Unsupportive Bf...
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I dunno y he's liddat... All of sudden started 2 drift apart fr mi liao... I no longer feel his love n concern liao... Wat appears in frt of mi is a selfish n unfeelin guy...
Im supposed 2 go down later 4 a photo shoot n i asked him 2 fetch mi over, he declined flatly. Yest we already say liao bring mi down. But now? If dunwan den yest speak up lah. Itz juz awhile onli oso he cant wait. He say onli WASTE HIS TIME. Liddat i tink dis 1 yr plus im oso wastin his PRECIOUS time loh. I dunno wat makes him say tat but i feel tat he reali hurt mi wif his words... He says itz INDECENT. I dun find anythin wrong wif tat mah... I tot he'll b supportive in everythin i do, but i was wrong...
Watever i do is wrong, watever he does is correct. Y he can do e things he like n i cant? If i do, he'll b unhappy... Y? Y? Y?
He says if i wanna go, i go down myself... He's so selfish, today is his offday n he's free. Not as if he's busy den i bug him or wat... Now i no mood go... Tink i'll skip e photo shoot...
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sometimes the brain reacts badly due to fatigue.
give him time to realise. -
he could be troubled with other things....
things he does not want you to worry about...
when guys are troubled, they clam up, keep to themselves...
be well yah?
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Possessive lah.... photo shot what.... u going to wear little little for others(guy maybe) to take ur pic.... alot of guys are like that one lah. dun worri.... but if got other think he not happy about i dunno already lor...u will know better...
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Fr wat i noe, he has nothin 2 trouble loh... I feel tat itz he dis few days lose money in bettin den vent out on mi... Like my fault liddat... Tat day when i say wanna go take those photocard pics, he say waste money. I mean, itz onli $8. Den he bet on soccer lose so much nv even complain. Tatz y i feel tat he's selfish. He wan things his way n nv gif in 2 mi...Originally posted by the Bear:he could be troubled with other things....
things he does not want you to worry about...
when guys are troubled, they clam up, keep to themselves...
be well yah?
Im reali driftin away fr him liao... Driftin further n further... -
The more you think the more you'll feel it. It's psychological.Originally posted by shan_cai:Fr wat i noe, he has nothin 2 trouble loh... I feel tat itz he dis few days lose money in bettin den vent out on mi... Like my fault liddat... Tat day when i say wanna go take those photocard pics, he say waste money. I mean, itz onli $8. Den he bet on soccer lose so much nv even complain. Tatz y i feel tat he's selfish. He wan things his way n nv gif in 2 mi...
Im reali driftin away fr him liao... Driftin further n further... -
why do i think he may be in over his head and troubled?
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Itz not abt wearin little or wat, coz im wearin normal 4 e photoshoot... My boss juz wanna upload my pic into their website coz im new... Liddat oso INDECENT n BOLIAO???Originally posted by I-like-flings(m):Possessive lah.... photo shot what.... u going to wear little little for others(guy maybe) to take ur pic.... alot of guys are like that one lah. dun worri.... but if got other think he not happy about i dunno already lor...u will know better... -
aiyo..
u got ask his pt opf view??
maybe he`s scared u`ll be taken advantage of by other ppl...
maybe he`s afraid the photograher will ask u to do sexy poses, which he don want other ppl to see mahz -
maybe he dunno what u wearing what.... as in guys will always think about sexy clothes when u tell about photo shots what... and maybe he think ur boss a bit siao siao to ask u to go for it what... why so bo liao have pic in website what.... right?? he maybe thinking the company selling their product or services or U what......maybe lah. i dunno the whole story lah..cheer up lor.. just change if u really cannot tehan him already lah... but most guy are like that one lah.. dun appreciate it when they have it.. and when u dump them.. they regret lorOriginally posted by shan_cai:Itz not abt wearin little or wat, coz im wearin normal 4 e photoshoot... My boss juz wanna upload my pic into their website coz im new... Liddat oso INDECENT n BOLIAO??? -
guy oso have PMS one......
think of the times he gave in to u when u have PMS or bad mood......... -
you're not helping..
if you cannot help, try not to make a bad situation worse with your nonsensical babbling??Originally posted by I-like-flings(m):maybe he dunno what u wearing what.... as in guys will always think about sexy clothes when u tell about photo shots what... and maybe he think ur boss a bit siao siao to ask u to go for it what... why so bo liao have pic in website what.... right?? he maybe thinking the company selling their product or services or U what......maybe lah. i dunno the whole story lah..cheer up lor.. just change if u really cannot tehan him already lah... but most guy are like that one lah.. dun appreciate it when they have it.. and when u dump them.. they regret lor -
ur bf haf PMS???Originally posted by FireIce:guy oso have PMS one......
