Am i doing too much or is it normal ?
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Originally posted by ChoCoChips:
ask for ur money back.
tell her u got receipts for everything
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If you really like the girl, why so calculative?
If you are hoping to get something in return for what you spent, isn't it a trade?
When I treat a girl nice, I don't ask anything in return. Anything in turn, are bonus.
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She sees through your agenda. She is direct. She is wondering if you will create a scene if you do not get what you want.
Since you are investing on her, you either continue and hold you position, or you can cut your losses and get out.
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she keeps saying she need more time .
we have known each other for one month and i`ve done so much isn`t it not enough ?
i hope she is not playing me .
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Originally posted by Karma88:
she keeps saying she need more time .
we have known each other for one month and i`ve done so much isn`t it not enough ?
i hope she is not playing me .
u think u do alot oni.maybe not enuff for her.
but i think unlikely la
after all this kind hor is not say
u do alot of things then u can get the girl leh
u think u studying meh put in effort then can get result
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Originally posted by mancha:
She sees through your agenda. She is direct. She is wondering if you will create a scene if you do not get what you want.
Since you are investing on her, you either continue and hold you position, or you can cut your losses and get out.
Yeah exactly.... She wanna see what you'll do if she reject you. What will you do man.
I can't say if she does not have interest in you. I can just say shes testing you.
Now your like playing stocks.... Do you want to sell (stop chasing her) or hold (continue)?
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Originally posted by Karma88:
Thanks for all your replys .Anyway i hope she is testing me. But everytime when i fetch her home i would ask if she wants to go have dinner or something . She would always say no i dont wanna get fat and then there`ll be nothing else to do .
And we talk almost every night . During the first 2 weeks of knowing her we talked like for 3 hours every night . Then it started becoming lesser and now it`s like 5 mins of talking time . Cause for some reason she would call me at like 2.30am and say she is very tired then wat else can i say but , ok lor u go sleep first . Oh btw she is the one who always calls me. But i rather i call her cause i really hate waiting for her call.
One other problem is her sms replies are kina rubbish like. As in her reply is some times short . For example she would just reply a LOL ok ok . This kind of reply i rather she not reply is like she`s not even interested to reply me is like she`s just entertaining me but on the other hand she might be busy. But no matter how busy i`m i would still find a topic to reply her msg.
Huh. Weird. Then she must very skinny or somethin. Ask her la. Sure or not. Why dont want to dine with you. In a joking manner.
Hmm. She always made the move huh. Not bad leh.
The SMS thing dont care la. It depends what u send her earlier on. Sometimes there isnt much to reply so that explains the short reply lor.
Sometimes when you want to know somethin, just ask. But dont ask blindly, ask in a different manner. A different approach to get your answer. That will be easier. Instead of making wild guesses.
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Sigh... it's not how much you do but what you do...
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quality not quantity.
hahaha. why am i repeating this line in diff topics.
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Originally posted by Karma88:
Thanks for all your replys .Anyway i hope she is testing me. But everytime when i fetch her home i would ask if she wants to go have dinner or something . She would always say no i dont wanna get fat and then there`ll be nothing else to do .
And we talk almost every night . During the first 2 weeks of knowing her we talked like for 3 hours every night . Then it started becoming lesser and now it`s like 5 mins of talking time . Cause for some reason she would call me at like 2.30am and say she is very tired then wat else can i say but , ok lor u go sleep first . Oh btw she is the one who always calls me. But i rather i call her cause i really hate waiting for her call.
One other problem is her sms replies are kina rubbish like. As in her reply is some times short . For example she would just reply a LOL ok ok . This kind of reply i rather she not reply is like she`s not even interested to reply me is like she`s just entertaining me but on the other hand she might be busy. But no matter how busy i`m i would still find a topic to reply her msg.
Please find yourself a NORMAL GIRL.
You know her behaviour aren't normal for you, yet you still tried to describe her as normal as you can to us.
And the funny thing is, neither you, herself or any of you realised that the girl is ABNORMAL.
Even if one day she suddenly agrees to be your girlfriend. Would you feel happiness or mixed feelings?
Is there no other normal girls around you that you like?
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Anyway i` m feeling super down now .
I`ve just asked her to be normal friends and take it slow since she needed more time .
She said she was not playing with my feelings and all. But she really dont know how she`s feeling now . she cried and all .
I think i`ve made a mistake by asking her just to be normal friends . Cause is kina like forcing her to be my girlfriend.
Worst thing is my exams are nearing and i totally cant study with all these things .
Lord save me
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lol @ most of yous de comment. Seriously though..
