Unsupportive Bf...
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Lolx...Originally posted by BaByBoY:ur bf haf PMS???
u mean he actually mensturate?? -
I ask him fetch mi go den wait 4 mi awhile, he oso dunwan... Juz awhile nia, photo shoot wont take long loh... But im mad when he says tat is INDECENT! Kinda insultin mi indirectly...Originally posted by red_tide24:no i dun tink her bf is angry with her gg for photo shoot.. if he is really worried dat shan cai may be taken advantage of.. den moreover he shld accompany her to the photo shoot ma.. right? -
did you find out why he said that and what's the exact interpretation?Originally posted by shan_cai:I ask him fetch mi go den wait 4 mi awhile, he oso dunwan... Juz awhile nia, photo shoot wont take long loh... But im mad when he says tat is INDECENT! Kinda insultin mi indirectly... -
But itz my freedom mah, i cant do wat i like? He dunwan mi restrict him den he stil does tat 2 mi??? Ok, he nv restrict mi fr goin, but he showed mi temper. Liddat i oso dun haf mood 2 go...Originally posted by BaByBoY:i feel that he`s cold sholder to the incident may ba a form of protest the the photo shots..
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I tok 2 him but he dunwan listen or cant b bothered 2 listen, den i oso LL. He bo chap de loh, now stil can jolly well pretend nothin happened n play his PS2.Originally posted by www:aiyo. go ask him lor. sometimes, the best way to get an answer is to ask the person himself. its pretty pointless speculating here and there.
if he has to read this thread to tell u how he feels and thinks, both of u have serious communication problems.
if a couple cant even sit down to talk to each other, and have to rely on the forum to communicate emotional issues, do u think this relationship's going to work in long run? -
He juz say y cant i find smthin decent 2 do... N he onli said indecent n boliao... Waste time onli...Originally posted by M©+square:did you find out why he said that and what's the exact interpretation?
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Maybe you put him on ignore and let him decide it's time to talk?Originally posted by shan_cai:I tok 2 him but he dunwan listen or cant b bothered 2 listen, den i oso LL. He bo chap de loh, now stil can jolly well pretend nothin happened n play his PS2. -
He wont wanna tok. He wont wanna take e initiative.Originally posted by Nelstar:Maybe you put him on ignore and let him decide it's time to talk? -
Maybe a good solution?Originally posted by Nelstar:Maybe you put him on ignore and let him decide it's time to talk? -
How about catching his attention by writing a big letter and pasting it over his ps2 or TV screen?Originally posted by shan_cai:He wont wanna tok. He wont wanna take e initiative. -
Where's Angeline...
She's always my advisor whenever i had probs wif my bf... Haiz~ -
Try PM her.Originally posted by shan_cai:Where's Angeline...
She's always my advisor whenever i had probs wif my bf... Haiz~
Ok I'll leave you to ponder. I can't really think of a good suggestion either. -
Den he'll scold mi BO LIAO again... Or even blame mi if i blocked his game n caused him 2 lose his game...Originally posted by Nelstar:How about catching his attention by writing a big letter and pasting it over his ps2 or TV screen? -
U tink i shd gif in again?
Im tired... -
Doing his own things doesn't mean he don't want to talk.Originally posted by shan_cai:Den he'll scold mi BO LIAO again... Or even blame mi if i blocked his game n caused him 2 lose his game...
PLS Try to identify that he doesn't like a quarrel too. For guys, Focusing on doing a particular something is a sign that a person is upset. and playing PS2 might be a way to vent his anger or helping him consolidate his thoughts.
Meanwhile....can you PLS wait for him and later tell him that
'i left you alone not because i'm angry with you, i want to respect you and wait for you to open up when you're ready.' 'It wasn't a good day for the both of us, i hope we'll end this remaining day well, so why not tell me what went wrong?'
This is a sample dialogue from me. You can be creative and start your own. Just don't let your ego stand in the way of good communication.
I'm sure after hearing it, he'll give you a hug first. REhearse..... -
how do you usually give in?Originally posted by shan_cai:U tink i shd gif in again?
Im tired...
Say Sorry?
Kneel before him?
Cry?
Quarrel??
Initiate conversation?
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Originally posted by M©+square:
Itz not my ego, but his...
Doing his own things doesn't mean he don't want to talk.
