Am i doing too much or is it normal ?
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i have a similiar exp and i m willing to share it with u....
i woo a girl for 2yrs and she accepted my wooing..so i continue...i also let her know my feelings but she just says its isnt time..
i have also fetch her hm which was far away from my hse...i was willing to spend tat few hrs to do tat...
in the end, she says "tell me y shld be be tgt"...if u hear tat qn suddenly i bet u dunno wat to ans...then there she was just gone all of a sudden...
now she is with a guy so much older than her...i just cannot accept tat fact tat she allowed me to woo her n still gt rejected...
the only advice i can give is
1) try to cool dwn alittle n see if she reaacts...such as u msg her lesser compared to last time and see if she realise tat n notice if she starts msging u more..
2) u shld not spend tat much to woo the gal...she might think u take her as someone who loves money...if she loves money more than u..i believe just let it go...
u can pm me anytime
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Originally posted by Karma88:
alright here`s the problem .
One month ago i met this gal who was my friend`s friend . She was kina hot and all plus my friend told me she was kina interested in me .So i started chasing her . On v-day i bought her a bag which cost 250. And treated her to a meal 100+ . Plus i drop her a msg telling her how i feel towards her . She then told me she needed more time to me my gf. Ok so i decided to give her more time and i`m still chasing her . I would pick her up from work everyday even though it`s not on the way and i have go through erpS just to fetch her home we wont even go out and eat or watever i just go and fetch her home like a driver. Suddenly today she told me wat would u do if you didn`t get anything back from me after u have done so much ?
I totally went blank. So my question is do you guys out there think that i`ve done to much to give up now ? Or is that normal in chasing girls .
And if guys had such bad experience pls share it out so i can judge for myself and see if i`ve done too much.
Don't splurge on girls who are not your gfs yet, ESPECIALLY SG Girls who are POOR!Is she POOR but hot?
The best option for you right now is to Permanently forget about her trick question.
It's what we do to mess with your brain.
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Originally posted by One_N_Only:
i have a similiar exp and i m willing to share it with u....
i woo a girl for 2yrs and she accepted my wooing..so i continue...i also let her know my feelings but she just says its isnt time..
i have also fetch her hm which was far away from my hse...i was willing to spend tat few hrs to do tat...
in the end, she says "tell me y shld be be tgt"...if u hear tat qn suddenly i bet u dunno wat to ans...then there she was just gone all of a sudden...
now she is with a guy so much older than her...i just cannot accept tat fact tat she allowed me to woo her n still gt rejected...
the only advice i can give is
1) try to cool dwn alittle n see if she reaacts...such as u msg her lesser compared to last time and see if she realise tat n notice if she starts msging u more..
2) u shld not spend tat much to woo the gal...she might think u take her as someone who loves money...if she loves money more than u..i believe just let it go...
u can pm me anytime
Another one whom went down the same way as TS.
Consider this statement I made earlier "Guys whom only know how to play it the nice way, fail most of the time" You know, amigo.. this whole science of attraction goes beyond being nice..
I refer to the last sentence and I got worrying - just because a lady 'allows' your wooing means she got to accept your wooing.
Oh well, c'est la vie... Be humble in victory, and gracious in defeat.. Better luck next time, pal
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it appears that she is no longer as interested as u at the start. I think what u have is starting to cause her discomfort.
TS i know that you are trying to be sincere, but apparently to her you are overdoing things. I suggest you just stop all this and leave her alone. If she misses you, then she will contact you automatically de.
Overdoing things, or being eager to prove your sincerity may be the reason why you fail in the end..
Dont become the next me..
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Girls like bad boys, not nice guys who treat them prim and proper.
Try ignoring her and not contacting her for a few weeks/ months / years.
See if she calls you to find out what's wrong.
If she doesn't, you can bet you are first on her list.
First from the bottom, that is.
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The thread title leads the imagination of a person astray.
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Originally posted by 16/f/lonely:
The thread title leads the imagination of a person astray.
You think too much.
Men. Pfffttttt.
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for a girl's view...
u have been "out"-ed.
u see my point? she dun interest in u, and feel stress abt what u did to her.
but well, it is just my opinion la, cos i dun really like guy who is toooooooo over.
on the other hand, it is sweet la, but when u dun like a person whatever he did is just irritating u...
n for me... i like the guy i hardly to attain one...
anw.. good luck!
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i think the girl is either :
guilty for taking advantage of you.
or
She is testing you.
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Girls always have the power.
If a guy likes her and showers her with gifts and affection, the girl benefits.
Which girl doesn't want to feel nice and pampered without having to commit?
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Originally posted by charlize:
Girls always have the power.
If a guy likes her and showers her with gifts and affection, the girl benefits.