I admit that Karma needs to get some communication going on. Cant always be a driver like EVERYDAY. I know u like her and all. Give her the gifts n stuff during valentines. But if she starts to think u r all boring... keep fetching her, then she THINKS she can find someone else better ? Then go find la. I mean honestly, i will not fetch her everyday n all, and just to bring her home but if that is how u feel towards her n wanna treat her nice n stuff and she dun like it, its her loss. Not yours. U just wasted petrol money only and wasted ur effort in being urself.. thats if your nature is a nice and caring guy n all. Interests takes to build. But u can always set a bar and the initial periods to GET her attention, u gotta do what u gotta do. Thats all cool and good.Power projection, u gotta know when to use it and how to use it and WHO you use it on.
But you gotta make sure the bar u set, u can maintain when in a relationship. Wooing period is easy, the part in holding on to the relationship is not easy. Cause girls will always compare.. they just cant go back in lifestyle man, n thts thefucked up thing, but thats pretty much fact.. unfortunately.
Those here talking about oh... cant be nice, girl power ... hey, dun hate the player.. hate the game. Oh and about the 'brother that i never had' thank God i have to get any replies like that from any girl i liked, but if they said that, i'll just say 'well, i am not ur brother and never will. I do this because i like you, and it aint no brotherly love. ;p.. but now i know, that i am only just a brother.. u never had. U into incest? ' kekeke
There is also different girls , different mentality and personalities. Good things take time. U can tone down, but can still remain in a relationship. They play thier mind games, you just do what u gotta do. She wants a normal relationship ? Its cool, pretty much means u can be friends with her n still look for other girls and date them at the same time.But that is entirely up to you. Depends how much u really really like her.
If she dun appreciate the things you have done and put effort into it , u just accept the fact and its up to you whether u wanna use the time as friends to slowly worm your way in, or move on. And if she comes running back to you, do u think its fair to you? Fucking ur mind like that... playing u by the balls. N dun let those pretty watery doe eyes get u all weak n shit... never ever forget the past. N personally , i do not think its fair. If they can play that kind of game, they gotta live with the consequences of it.
I know u get weak n all , feeling all fucked up. But get a grip on urself man. Its not the end of the world. Since u already tell her just be normal friends, all relationship start off as friends. U gotta know how to get ur priorities right man.. ur exams nearing, u study. Some girls like a guy who always pamper her, some girls like a man that take charge of his shit. I say u take care of your own shit first.. n thats get ur exams going. Get some good results and after ur exam then u start to think of her again.
If u do things without expecting any returns, good stuffs will happen. Dun ever think tht investing on a girl expecting returns. U do it because u wanna do it and u feel good doing it and u wanna see her happy with it. Making or seeing her happy makes u happy. In the end of the day if she doesnt give a hoot about u, well... tell her good luck in finding someone else better. And if she does find someone better, u should be happy that she is happy.
Anyways, asking around wont really help ur problem but maybe get some insight ppl's different experience. So, all the best ;p Never ever rush things unless u for some unforseen reasons need to.. like lack of time to know her etc.. hehehe...
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unf unf ~
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sibeh long post from the chee hong master
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Just get it straight forward lah, next time fetch her, go your way man. =) Bring her to somewhere quiet, (dun rape her there) talk it out with her!! sometimes all you need is to make her cry and hug her there! you will get it, since she's quite sensitive over you, she likes you, she thinks you're a great guy, however she doesnt have the special feeling for you YET. probably b'cus she's not ready to give up her freedom for a serious relationship, show her what you've got!
But what I can say is you shouldn't fetch her off work everyday... but since u've already been doing this, its hard for you to stop. That's what most guy does lah, b4 together show them how good how good, after being together, become a total dick. -
just rape her
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if you believe you really love her, then keep chasing her until she says NO or YES.
Frankly, You are the only one who can fight for your own hapiness and not us giving u suggestions.
Gd luck!!!
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Alright thanks all
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Originally posted by The Showstopper:
just rape her
Is that what your Dad did to your Mom?Thanks for sharing with us.
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Originally posted by Karma88:
Anyway i` m feeling super down now .
I`ve just asked her to be normal friends and take it slow since she needed more time .
She said she was not playing with my feelings and all. But she really dont know how she`s feeling now . she cried and all .
I think i`ve made a mistake by asking her just to be normal friends . Cause is kina like forcing her to be my girlfriend.
Worst thing is my exams are nearing and i totally cant study with all these things .
Lord save me
I believed I already advise you to ignore all her nonsense.Did I not tell you she is saying all those things to MESS WITH YOUR BRAIN?
Brave through her nonsense and continue to love her with committments without fail.
I would've felt touched if a guy can survived through all my nonsense and still remained truely in love with me as constant as gravity.
Ya...THE LORD can only SAVE you IF you are willing to LISTEN TO THE LORD!!!
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TOO HOT FOR YOU
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Originally posted by parn:
Is that what your Dad did to your Mom?Thanks for sharing with us.
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Originally posted by The Showstopper:
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Originally posted by parn:
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http://www.sgclub.com/singapore/friend_zone_explained_98997.html
read the above.
It makes me feel better and i hope it does for u .
Take things slow