe partly its my personality but..i can't seem to control those undue worries though. i even worry abt the bus ferry timing if u read the post i put up. i took a VERY long time to recover frm the failure of not being able to go poly and although everythings seems a little more smooth now, i haf the fear of meeting my friends/teachers in public and see me in uniform. i will be so humilitated by then. to be honest, i even lied to some of my friends tt i entered poly. i even lied to them abt the course i took! -
Seriously,1 more day to go,how do u feel now?
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pretty much worried. no anti depressants now.Originally posted by Marco_Simone:Seriously,1 more day to go,how do u feel now?
-bus ferry timing
-what if i am late
-what if uniform dun fit
-how am i going to arrange things in my cupboard?
-hang 1 uniform inside or 2?
- what if i am tongue tied during pc interview?
- how do i bring my documents for pc interview?
and the list goes on and on and on..pretty much straightforward stuff and plenty of What Ifs
no more anti depressants alrdy. i am wondering whether the MO prescribe anti depressants for me though? -
Go sleep,it's gonna be all right.Originally posted by AhJun:pretty much worried. no anti depressants now.
-bus ferry timing
-what if i am late
-what if uniform dun fit
-how am i going to arrange things in my cupboard?
-hang 1 uniform inside or 2?
- what if i am tongue tied during pc interview?
- how do i bring my documents for pc interview?
and the list goes on and on and on..pretty much straightforward stuff.
no more anti depressants alrdy. i am wondering whether the MO prescribe anti depressants for me though?
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tensed up. used to be able to able to slp onli at 1-2am in the morning and sometimes can even wake up at 6-7am and first thing tt comes to my mind will be those worries and What Ifs..and everything will start all over again for the day. Although i haf finished medication..but still as the enlistment is coming i am feeling more or less worried again. No medication now but i dunno what will happen to me in the futureOriginally posted by Marco_Simone:Go sleep,it's gonna be all right. -
Just go and rest. Tomorrow won't be as bad as you think.Originally posted by AhJun:tensed up. used to be able to able to slp onli at 1-2am in the morning and sometimes can even wake up at 6-7am and first thing tt comes to my mind will be those worries and What Ifs..and everything will start all over again for the day. Although i haf finished medication..but still as the enlistment is coming i am feeling more or less worried again. No medication now but i dunno what will happen to me in the future
If you are religious, pray to your deity for guidance and calm mind. It helps. -
Do what is right because it is right.Originally posted by AhJun:tensed up. used to be able to able to slp onli at 1-2am in the morning and sometimes can even wake up at 6-7am and first thing tt comes to my mind will be those worries and What Ifs..and everything will start all over again for the day. Although i haf finished medication..but still as the enlistment is coming i am feeling more or less worried again. No medication now but i dunno what will happen to me in the future -
all people living here more or less have worries, what ifs this and that... u r not the only one.....
and to ur latest post.... seriously god damn it no one actually knows what will happen to them themselves in the future too... like that prophets are all over the world liao...
u better take one step at a time... the fact that u think so deep and too much is the crux of ur anxiety problem. u noe its the signs and symptoms of ur gad problem.... then how to overcome it.... THINK SIMPLE... u think too hard causes u more worries... and u noe it... then so y think too deep then... its the 1st step to slowly overcome ur problem. u always say ur problem long term and very hard to accept and overcome... BECAUSE u dun have the determination and willpower to take the 1st step.... the IMH specialist can only help u that much, and he/she is not u... its ur own soul and its ur own life u control.
and dun all things u attribute to gad... worries r in everyone's mind... its how u take and steps to solve them that matter...
just remember..... from now on, think simple... things r at times direct and straightforward... u think too much n in the end..... things get bend and curve... -
2 ways for u now. either u go awol n go db or jus suck thumb n serve the farking 2 yrs...
life in army is already damn damn better compared to a few yrs ago.
oh yea theres option 3. keng for pes f. like tat u no need serve army... -
tommorow is the day to go to hell like hellgate london
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but somehow my worries seem to be different as compared to what other pple r worried about. mine r those straightforward type and will onli know if i experienced.Originally posted by eac:all people living here more or less have worries, what ifs this and that... u r not the only one.....
and to ur latest post.... seriously god damn it no one actually knows what will happen to them themselves in the future too... like that prophets are all over the world liao...