think of the times he gave in to u when u have PMS or bad mood.........
u mean he actually mensturate?? -
no i dun tink her bf is angry with her gg for photo shoot.. if he is really worried dat shan cai may be taken advantage of.. den moreover he shld accompany her to the photo shoot ma.. right?Originally posted by BaByBoY:aiyo..
u got ask his pt opf view??
maybe he`s scared u`ll be taken advantage of by other ppl...
maybe he`s afraid the photograher will ask u to do sexy poses, which he don want other ppl to see mahz -
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i feel that he`s cold sholder to the incident may ba a form of protest the the photo shots..Originally posted by red_tide24:no i dun tink her bf is angry with her gg for photo shoot.. if he is really worried dat shan cai may be taken advantage of.. den moreover he shld accompany her to the photo shoot ma.. right?
only a possibility... -
Guys also have their down daysOriginally posted by BaByBoY:ur bf haf PMS???
u mean he actually mensturate??
We dun mensturate doesnt mean tt we wun have bad mood.
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Y do i tink there;s nothin troublin him? Im always wif him n he doesnt look like he's troubled... I mean, i noe it when he's troubled coz i encountered it b4...Originally posted by the Bear:why do i think he may be in over his head and troubled? -
dunno then.. but i do hope that both of you will be okayOriginally posted by shan_cai:Y do i tink there;s nothin troublin him? Im always wif him n he doesnt look like he's troubled... I mean, i noe it when he's troubled coz i encountered it b4...
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like Bear have said. You're really not helping anyway.Originally posted by I-like-flings(m):maybe he dunno what u wearing what.... ...but most guy are like that one lah.. dun appreciate it when they have it.. and when u dump them.. they regret lor
We really don't need Speculations here.
Shan_Cai is already thinking alot of unnecessary things.
Please don't add on to those worries.
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Agree!!Originally posted by Patrik:Guys also have their down days
We dun mensturate doesnt mean tt we wun have bad mood.
Get it?
some days r juz plain bad..
everythings turns out the other way..
during these days i`ll be very pek chek..
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aiyo. go ask him lor. sometimes, the best way to get an answer is to ask the person himself. its pretty pointless speculating here and there.
if he has to read this thread to tell u how he feels and thinks, both of u have serious communication problems.
if a couple cant even sit down to talk to each other, and have to rely on the forum to communicate emotional issues, do u think this relationship's going to work in long run? -
Don't have this thought that you 'know' your partner well enough to read his mind.Originally posted by shan_cai:Y do i tink there;s nothin troublin him? Im always wif him n he doesnt look like he's troubled... I mean, i noe it when he's troubled coz i encountered it b4...
Things may not seem the way you see.
We don't know what happened too.
In order to open him up, the first thing is not get upset by his actions. Try to approach him gently and be interested to listen to him.
Become a Solid -- and Secure -- Listener
Is it even possible to have honest relationships? The assumption is that everybody's going to be honest. The truth is, few people are. And the main reason that people are dishonest is that the consequences are too big. Many men feel that women want and need to be lied to because they can't take the honest truth. Some of my clients have said that they fear telling their partner what is really going on in their lives, or how they truly feel because it will upset her. In fact, many women use their emotions to control men -- and control the relationship. They demand certain responses from men, and feel devastated if they don't get them. Then they're surprised when he shuts down and doesn't talk.
Unfortunately, many women also have strong images of how a man is "supposed" to feel, and think. That kind of fantasy makes the truth devastating, so they let the man know in many subtle ways that they do not want it. Sound familiar? We're all guilty of this from time to time, but being willing to listen to what he has to say is the beginning of a truly mature relationship. It gives the man the feeling that he has a solid partner who will be there with him through thick and thin.
Too long to type all. Anyway, i hope you get what i mean.
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No loh, juz normal photo shootin nia... Im old enough 2 tink. I noe wats gd n bad 4 mi...Originally posted by BaByBoY:aiyo..
u got ask his pt opf view??
maybe he`s scared u`ll be taken advantage of by other ppl...
maybe he`s afraid the photograher will ask u to do sexy poses, which he don want other ppl to see mahz -
Wah lao... Im at his hse. Wat i wear he can c mah... Juz casual dressin loh, photo shoot my face, not BODY.Originally posted by I-like-flings(m):maybe he dunno what u wearing what.... as in guys will always think about sexy clothes when u tell about photo shots what... and maybe he think ur boss a bit siao siao to ask u to go for it what... why so bo liao have pic in website what.... right?? he maybe thinking the company selling their product or services or U what......maybe lah. i dunno the whole story lah..cheer up lor.. just change if u really cannot tehan him already lah... but most guy are like that one lah.. dun appreciate it when they have it.. and when u dump them.. they regret lor
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