Which girl doesn't want to feel nice and pampered without having to commit?
but i will know the limit, if the guy is doing too much n i'm not interested, i'll let him know that we should just remain where we are
some gals out there just lead on and enjoy the attention, those idiots i don like
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Originally posted by candiz:
but i will know the limit, if the guy is doing too much n i'm not interested, i'll let him know that we should just remain where we are
some gals out there just lead on and enjoy the attention, those idiots i don like
You get treated to free lunches and dinners when you meet up.
Free kopi.
Gifts on important dates like Valentine's Day, X mas, birthday etc.
Wheee.
And when you get bored, you just tell him "thanks bro, you are the kor kor I never had"
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Originally posted by charlize:
You get treated to free lunches and dinners when you meet up.
Free kopi.
Gifts on important dates like Valentine's Day, X mas, birthday etc.
Wheee.
And when you get bored, you just tell him "thanks bro, you are the kor kor I never had"
going out with a gal doesn't necessariy hav to be r/s, confess etc etc, it can just be pure friendship, guys shldn't think too much, if not gals don't dare to go out wif u as a friend anymore
anw, when i go out wif guys normally they treat first, but sometimes i also will pay. and although i get gifts from frens, i also will buy them back, not all gals take things for granted
just that there are some who are really spoilt and think they are like princess
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Originally posted by candiz:
going out with a gal doesn't necessariy hav to be r/s, confess etc etc, it can just be pure friendship, guys shldn't think too much, if not gals don't dare to go out wif u as a friend anymore
anw, when i go out wif guys normally they treat first, but sometimes i also will pay. and although i get gifts from frens, i also will buy them back, not all gals take things for granted
just that there are some who are really spoilt and think they are like princess
That's why I say girls have the power.
It is almost a given fact that when a guy wants to go out with a girl constantly, he is interested in her.
On the other hand, the girl can just go along for the ride.
And when she gets bored, she just says "we are just friends"
Girl power, I say.
Girl power.
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Originally posted by charlize:
That's why I say girls have the power.
It is almost a given fact that when a guy wants to go out with a girl constantly, he is interested in her.
On the other hand, the girl can just go along for the ride.
And when she gets bored, she just says "we are just friends"
Girl power, I say.
Girl power.
haha, guys also have the power too, as long as u are hot enough, gal or guy will hav the power
gals at least only lead u along, buy her stuff, that's all
guys worse ok, bluff gal feelings, get her into bed and later say just be frens
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Originally posted by candiz:
haha, guys also have the power too, as long as u are hot enough, gal or guy will hav the power
gals at least only lead u along, buy her stuff, that's all
guys worse ok, bluff gal feelings, get her into bed and later say just be frens
Guys are worse than girls.
Pttttuiii.
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Originally posted by Karma88:
alright here`s the problem .
One month ago i met this gal who was my friend`s friend . She was kina hot and all plus my friend told me she was kina interested in me .So i started chasing her . On v-day i bought her a bag which cost 250. And treated her to a meal 100+ . Plus i drop her a msg telling her how i feel towards her . She then told me she needed more time to me my gf. Ok so i decided to give her more time and i`m still chasing her . I would pick her up from work everyday even though it`s not on the way and i have go through erpS just to fetch her home we wont even go out and eat or watever i just go and fetch her home like a driver. Suddenly today she told me wat would u do if you didn`t get anything back from me after u have done so much ?
I totally went blank. So my question is do you guys out there think that i`ve done to much to give up now ? Or is that normal in chasing girls .
And if guys had such bad experience pls share it out so i can judge for myself and see if i`ve done too much.
I think you did too much, imo.
If I were you, I wouldn't do so much (plus I know she has some interest in me). I wouldn't fetch her home every day. Maybe twice a week. And I don't just fetch her home, I'll bring her to some places - to dine or relax. We need to have some communication you see. I'm not a chauffeur and don't wanna be one.
Yes, you know she is kind of into you. But how much do you 2 know about each other? Did you 2 sit down and have a chat? Perhaps she might have interest in your physical appearance only, but what about the inside? (your character) Probably after your 'courting' (the vday experience), she might think you lack of some substance (good, yes, in a way that you drive her home after her work, but then you might not be entertaining enough). I don't know.Anyway, fret not. For her question part, (wat would u do if you didn`t get anything back from me after u have done so much ?) :
1. She could be testing you. Are you the type of guy who retreats after being rejected? Are you good to her only during the courting stage? How much patience do you have? Are you the type of guy who asks for something in return when you treat a girl good? How 'da fang' (generous or something) are you in handling rejection?
2. It's about guilty. She thinks your not for her and that you shouldn't have done so much for her. Don't waste your time you can find a girl that appreciates your efforts.For now, I don't think you should give up now. BUT, you should cut down on your activities that revolves around her. What do i mean. Don't fetch her TOO often. And if so, dine out. Don't just fetch her home blindly. Talk. Get to know more about her. Any intelligent conversation between the 2 of you? Or just pure labor works?