u better take one step at a time... the fact that u think so deep and too much is the crux of ur anxiety problem. u noe its the signs and symptoms of ur gad problem.... then how to overcome it.... THINK SIMPLE... u think too hard causes u more worries... and u noe it... then so y think too deep then... its the 1st step to slowly overcome ur problem. u always say ur problem long term and very hard to accept and overcome... BECAUSE u dun have the determination and willpower to take the 1st step.... the IMH specialist can only help u that much, and he/she is not u... its ur own soul and its ur own life u control.
and dun all things u attribute to gad... worries r in everyone's mind... its how u take and steps to solve them that matter...
just remember..... from now on, think simple... things r at times direct and straightforward... u think too much n in the end..... things get bend and curve... -
ermm why don't u try this http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=296123
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Again...Originally posted by AhJun:some of u r being sacarstic, offering useless advice, making a fool of me, saying tt i am faking it, what else can u all do to help? how i hope u pple r the ones whu share my problem then u all will know how it feels.
Plz read what i wrote for goodness sake...
Did i even say i don't believe you?
crap...
You think you problem is very hard to handle?
Tell you something...
There is a lot more out there who has worst problem then you and they endured thru it...
Why cant you?
And since you think so much that is become a illness...
Why don't you think cleverly and think of how to tell yourself to endure the 2 years instead of thinking ways to escape
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that can never happenOriginally posted by popikachu:Again...
Plz read what i wrote for goodness sake...
Did i even say i don't believe you?
crap...
You think you problem is very hard to handle?
Tell you something...
There is a lot more out there who has worst problem then you and they endured thru it...
Why cant you?
And since you think so much that is become a illness...
Why don't you think cleverly and think of how to tell yourself to endure the 2 years instead of thinking ways to escape -
Seems like ahjun is facing a rather big problem. Cut him some slack guys. you would'nt know how he's coping with he's current mental condition.
I've seen many of his case before. but ah jun, I assure you, if you think positively and optimisticly, u could still go thru those obstacles waiting for you in NS.
Its hard, I know, I've been there. The forum dudes here might have rmb giving me all sort of advice before I go in for my BMT. But rather den thinking negatively of wad bad things might happen to u in there, it better to think it as a journey that every man in singapore have to go. In no time, you might even enjoy it.
As I said, there is nothing much to worry, but due to your GAD or some sort condition, you are prone to worriness. But I doubt it will affect you daily activities since u are physically fit. I'm sure the sergants/PCs in there will guide u along. Treat them as your teachers, not your masters.
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i have seen real cases of GAD before, and frankly, you are thinking too much already, there is this case during my NS time, one guy when we are making fun of him, and we are trying to pull down his pants, and after a while of struggling, he snap, and he is on top of me, with a scissor about to stab me ....
i still think you are imagining things too much, and i don't understand since you worry so much, you should have declare during the first medical check up at cmpb, even i never expected to be PES E at all,
either way, you can report to your PC and tell him about your medical condition or suck it up and serve the 2 year of NS, don't keng.
You most likely to be refer to saf ward, and what you worry about is, what most people worry about, expect that in your case, dude, you are not even in NS yet
Don't make a mountain out of a mole hill, the more you whine, the more keng, you will look
P.S. you sounds like someone who is trying too hard to get downgrade and can't take hardship at all -
i know i shld haf declared during the first medical check up. but at tt time what do u suppose i say to the MO? i worry too much? the MO will most probably laugh and shrug it off and think tt its due to lack of self confidence and gif me a pesA which doesn't make any difference. besides, i dun haf any supporting doc at tt time due to the fact tt the matters tt hit me hard came after tt.Originally posted by allentyb_v2.01:
i have seen real cases of GAD before, and frankly, you are thinking too much already, there is this case during my NS time, one guy when we are making fun of him, and we are trying to pull down his pants, and after a while of struggling, he snap, and he is on top of me, with a scissor about to stab me ....
i still think you are imagining things too much, and i don't understand since you worry so much, you should have declare during the first medical check up at cmpb, even i never expected to be PES E at all,
either way, you can report to your PC and tell him about your medical condition or suck it up and serve the 2 year of NS, don't keng.
