Is chemistry all that important?
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apparently, this is one of the main factors when one looks out for a potential partner, particularly in the female gender. how misleading or useful do you think it is?
or is it just another excuse to reject someone whom you think is not good enough, be it in physical or material sense?
and when the sparkles die down, one usually starts rating the person beside you with more rationale, rather than what you heart tells you.
if that's the case, would it be more time-saving to do that right from the start?
are these instincts of yours right so far? -
chemistry is definitely not an excuse used to rejet someone lor...Originally posted by www:apparently, this is one of the main factors when one looks out for a potential partner, particularly in the female gender. how misleading or useful do you think it is?
or is it just another excuse to reject someone whom you think is not good enough, be it in physical or material sense?
and when the sparkles die down, one usually starts rating the person beside you with more rationale, rather than what you heart tells you.
if that's the case, would it be more time-saving to do that right from the start?
are these instincts of yours right so far?
to be able to be happy with a person, 2 must click mah...n to be able to click, its tat special feeling called chemistry...this applies be it in a r/s or in a friendship...tats y some ppl can get along better with others.
however, i feel tat chemistry would not "blind" a person when judging another...true some biasiness will prevail..like u might think "he alwaz seems to be bo chap but maybe he is bz lah" when the chemistry is there but when it dies down, the same characteristics will evoke a diff tot like "tat bloody idiot, dun seems to bother abt the r/s at all"
it might be more time-saving to evaluate a person n rate him with rationale rite from the beginning but feelings cannot be controlled and well...most human are ruled by the heart, not the head until the feeling is not tat intense anymore (boys n gals included)
as for myself, my instinct has not been very far off the mark but somemore once chemistry fizzle off...i will tend to be more irritated with the person easily n tats when the r/s crumbles.
so personally i feel for me to be with a person for realli long term a.k.a marriage, the chemistry must be every present...hard but tats where both parties will have to put in the effort to keep the romance alive! -
Originally posted by www:apparently, this is one of the main factors when one looks out for a potential partner, particularly in the female gender. how misleading or useful do you think it is?
or is it just another excuse to reject someone whom you think is not good enough, be it in physical or material sense?
and when the sparkles die down, one usually starts rating the person beside you with more rationale, rather than what you heart tells you.
if that's the case, would it be more time-saving to do that right from the start?
are these instincts of yours right so far?
it's a bit more important than physical. it's very good to abuse because there's no basis for arguement. -
i think chemistry is a very special thing.
and it's not something which can be pei yang over time.
as to whether it's tat impt, this question too chim liao. not experience enough to ans that.
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Originally posted by Churra:i think chemistry is a very special thing.
and it's not something which can be pei yang over time.
as to whether it's tat impt, this question too chim liao. not experience enough to ans that. are you sure it can't be pei yang-ed? i wasn't what i am now before i decided to adapt to my girlfriend's requirements. or should i say 'evolved'? -
u adapt to ur gf's requirement is one thing. but is it chemistry?Originally posted by boy in blues: are you sure it can't be pei yang-ed? i wasn't what i am now before i decided to adapt to my girlfriend's requirements. or should i say 'evolved'? -
Originally posted by Churra:u adapt to ur gf's requirement is one thing. but is it chemistry? something like pei he her like that. kinda like knowing what's on her mind and responding appropriately.
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from your experiences, do the so-called "chemistry" usually come in before or after both of you know each other?
and by different stage of it's emergence, which helps the relationship better? -
i neber believe in chemistry.........
i believe in comfortability and suitability........
u might have that spark there but to make it last is the impt thing..... -
I don't really believe in instincts... Cause they can be pretty MISLEADING....Originally posted by www:apparently, this is one of the main factors when one looks out for a potential partner, particularly in the female gender. how misleading or useful do you think it is?
or is it just another excuse to reject someone whom you think is not good enough, be it in physical or material sense?
and when the sparkles die down, one usually starts rating the person beside you with more rationale, rather than what you heart tells you.
if that's the case, would it be more time-saving to do that right from the start?
are these instincts of yours right so far? -
What about physics and Bio.......
/looks at posts... oops... pai seh... sala.
Chemistry in r/s ar...
I got no idea...
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without a doubt.
to me at least...
its a great feelg..juz indugle in it while it lasts..
chemistry applies to both sexes as well..
with some pp..u juz dun get e flow..no connectivity...
well thats y u're frens with ur frens...gf of ur bf..bf of ur gf..n not with others... -
physics more important
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apparently, this is one of the main factors when one looks out for a potential partner, particularly in the female gender. how misleading or useful do you think it is?
most of the times, it's misleading eventually. but it has to be the only way to start my interest in the opposite gender.
or is it just another excuse to reject someone whom you think is not good enough, be it in physical or material sense?
i don't believe that a person is not good enough for another. it's a fact that nobody is perfect (even the one i have chemistry with is definitely not perfect). if i reject someone, it is becoz it just so happens that i don't feel myself being romantically attracted to that person, ie, chemistry is genuinely lacking.
and when the sparkles die down, one usually starts rating the person beside you with more rationale, rather than what you heart tells you.
if that's the case, would it be more time-saving to do that right from the start?
i think as we age, we tend to be more cautious abt spending time on the wrong person. so it is true that one should be more rationale right from the start.
but if two people genuinely have chemistry for each other, why not take a step further and see how far things go? you never know unless you try....
are these instincts of yours right so far? define "right"? able to head towards the path of marriage means "right"?
so far, i don't regret going with my feelings if i genuinely like a person. i've enjoyed past relationships though sometimes i'm left battered and emotionally drained but i'm still hopeful for the "right" one to come along eventually.... -
i also never believe in chemistry. i believe in biology, muahahahahahahaha.....Originally posted by FireIce:i neber believe in chemistry.........
i believe in comfortability and suitability........
u might have that spark there but to make it last is the impt thing..... -
btw, even for those who do not believe the importance of it, how many of you have experience the so-called chemistry?
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i have experienced it.....tts why i dun believe in itOriginally posted by www:btw, even for those who do not believe the importance of it, how many of you have experience the so-called chemistry? -
think for me biology more important.
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DID... Usually younger days... Nowadays when if I do experience it, I'll tend to dismiss it just like that...Originally posted by www:btw, even for those who do not believe the importance of it, how many of you have experience the so-called chemistry?