PLS Try to identify that he doesn't like a quarrel too. For guys, Focusing on doing a particular something is a sign that a person is upset. and playing PS2 might be a way to vent his anger or helping him consolidate his thoughts.
Meanwhile....can you PLS wait for him and later tell him that
[b]'i left you alone not because i'm angry with you, i want to respect you and wait for you to open up when you're ready.' 'It wasn't a good day for the both of us, i hope we'll end this remaining day well, so why not tell me what went wrong?'
This is a sample dialogue from me. You can be creative and start your own. Just don't let your ego stand in the way of good communication.
I'm sure after hearing it, he'll give you a hug first. REhearse.....
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He'll b more engrossed in his game than 2 even listen 2 wat i gotta say... -
Go over touch him n tok 2 him... Smtimes a hug...Originally posted by M©+square:how do you usually give in?
Say Sorry?
Kneel before him?
Cry?
Quarrel??
Initiate conversation?
How?
Cry is no use 2 him loh... I tink i already cried him at least a drain, but he wu dong yu zhong... -
Finger Pointing.Originally posted by shan_cai:Itz not my ego, but his...
He'll b more engrossed in his game than 2 even listen 2 wat i gotta say...
ok....i conclude....you're still upset and not ready to accept my advice. You didn't even read my post and try to understand.
Till next time.
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I understood wat ur tryin 2 tel mi, but i oso understand his character... At least. How can i not b upset? Now im e victim, not him... I lose my chance n i got insulted by him... Watz next? He's waitin 4 mi 2 gif in again. If not we'll nv gonna tok loh...Originally posted by M©+square:Finger Pointing. ok....i conclude....you're still upset and not ready to accept my advice. You didn't even read my post and try to understand.
Till next time.
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Give in this time and agree that the next time round, things must be settled mutually.Originally posted by shan_cai:I understood wat ur tryin 2 tel mi, but i oso understand his character... At least. How can i not b upset? Now im e victim, not him... I lose my chance n i got insulted by him... Watz next? He's waitin 4 mi 2 gif in again. If not we'll nv gonna tok loh...
Be gentle and understanding. The key to man's heart. -
Always muz mi gif in? Nexttime round it'll b mi 2 gif in again.Originally posted by M©+square:Give in this time and agree that the next time round, things must be settled mutually.
Be gentle and understanding. The key to man's heart. -
You ah .. Juboh ayam u noe ...Originally posted by I-like-flings(m):maybe he dunno what u wearing what.... as in guys will always think about sexy clothes when u tell about photo shots what... and maybe he think ur boss a bit siao siao to ask u to go for it what... why so bo liao have pic in website what.... right?? he maybe thinking the company selling their product or services or U what......maybe lah. i dunno the whole story lah..cheer up lor.. just change if u really cannot tehan him already lah... but most guy are like that one lah.. dun appreciate it when they have it.. and when u dump them.. they regret lor
Sutri maracumber .... -
maybe he has something affecting his mood but he keeps it to himself and dun tell? why dont u ask him?Originally posted by shan_cai:I dunno y he's liddat... All of sudden started 2 drift apart fr mi liao... I no longer feel his love n concern liao... Wat appears in frt of mi is a selfish n unfeelin guy...
Im supposed 2 go down later 4 a photo shoot n i asked him 2 fetch mi over, he declined flatly. Yest we already say liao bring mi down. But now? If dunwan den yest speak up lah. Itz juz awhile onli oso he cant wait. He say onli WASTE HIS TIME. Liddat i tink dis 1 yr plus im oso wastin his PRECIOUS time loh. I dunno wat makes him say tat but i feel tat he reali hurt mi wif his words... He says itz INDECENT. I dun find anythin wrong wif tat mah... I tot he'll b supportive in everythin i do, but i was wrong...
Watever i do is wrong, watever he does is correct. Y he can do e things he like n i cant? If i do, he'll b unhappy... Y? Y? Y?
He says if i wanna go, i go down myself... He's so selfish, today is his offday n he's free. Not as if he's busy den i bug him or wat... Now i no mood go... Tink i'll skip e photo shoot...
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ya ya.. only Mr. Bear the great is help with ur deep deep english right?? oh man... whats new??Originally posted by the Bear:you're not helping..
if you cannot help, try not to make a bad situation worse with your nonsensical babbling??
1) u dun own this forum
2) i'm not even talking to u
3) stop acting as law enforcer here and mind ur own business
Thanks