You most likely to be refer to saf ward, and what you worry about is, what most people worry about, expect that in your case, dude, you are not even in NS yet
Don't make a mountain out of a mole hill, the more you whine, the more keng, you will look
P.S. you sounds like someone who is trying too hard to get downgrade and can't take hardship at all
i dun think pple will worry abt the bus ferry timing, what if boots not clean? where to wash how to wash? got pail? nid to do this anot? nid to do tt anot? what if this what if tt. commonly pple worry abt the training in there not all these straightforward things. if i report to pc abt my problem during interview, then what will happen to me? given more attention? -
do not assume the answer by not even attempting to try. But guess its just too late now.Originally posted by AhJun:i know i shld haf declared during the first medical check up. but at tt time what do u suppose i say to the MO? i worry too much? the MO will most probably laugh and shrug it off and think tt its due to lack of self confidence and gif me a pesA which doesn't make any difference. besides, i dun haf any supporting doc at tt time due to the fact tt the matters tt hit me hard came after tt.
i dun think pple will worry abt the bus ferry timing, what if boots not clean? where to wash how to wash? got pail? nid to do this anot? nid to do tt anot? what if this what if tt. commonly pple worry abt the training in there not all these straightforward things. if i report to pc abt my problem during interview, then what will happen to me? given more attention?
Hey all of the questions u ask, you will be brief during your enlistment day. so no more worries okay. -
i merely declare that i have been to child guidance clinic and i got PES E, and i am not saying you don't have a mental disorder, i am just saying, you have waited too long to declare it, and i have seen many of such cases like you before when i was in NS, like i said before, just come clean with the MO, he will refer you to SAF ward, from there, you will be diagnose again........Originally posted by AhJun:i know i shld haf declared during the first medical check up. but at tt time what do u suppose i say to the MO? i worry too much? the MO will most probably laugh and shrug it off and think tt its due to lack of self confidence and gif me a pesA which doesn't make any difference. besides, i dun haf any supporting doc at tt time due to the fact tt the matters tt hit me hard came after tt.
i dun think pple will worry abt the bus ferry timing, what if boots not clean? where to wash how to wash? got pail? nid to do this anot? nid to do tt anot? what if this what if tt. commonly pple worry abt the training in there not all these straightforward things. if i report to pc abt my problem during interview, then what will happen to me? given more attention?
don't wait until you snap in NS, and things goes bad.
once you have declare your condition, you will be given medical attention from saf ward, report to your PC so that, he knows what is wrong with you, or he might just that you are a kengster. MO will not laugh off your condition when you have medical record....................
they will be more worried, you will use the rifle and shoot your head off..... that is what the MO told me when i ask whether will i be able to upgrade!
i suffered from obsessive compulsive behavior and personality disorder before, i was trigger happy in NS. Just declare your medical condition to your PC and get your butt to see a MO. Worrying isn't going to get you anywhere. -
initially i thot that the MO won't entertain me if i go back to cmpb for review wif juz an appointment card.Originally posted by allentyb_v2.01:i merely declare that i have been to child guidance clinic and i got PES E, and i am not saying you don't have a mental disorder, i am just saying, you have waited too long to declare it, and i have seen many of such cases like you before when i was in NS, like i said before, just come clean with the MO, he will refer you to SAF ward, from there, you will be diagnose again........
don't wait until you snap in NS, and things goes bad.
once you have declare your condition, you will be given medical attention from saf ward, report to your PC so that, he knows what is wrong with you, or he might just that you are a kengster. MO will not laugh off your condition when you have medical record....................
they will be more worried, you will use the rifle and shoot your head off..... that is what the MO told me when i ask whether will i be able to upgrade!
i suffered from obsessive compulsive behavior and personality disorder before, i was trigger happy in NS. Just declare your medical condition to your PC and get your butt to see a MO. Worrying isn't going to get you anywhere. -
when you are enlisted into your freaking unit, go to the medical center to see the darn MO over there, and tell them about your freaking condition, and i am sure you will see your PC for your darn first interview, tell him as well,Originally posted by AhJun:initially i thot that the MO won't entertain me if i go back to cmpb for review wif juz an appointment card.
and whether document you have, bring it with you when you are enlisted, if you have a medical file in IMH or whatever clinic, they will check it up. -
supermassive blackhole syndrome..
me me me MEEEE!!!
everything revolves around me.. and i'm such a poor thing.. i cannot handle this, i cannot handle that.. i'm so pathetic.. i'm such a...
whiner..
go do it..
sheesh...