(fetch her home after work. Fuck, there isnt even any orgasm.) It's all up to you, good luck.
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Originally posted by Lorry`:
I think you did too much, imo.
If I were you, I wouldn't do so much (plus I know she has some interest in me). I wouldn't fetch her home every day. Maybe twice a week. And I don't just fetch her home, I'll bring her to some places - to dine or relax. We need to have some communication you see. I'm not a chauffeur and don't wanna be one.
Yes, you know she is kind of into you. But how much do you 2 know about each other? Did you 2 sit down and have a chat? Perhaps she might have interest in your physical appearance only, but what about the inside? (your character) Probably after your 'courting' (the vday experience), she might think you lack of some substance (good, yes, in a way that you drive her home after her work, but then you might not be entertaining enough). I don't know.Anyway, fret not. For her question part, (wat would u do if you didn`t get anything back from me after u have done so much ?) :
1. She could be testing you. Are you the type of guy who retreats after being rejected? Are you good to her only during the courting stage? How much patience do you have? Are you the type of guy who asks for something in return when you treat a girl good? How 'da fang' (generous or something) are you in handling rejection?
2. It's about guilty. She thinks your not for her and that you shouldn't have done so much for her. Don't waste your time you can find a girl that appreciates your efforts.For now, I don't think you should give up now. BUT, you should cut down on your activities that revolves around her. What do i mean. Don't fetch her TOO often. And if so, dine out. Don't just fetch her home blindly. Talk. Get to know more about her. Any intelligent conversation between the 2 of you? Or just pure labor works?
(fetch her home after work. Fuck, there isnt even any orgasm.)It's all up to you, good luck.
Thanks for all your replys .Anyway i hope she is testing me. But everytime when i fetch her home i would ask if she wants to go have dinner or something . She would always say no i dont wanna get fat and then there`ll be nothing else to do .
And we talk almost every night . During the first 2 weeks of knowing her we talked like for 3 hours every night . Then it started becoming lesser and now it`s like 5 mins of talking time . Cause for some reason she would call me at like 2.30am and say she is very tired then wat else can i say but , ok lor u go sleep first . Oh btw she is the one who always calls me. But i rather i call her cause i really hate waiting for her call.
One other problem is her sms replies are kina rubbish like. As in her reply is some times short . For example she would just reply a LOL ok ok . This kind of reply i rather she not reply is like she`s not even interested to reply me is like she`s just entertaining me but on the other hand she might be busy. But no matter how busy i`m i would still find a topic to reply her msg.
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soon, there will no reply to your sms.....
just let it go bro.. it's good that she already stopped you from spending more on her. if u did encounter a bad one, she would probably still be happily going out w/ u, enjoying free meals and brush u off when u talk abt her being ur gf. -
You never ask for money back guarantee?
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money is not really the thing .
i think i dont wanna give up is cause i`m really into her .
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Originally posted by Karma88:
money is not really the thing .
i think i dont wanna give up is cause i`m really into her .
spend on me lah. i need to change my car bodykit.
then i suggest u just be her friend for now... be nice and all.. maybe she'll change her mind and start to appreciate u in the future?
nw in her mind, she is only telling herself to watch herself when u around, dont give u the wrong signals and all.. -
if i was a robert like you, i will not show the girl my car or buy LV bag for her
will act poor and see whether she still likes me for myself or my $$
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Originally posted by Karma88:
alright here`s the problem .
One month ago i met this gal who was my friend`s friend . She was kina hot and all plus my friend told me she was kina interested in me .So i started chasing her . On v-day i bought her a bag which cost 250. And treated her to a meal 100+ . Plus i drop her a msg telling her how i feel towards her . She then told me she needed more time to me my gf. Ok so i decided to give her more time and i`m still chasing her . I would pick her up from work everyday even though it`s not on the way and i have go through erpS just to fetch her home we wont even go out and eat or watever i just go and fetch her home like a driver. Suddenly today she told me wat would u do if you didn`t get anything back from me after u have done so much ?
I totally went blank. So my question is do you guys out there think that i`ve done to much to give up now ? Or is that normal in chasing girls .
And if guys had such bad experience pls share it out so i can judge for myself and see if i`ve done too much.
Is this yr first time chase gal?
Gal like surprise and excitement. If she likes yr $250 bag, she just likes yr money and not the person u are. She maybe thinking u treat every gal the same. Buy expensive stuff when met initiately.
U are behaving too predictable, too easy to guess for the gal. Lack excitement.
I agree with what many people say. U needs communication with her. Not lavishly spending on her. U even got a car, solve the problem of transportation.
Bring her to some quality place where both of u can have a heart to heart talk. Quality places does not mean expensive place. U both no need always go for dinning. Just invite her for some drink at some quality places to chin out.